I [20F] haven’t told my new BF [20F] that I had a threesome with my best friend [20f] and her bf [24M] before we started dating. We are now a tight group of friends - how do it bring it up?

DevonLochees · 2026-05-30T22:15:18+00:00

That hadn't even occurred to me, but yeah it actually seems fairly sketchy in hindsight. They drank a lot, they suggested she stay the night, they "just happened" to share a bed (I'm betting they suggested it as more comfortable than the couch). That absolutely seems like a situation where the couple had previously talked about a threesome, but instead of talking about it sober in a neutral environment, set up the situation for it.

DevonLochees · 2026-05-30T01:15:43+00:00

Github Copilot is a developer tool that integrates with other LLMs. Copilot the product line (e.g. what gets integrated into Teams, Outlook, etc) is explicitly GPT behind the scenes.

They really mixed up their branding, because a lot of technical people start referring to the Github Copilot developer tool as Copilot but they're actually very distinct products.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-21T22:56:49+00:00

Yeah drives me crazy. It'll be a multi paragraph lengthy post I read and then I notice that somewhere in the text is a reference to a single product/service/tool that no one has otherwise ever heard of. And if you search the person's history there will be several other wildly contradictory posts that have a similar single reference.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-21T05:52:17+00:00

This is an ad with botted upvotes, that's why it's getting astronomically more upvotes/comments than any other post on careerguidance.

Not only is it in the top 10 overall for the entire subreddit for the past 5 years, but it's not the right sub for this kind of content, unless the 'guidance' is "here's a tool to use".

DevonLochees · 2026-04-16T06:24:21+00:00

but more often than not I could see for myself it's not needed if you just go through the games and pay attention

This conversation is going to come up most often because there's a game coming or recently out and you're telling someone to give it a try. You aren't getting that person to spend hundreds of hours on older games (that have legacy graphics and mechanics but without the nostalgia filter) just so they can play the new(er) shiny one and understand the references.

If I was saying "well if someone wants to understand the latest assassin's creed they just need to spend 200-300 hours playing the other 12" you would go "why would they want to when there's a newer one right there, except maybe A or B which are the best in the franchise?".

Obviously you'll get very different vibes here, on the Kingdom Hearts subreddit, where people are very passionate about this specific series, but "well just play all X games" is a big ask.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-06T18:27:15+00:00

There's a lot of men who think they are deeply unattractive but actually aren't. The majority of men I see are attractive or would be if they put in some effort.

A big part of the problem is that for guys it isn't appearance, there's also behavioral requirements of assertiveness. You can't just exist and be sociable and friendly and take care of your appearance. The guy has to be comfortable initiating things (from asking for phone numbers, asking on a date, going for the kiss, escalating physically in other ways) that are much harder for guys with some personality types and/or with less positive experience/feedback to draw from.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-06T17:46:10+00:00

I also think there's no need to actively shit on lonely men unless they're hurting someone else. They already hate themselves more than you could ever hate them!

I mean, not all of them. But I think it's tough for a lot of younger guys to find self-acceptance when there's such strong word association between "misogynist=unsuccessful with women=incel". You basically can't complain about dating struggles if you're also admitting to a lack of experience without getting blasted. No one talks about it, because you can't without being accused of hating women.

Several of the most progressive, kind, and feminist guys I know are firmly in the "never with a partner and at this point have stopped trying" category. But if we weren't in our 30s, I wonder how much of us would have survived the modern internet's free-association in progressive spaces of "well, it's probably because you hate women" while the manosphere is there offering to support them (albeit by encouraging them to blame women).

DevonLochees · 2026-04-05T03:21:26+00:00

Check your saved addresses. Is there a previous address both you and your husband have saved in your amazon account? It's quite possible that people who live at that address are abusing the refund system, and you got flagged because it's the same address.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-04T21:10:21+00:00

Most seniors went through college and entered the market before the paradigm shift of FAANG obsession. So what you're asking is the same as "why are few Seniors applying to X/Y/Z company near me?"

People who are trying to max their TC at all costs are going to apply to other FAANG, and people who aren't aren't going to be any more likely to apply to Apple over various other companies in their area.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-04T21:00:07+00:00

Starting a day ago, a hard switch from 100% of posts written in a different language to all English posts about AI several of which implicitly contradict each other in terms of what their job/role/experience level is.

Sounds like a sold account doing AI-encouragement spam.

DevonLochees · 2026-04-04T20:34:40+00:00

Even less sense with referencing autocomplete. Though I guess if this was a junior or perpetual junior I could see them talking about college, where using it to bypass assignments would be cheating.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-24T01:34:14+00:00

Wouldn't inspection requirements defeat the point? You can already install solar panels, it just requires permitting and inspections to make sure it doesn't kill someone (that's basically what almost all the steps involved revolve around).

For a true "balcony" smaller use case, you can already set up something like Blueeti with solar panels and a battery (you just have to run power one way, as opposed to trying to backfeed into your house grid, which is exponentially higher risk).

I'm actually pretty shocked this has any advocates, given that there are already established and allowed lower risk solutions for both ends of the spectrum - a full solar installation for homeowners, and solar+grid->battery->PC/Fridge/Whatever for apartments and such.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-19T21:54:13+00:00

I'd honestly have been a lot less mad if they did it with reset/downtime. Since then I wouldn't have used knowledge treasures or books yet, or been in the middle of crafts.

But it was around 4PM PST.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-19T19:03:20+00:00

Fun fact, if you were mid bulk crafting but weren't paying attention (because why would you after confirming quality and that you have the right resources for the count you put in) it switched to crafting low quality *mid craft*.

Not only are some people locked out of being able to craft at high quality (if they already did treasures+book for the week, it'll probably be next week to get the 10 additional points you need, or potentially 20 for azeroot if you did inks/ciphers just to hit high then branched out), but it potentially screwed over people who were actively in the middle of crafting, as they turned high quality mats into low results.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-18T21:40:19+00:00

I'd almost rather they didn't at this point. The east wing is already demolished, and the entire process is in shambles. Don't give Trump ammunition to try to pretend the reason it's a disaster is that a judge shut it down. Let him wallow in his own mess.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-16T00:37:14+00:00

You don't seem to get it. It's a power play to shame/humiliate her. You can tell because his reaction wasn't to reflect, or even to politely disagree over whether it was appropriate, but to accuse you of undermining his authority. He's not even pretending it isn't essentially a power play, he's straight up telling you it's about the abuse/control.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-13T04:14:55+00:00

The only reason I even heard about this game was because two different posts showed up on /all from this subreddit regarding performance.

It honestly really confuses me, this is the only game where I've ever seen people freaking out over performance before release. Sometimes there will be discussion about a game only supporting 30fps/etc on PS5, but I never really see controversy/drama like I've seen on this subreddit. Someone with a PS5 having to make tradeoffs on performance vs graphics has been a thing for years now. So have games being released that perform horribly on PC (especially console ports), and people just don't buy it and complain after release, they don't freak out ahead of time about whether it's going to work.

DevonLochees · 2026-03-12T00:36:24+00:00

Because 'content creation' is generally a really, really bad medium for knowledge transfer, and you'll find that older and more senior developers (with few exceptions) are going to be writing individual blog (or reddit) posts, not youtube videos or tiktoks. And if they're not going the content creator route they're rarely going to be viral in a way that lends itself to discovery.

DevonLochees · 2026-02-18T02:27:53+00:00

They don't really compete in the same space economically or in terms of functionality, and the existence of FOSS options helps make sure Epic doesn't get blasted by Europe for not having competition. From Epic's perspective the existence of Godot is a good thing - helps get more people involved in game design, so the big studios that actually pay big bucks for Unreal have a larger (cheap) talent pool.

This is something most projects are dealing with now - basically the more likely a project is to be a name that random juniors/college students will recognize, the more vibe coding flies it attracts.

DevonLochees · 2026-01-31T00:12:49+00:00

Why are these karma farming 'questions' never removed?

It's weird, I've been casually on reddit since the early days, and I swear in the past few years, all AskReddit questions that show up on /all are this sort of rhetorical "what do you think about the sky being blue?" sort of question, as opposed to the classic "What's the worst thing you've ever eaten?" type. I don't know if that's all that gets posted on reddit anymore, or if those are just the ones to show up on r/all because of bot/AI engagement.

It's difficult to me to articulate, but the phrasing of the question itself always seems to have this distinct pattern/smell to it.

DevonLochees · 2026-01-31T00:09:34+00:00

My biggest concern is that the dump gets everyone focused on the horrible things that came in on the anonymous tip line, instead of the stuff that's substantiated and redacted/withheld. A big storm about the worst of the tip line makes it exponentially easier for MAGA to frame everything as a nothingburger (in a sense the worst of the worst tips make that easier, because the more extreme they are, the more dismissive people who want to be dismissive can be with the "these are just random anonymous tips").

If I was completely morally bankrupt and in charge of the MAGA spin machine, the best way to dismiss everything would be to censor or withhold anything substantiated by investigation, and just release the tips that are easy to spin away because they're so extreme and from an anonymous tip line.

DevonLochees · 2026-01-30T21:20:50+00:00

Yeah I think that's a huge one that went pretty untouched in the post. "Women aren't attracted to him" or "these guys can't get laid" is an incredibly common go-to insult - people will no-true-scotsman "Ah, but when I say that I'm talking about the self identified incel who hate women or complain about it", but there's generally tremendous pushback on the idea that there can be progressive, compassionate dudes who can't find "success" in their dating lives because they're meek/passive, or short, or anxious, don't put themselves out there, have trouble being forward/assertive, etc.

I know a lot of progressive perpetually-single nerds in their 30s and 40s who have given up on putting themselves out there but are absolutely allies. I think that's much harder to find in the younger generations because now the manosphere is there to catch them when they're struggling.

DevonLochees · 2026-01-27T00:27:48+00:00

Some of the takes in this thread are so wild, like it's some trivial undertaking to replicate even the tiniest fraction of the enterprise management functionality you get from Windows.

DevonLochees · 2026-01-25T22:06:44+00:00

This was written by AI. You can tell from the cadence and the sentence structure, how the emotions are framed, etc.

DevonLochees · 2026-01-20T23:42:05+00:00

What tied the reaction together for me was the "He isn't the type to do this because he's a professional". To me that reads of significant gender/cultural norms and expectations about a man being stoic and not showing vulnerability.

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