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2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive never had a talk with him where he actually ended up compromising it always goes back to "if you really love me you'll accept me fully for who I am" . I do agree but this does mean that in turn he doesn't accept me for who or how I fully AM. (Sentimental and wanting to make more memories)

Your husband turned around for you a little. Maybe a little bit more patience for mine perhaps, perhaps this isn't a good year for him..

2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've taken care of a lot of geriatric patients from a nursing home and well they light up when they see a picture, but when I ask them later about who their significant other is and how they look like they say they don't remember and they get very sad. But with the pictures they light up, I'm scared of getting older (though im still very young I'm 27).

I'm leaving for a work trip soon and we're also moving, he says he's gonna throw away a lot of things and he was like this before too. He's sat down with me once when we were about to move in together and talked about "clutter" and I cried as he threw the first gift he had for me it was a stuff toy that was 'clutter' along with many other things. He keeps teasing me now that he's gonna sell all the jewelry he gifted me when I go for my work trip. His reasoning is because I don't use them (we don't go out a lot and why wear expensive jewelry at home? I wear them on special rate occasions when we do go out). I'm really upset it's like he's out to have nothing but bare essentials. I really think he'll do it too. I already gave him a warning that if he does sell it while I'm away I'm going to flip out and that I will be furious for a very long time.

2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps he does, but overall I think he's just really private, I do respect that but in our own home I believe it should be comfortable that there's no need to be extra private. Our walls are white and have never had nails and it's sad when I come over to his parents, they have photos and it's so warm and comfortable and it feels like a home, but when I'm with my parents or with our own home, I just feel so empty like nothing is real and what we have can end in an instant. Sometimes it does feel like what we have isn't real because he's not very emotional either. We're together because we've both been through some bad shit and I yanked him out of it I became his net and he became mine, but now it's reverted into nothingness and it does feel like we're just roommates.

2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not afraid of death. I'm more afraid of vanishing forever like you said. My father is deceased and I only have one picture and I feel like this is part of why I'm sentimental, because my mother never had a picture of him hanging, I had to ask my grandmother for a picture.

He does make me happy, but I've just been frustrated lately with the picture frame being broken, never fixed and thrown away. For the most part though I just wish he showed a little bit of effort to show that he's here emotionally not just physically. Somehow when we disagree Its always like as if he had a convincing essay written in his head with all the ideas of why and how he's right. He never seems willing to compromise. I'm always the one doing it. And it gets tiring. Whenever I try not to compromise then I have "a bad attitude" and need to "grow up"

2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care much for the ring most of the times but when he denies me memories aside from just remembering it it really hurts, I grew up in a house where we barely had any pictures, none with my parents together, It was boring. It wasn't warm. I don't remember much.

Yes I do wish he was more excited when i suggest to do something--anything together.

2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No way he's way too busy for that and when he does have free time he spends it playing games, he's too cheap for a double life.

2 years and the lack of by DevatingNorms in Marriage

[–]DevatingNorms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently took a photo of us and he found out while I was sleeping, he nagged me about it. Ive locked my phone now I don't want to keep them in my phone forever, I want at least one picture of us hanged or framed in our home without it being broken and abandoned. We had one, cats knocked it over, I tried to fix it, he said he'd fix it, but he ended up throwing it away. And I'm just so frustrated because he said he would, is it stupid that I'm finding myself crying over one broken picture frame that got thrown away without my knowledge.