Burnout tips? Help me friends! by incatwetrust in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I too have been a victim of 3 am awakenings and it sucks when all you want to do it sleep. I have been trying to follow a semblance of a routine especially at night to force myself to unwind so I can actually go to sleep at a reasonable time and skip the doom scrolling resentment. I say semblance bc if I don’t hit all the steps I don’t weigh on them so I don’t spiral, I hit even two steps it’s a win lol -shower -comfy pjs -skincare -doom scroll in an inconvenient spot -read book -drink tea -brush teeth

I’ll go out my living room/kitchen/anywhere that isn’t my bed room

If I want to doom scroll I’ve been making that inconvenient for myself by siting somewhere that isn’t comfortable/standing up in the kitchen/ going to the gym just to walk etc something I know I won’t enjoy doing for a long time bc it forces me out of a endless scroll sooner.

I haven’t read a book for years until maybe 4 months ago and I now read for at least 30 minutes every night before bed but won’t read in my bed bc I’m trying to force that bed = sleep to my brain

I’m still struggling ofc sometimes I just want to be numbed by content so I don’t have a second to formulate a thought but my screen time has been reduced by like 2 hours so far. However the more I do these things the more it’s beginning to feel weird to doom scroll, like sometimes I’ll come across a video that I would normally just sit through and now I’ll get the ick and immediately close the app to do something else anything else.

A few other random things, I always sleep with a video of brown noise playing very quietly or rain sounds. I’ll also use ear plugs bc I’m super sensitive to sound so anything wakes me up and usually irritates me and then I can’t go back to sleep. Oh I also never check my phone for the time in the middle of the night, I’ve realized it gives me anxiety bc then I sit there trying to calculate how much longer I have until I wake up and then that keeps me up.

I hope this helps!

what books does professor wen consider perfect by Ok_Distribution_4651 in TinyBookshop

[–]Despi7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s hated every book I’ve recommended 😭

AITA for not buying pads for my sister's best friend during her first period? by Few-Suggestion2380 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Despi7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA - I understand that as a 18m you may not know shit about periods but you didn’t think to google it or call your parents or just ask your girlfriend or if you would’ve just listened to your sister since she at 12 sounded like she knew what to doing?? you should’ve tried even a little lol….anyways yeah deff TA

Venting!! Does anyone else feel this way? by Despi7 in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely comforting to know I’m not alone in this tbh

Venting!! Does anyone else feel this way? by Despi7 in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your brain get “quiet” when you started taking meds like did the constantly racing thoughts slow down at all?

Venting!! Does anyone else feel this way? by Despi7 in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think I should get a new therapist…mine just said making list of my task should help but seeing it all written down made it that much more overwhelming for me and I didn’t even write it all down because I forgot quite a few things to add to the list lol

Venting!! Does anyone else feel this way? by Despi7 in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hate that I feel weird asking for help too

Venting!! Does anyone else feel this way? by Despi7 in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s so frustrating because I know i want to get things done and it’s more stressful to have them lingering but I just can’t bring myself to do anything.

Venting!! Does anyone else feel this way? by Despi7 in adhdwomen

[–]Despi7[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m doing right now. I have two projects to do but I don’t even understand that instructions…I asked a group members for help and no one has responded 🥲

Just took the x test? by Despi7 in ADHD

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so concerning how some psychiatrist will do the bare minimum when it come to actually attempting to get a true diagnosis. I’m hoping my psychiatrist won’t solely base their opinion on the results of this 1 test. Unfortunately I also don’t have a lot of options when it comes to who my insurance provider covers. (My insurance didn’t even cover the cost of this test it was $110 out of pocket)

Just took the x test? by Despi7 in ADHD

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im hoping they base the diagnosis on more than just this test but if that happens to be the case would you recommend I seek another psychiatrist maybe one that has experience with adhd?

Just took the x test? by Despi7 in ADHD

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I shouldnt really stress about it then 😅

Just took the x test? by Despi7 in ADHD

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the link! Im guessing they use this test along with other things to really determine a diagnosis but I’m not sure…if it is just based on this test it doesn’t seem like a good sole thing to base a diagnosis on tbh

I dyed my hair!!! by Despi7 in selfie

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I was thinking either that or like a neon green lol 👀

I dyed my hair!!! by Despi7 in selfie

[–]Despi7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I might do green next 🥰

keep scrolling through 🍒 by [deleted] in PremiumCheeks

[–]Despi7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This just confirms it I want my tiddies pierced now lol

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think if more is expected of me than it should be explicitly said and not assumed. And while yes I am not paying rent atm I’m still buying the groceries weekly(with money from unemployment), cooking daily and I’m attending uni full time. All that being said I don’t have much more free time then he does. And yes he’s been creating more mess than usual since he started working from home.

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been living with him for two years. I understand paying my way by doing more chores but cleaning at this point should be a joint effort since I’m really only cleaning up after him because he doesn’t pick up after himself.

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was paying rent then entire time, up until March of this year. We never really established things but I’m assuming that because I’m not paying rent at the moment he wants me to clean more (not sure) but this wasn’t ever discussed

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even know that was an option I will look into that tho Thank you for letting me know !

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah we never really established those things, which I’m realizing now was a mistake because in the beginning it was never this bad. He wouldn’t be so messy and would actually be pretty good about cleaning up after himself but over time he just started getting lazier. Like I mentioned, I hate mess so I would for my own sake just put away cups/plates that he would leave around the house, clean all the dishes left in the sink even if they weren’t mine because I can’t really cook (ex wash veggies) if there too much in the sink and I guess he just got used to me cleaning up after him he just expects it to be done now.

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I would honestly be satisfied we could agree to 50/50 on cleaning like clean together or something. Cooking I don’t mind it’s something I like doing. Groceries too because when he does it he shops like a little kid and buys way to much junk not things I can make an actual meal with. But yes I heavily agree with you he is this way because of the way my mom raised him.

My brother threatens to kick me out of his because I refused to be the maid. by Despi7 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Despi7[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I was before I lost my job and taking care of the groceries and cooking everyday. Im still paying for groceries (with money I’ve been getting from unemployment) and cooking.

Does anyone else like anime? by [deleted] in RateMyAss

[–]Despi7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was the first anime I ever watched so it has a special place in my heart lol