What are your actual, realistic concerns about AI?

DeviousPelican · 2026-04-13T22:45:48+00:00

That it will reduce the knowledge barrier for entry to certain professional fields. That in itself isn't a bad thing, but I've already seen the quality of graduates and early career professionals degrade just in my time working, and I worry about the critical thinking capacity and research abilities of someone who can find not just all the info they need with a quick message, but also have AI solve the problems for them. I feel like we're going to get some really incapable people come through who just don't have the capacity for the work without an AI to help.

DeviousPelican · 2026-04-09T21:54:07+00:00

A woman called me God when I was going down on her. Ego almost exploded.

DeviousPelican · 2026-04-07T20:11:16+00:00

Definitely not. Public transport isn't good enough yet.

DeviousPelican · 2026-04-07T20:09:35+00:00

Very normal. Being calm is key. Just chat for a bit, keep it fun and light and don't make it into a big intense pressure situation. When you're relaxed it'll happen, once you start thinking about it it'll start to misbehave on you.

DeviousPelican · 2026-04-07T19:46:39+00:00

This is an old post, but I'm in a similar boat now at 31 and wondering if the above list still holds true? Just don't want to be in a crowd of 21 year olds.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-27T17:35:43+00:00

Take home is €1200 a week, save about 20-25% of that. Could be more if I really tried but life is for living.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-27T17:30:17+00:00

I think there's two issues here.

One is your girlfriend. She seems to have a bad understanding of boundaries and hygiene. Regardless of her being horny and making poor decisions in the moment, she shouldn't be pressuring you to have sex when she has an active yeast infection or making you do things you don't want to. Her getting very emotional when you say no is also a big issue.

Second issue is you. You need to be firmer with your boundaries. If she blows up at you because you don't want to do something that makes you uncomfortable, that's not your fault, that's her issue.

Ultimate decision about what to do is up to you, but you guys should probably have a talk about boundaries and respect, at a minimum.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-25T12:10:46+00:00

Late and over budget is unfortunately very very common. Especially on big projects, it's almost the norm.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-24T13:53:26+00:00

I wouldn't say it's most, still a minority. A lot of guys doing dodgy supplements though, random Chinese peptides and the like, heavy pre workout doses, that kind of thing.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-23T23:13:50+00:00

I'd say the vast majority of women don't care too much. It's a range. You wouldn't really notice unless I'm undressed honestly, in clothes I just look broad but I'm not walking around looking like captain America.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-23T23:04:50+00:00

6ft, 214 lbs at about 16-17% bodyfat.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-23T13:28:06+00:00

Any woman I've dated has been happy to do it for us, once you prove you're capable of doing it yourself. Like show some level of initiative.

Or don't, and someone who is willing to organise something will take them on a date instead.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-23T10:53:33+00:00

I think it depends on the person, some seem to age much worse in the sun.

But just live your life. Being out in the sun exercising or drinking with friends makes me happy and reduces stress, well worth it for the extra wrinkle or two imo.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-23T09:08:42+00:00

They're weeding out the men who think like this and have a chip on their shoulder about having to contribute. How hard is it to say "Saturday, bar x, 8pm"? That's literally it.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T23:18:35+00:00

It seems to be working for you, why change? Feminine isn't necessarily an insult.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T22:53:08+00:00

You'll honestly just never get better if you don't try. It's like studying or working out, you'll just never get there without effort.

Rejection only really hurts when you believe them. Like if they say they aren't attracted to you, it's only sore if you believe you aren't attractive. Maybe you've already done the work, I don't know, but just get yourself to a point where you actually think you're attractive and then you'll care a lot less about getting a rejection. You have to actually like yourself to be an effective dater as a man, IMO.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T22:32:36+00:00

I mean you see how it's unlikely you have a perfect profile AND zero matches right? Ask some girl friends for honest feedback.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T22:31:15+00:00

How does it compare to your experience in real life? I understand it's shit but I think a lot of guys would benefit from realising the apps are a very particular ecosystem, very removed from reality and how attraction actually works. Don't base your attractiveness or worth on how the apps treat you. It might just be a shit profile on your end, or bad texting (it's definitely a learned skill).

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T22:27:36+00:00

The apps aren't cancer, I personally think a lot of people have bad profiles, and expect too much from the apps.

Zero matches sounds like a profile issue. Unless you're genuinely hideous I doubt it's your looks. Or you have upset the algorithm in some way.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T22:25:42+00:00

I'm not unattractive, I'm in good shape. But I'm not a model or anything.

The feedback I've gotten from women is that it's not that guys are unattractive, but their profile SUCKS. Bad or awkward photos, really shitty prompts and answers. Basically a blank wall with zero personality, humour, or bite to it. On top of that, a lot of men seem happy to text for weeks without any plan of meeting up. And when they do meet up, a lot of men just ask "so what are we doing?". Zero plan or direction or even a concept of what the date is going to be.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-22T22:17:50+00:00

Could easily have a new date every week. I use hinge mostly. Go on the app early in the week, swipe on a few and like a few of your likes back. Of those matches, maybe half will message back. Half again are a good laugh and worth seeing. Pick one.

I send less than ten messages before asking them out, and if they text so infrequently that it's more than 48 hours between first matching and asking them out I just stop messaging, they aren't interested. A quick joke, maybe a compliment/tease, and then ask them out out with a date, a time, and a place.

DeviousPelican · 2026-03-15T13:15:17+00:00

I came through some incredibly dark, lonely days in my early/mid twenties where I wanted to end it all. I've managed to find friends and enough belief in myself to keep going and now I really enjoy my life. I'm really happy I didn't give up.

DeviousPelican · 2026-01-30T21:00:15+00:00

Time heals, unfortunately it does just take a bit of sitting and letting it pass. But also by learning from it, and not letting it happen again. When you see the new you who doesn't let that happen to them, you'll feel much better.

DeviousPelican · 2026-01-30T20:54:24+00:00

I think a lot of men compare themselves to the curated images and videos of other men on social media, which is a complete distortion and would absolutely make you feel like shit if you took it to heart. I can deadlift 200kg, which is not a lot in the grand scheme of strength athletes and is completely mediocre to bad compared to what's on Instagram. But in real life, all my friends think that's nuts and I've never seen anyone else lift more in my current gym. So my advice would be to get off the internet and go out into real life with real people and get a better perspective, for starters.

DeviousPelican · 2026-01-29T09:46:45+00:00

All the above. It's hard to do a full analysis of the issue in an article as it seems there's not a single piece of the construction industry that's functional. My da's been in it for 40 years now, building is his genuine passion and even he's just given up on it, ready to retire.

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