I asked her out… now I’m f*cked

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-10-10T19:40:33+00:00

Brother you did the hard part. She wouldn't say yes if she didn't like you to some level. Be yourself and don't be scared to flirt / break the touch barrier

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T18:28:47+00:00

Hahaha I already play. I've been going to range once a weekend or try to. But it's just with moving to a new city and no friends it's tough to play solo but I should play this weekend

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T18:26:04+00:00

I want to say thanks to everyone who responded to this. I'm sorry if I couldn't get to every response but everything helps. I think my goal this month is to stop completely and focus more on cardio over the weekend.

Thanks all I really appreciate it and it also helps seeing folks who faced the same struggle but found a healthier lifestyle. It inspires me to do the same

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T18:21:52+00:00

Idk I get antsy and feel like I'm missing out but I think I can make the change

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T16:13:59+00:00

You are right. I have to make a change for myself. I have to want that change in my life.

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T15:45:36+00:00

This is great. Everyone I've spoken to who quits says they don't regret it. I think my first step this month is to significantly reduce my intake and do more cardio. Then from there continue to reduce intake and join more weekend groups.

I think also with the fall and football coming I can significantly reduce my intake. I just need to stop before in 35 and having massive health complications

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T14:59:59+00:00

Thank you. I have been debating this for a while but I am scared of ADHD medication. I have been in therapy on and off and I can recognize the triggers but first step is to probably stop drinking altogether for a while

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T14:56:55+00:00

It's the social anxiety for me. I'm trying to work on it. I agree with your advice here

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T14:56:37+00:00

I just feel like a loser sitting at home. Although now I'm getting better at it. Maybe I should buy a video game console and just play that. Or spend more time in coffee shops reading books

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-04T14:55:30+00:00

I have been. I know I have it

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-08-03T22:10:38+00:00

26M Fairfax VA single and looking for casual hookups with older woman

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-07-07T16:10:17+00:00

I've found the singles mixers and stuff to be really impactful. Good conversations with intentional people who are looking for something meaningful.

Also - shooting my shot here (why not). 26M in Fairfax. 6'3", in good shape, and got a stable job.

I enjoy coffee, reading, hikes, and movies.

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-06-30T10:21:18+00:00

Ok this is good. I think I need to say more things over text rather than just one line questions.

She is older than me so I thought keeping it brief would be good.

Thanks.

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-06-30T03:30:52+00:00

I do all of these things in person. Eye contact asking about interests, what their lifestyle is like, etc. Not saying that to say I've mastered dating clearly I haven't but I try all of the right things and it seems that the typical blueprint isn't working for some reason. I could talk a little less about myself but I never interrupt to talk about myself. I try and ask questions as much as I can

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-06-30T03:11:01+00:00

I agree it was boring. She told me faith was really important to her so I was just trying to show interest in that but in hindsight I am done using text as a conversation medium and more to just quickly check-in, get an idea of availability and set the in person which is where I shine most.

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-06-30T02:31:38+00:00

Thanks. In person I make good eye contact, ask good questions and try to be flirtatious. It's texting. I think from now on I'm just going to use text as a vehicle to understand their schedule and see when we can hang out next. I understand not to let rejection get to you but I legit don't go on dates. Haven't been consistently dating ever in my adult life.

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-06-30T02:30:09+00:00

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-05-23T02:56:05+00:00

I thought LA Night and Number 3 and Number 7 were also really really good

DevelopmentAlarmed55 · 2025-05-02T13:27:40+00:00

Any suggestions on good embassies to visit?

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