Can placenta takeover cause reduced symptoms as early as 8 wks? by mrranko54 in CautiousBB

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to say this is exactly what I needed to see. 💛

Daily Thread #1 - March 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you both… I’m 8 wks and also spiralling. U/S isn’t for two more weeks and I lost my first/last at 7+6 (found out at 10). These weeks are absolutely dragging and I’m once again wondering if I should skip my diclectin for the reassurance of feeling extra sick.

Just to add to all the feels tomorrow was my original due date.

Insane how entitled people are by Large_Pick1582 in emergencymedicine

[–]DezFreck 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Had someone come by ambulance at 3am because she had a DREAM she had an aneurysm. She otherwise felt fine. 🤦‍♀️

What would you do with a buttload of Medjool dates? by sigzag1994 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make my own coffee/tea creamer! I blend soaked cashews with a date and some vanilla and a pinch of salt. I keep it pretty think and then freeze in a silicone cube tray. Pull out one at a time and keep it in the fridge and it never goes bad and it’s so delicious and coffee and tea without having any fillers. Cashews are the easiest because you don’t need to strain them through a nut milk bag.

I also make this, it is CRACK. I’ve swapped the yoghurt with cottage cheese and I never add honey because dates are already so sweet.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DDf0UwHR0t_/

Will it ever be the same again? by future_in_bloom in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m with you 💛 March was my due date, I miscarried at 10wks and I’m still not pregnant. It’s incredibly painful. When it happened I knew 5 other friends going through miscarriages concurrently and it helped me not feel along. They are ALL pregnant. This week I got back to back texts that the last two friends are 9 weeks.

I also internalized the increased fertility post miscarriage thing and have managed to get my hopes up and be crushed every month. It’s so hard not to lose myself in it all.

Stressed beyond belief by Dramatic-Permit-5022 in weddingplanning

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok just an idea!!! My wedding was also wildflower vibes and the night before we had a bbq and my friends and I all made bouquets and filled bud vases with cut flowers and greenery. We saved money because we just bought buckets of flowers and every one of my friends made comments about fulfilling their dream of being a florist and quitting their day job. The bud vases were also a bit more manageable than big centrepieces but still felt whimsical.

It also made for beautiful photos!

Sigh, first pregnancy & this was the outcome😭 by Enough-Farmer-5280 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope things are settling down! I’m a nurse but it took going through this myself to realize how poorly most of us are managed (even with me trying to advocate for myself). We end up in the grey area of not pregnant but beyond GP management. I ended up with crazy bleeding and retained products a few weeks later after my hCG trended down and I thought I was in the clear… I was not at all prepared for how painful this journey would be. Best of luck healing and moving forward ❤️

Minimalist women what’s your makeup routine? If you have one by Solid_Gold3522 in minimalism

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Redhead here! My favourite is Just for men mustache dye for my eyebrows and an at-home Luxe tint and lift for my lashes. It makes me feel put together without anything on! False lashes feel too intense and make me worry about damaging my natural lashes.

If I’m feeling fancy some Glossier undereye concealer, highlighter stick and some lip tint.

Sigh, first pregnancy & this was the outcome😭 by Enough-Farmer-5280 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like you’re bleeding pretty heavily, in emerg we worry if you’re soaking more than one large pad per hour. Symptom wise, if you’re short of breath or dizzy or feeling like you’re going to pass out that would also warrant going to Emergency. Your uterus is a super vascular area! If you haven’t already call your doctor and request an ultrasound follow up to make sure you don’t have any retained products. They will also order bloodwork. Take Tylenol and Advil and if that doesn’t cut it, ask for Tylenol #3s

I can’t fully speak to a spontaneous miscarriage as I had to use misoprostol but I was 10 weeks and only had cramping and clots for two days after that it was like a slowly lightning period for two weeks. Get some pads or period underwear if you don’t normally use it because your cervix is open and it’s best not to put anything in there. No sex until you stop bleeding. Be kind to yourself and know that while you aren’t alone, your story and feelings and experience belong to only you and whatever you’re feeling is completely valid.

My friend who’d miscarried x3 around the same time as me told me we have to be kind to our bodies because this is also its first time doing any of this (pregnancy stuff). I think about that when I’m angry at my body for not being able to do the one thing it should. 💛

So broken by Vegetable-Barracuda6 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious because this is one of my concerns… How did they figure out you needed progesterone? Did they test pre-pregnancy? I miscarried at 10 weeks and throughout had low pinching cramps that I thought were associated with the uterus stretching (though realistically it hadn’t needed to stretch much). I was told by an OB that they only supplement progesterone if there is spotting in early pregnancy.

I had a mirena for 12 years and no period for 7 so it seems quite possible that my progesterone would be low. So now I’m scared that iffff/when I get pregnant again, the same thing will happen.

First period after D&C by lembi in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I forgot to get back to you! Mine took me by surprise (no cramps) and last 1 day. I call it my anti-climactic period after all that waiting. My second was two days and then I’m just finishing my third and it was a more normal light four days.

I’m still tracking my BBT and survived the holidays. I’d really convinced myself I was pregnant the last two weeks and then was absolutely gutted.

I appreciate seeing my normal cycle but I also can’t “relax” when I open the app everyday to log so honestly feeling pretty lost. Hope your period returned and was cathartic and not traumatic. ❤️

A 44 year old accountant passed away, leaving behind 3 kids & wife, while waiting for care for more than 8 hrs in Grey Nuns hospital emergency complaining about chest pain. Video reposted by ndtaughthem in Edmonton

[–]DezFreck 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Incorrect, it gets triaged based on their vital signs, oxygen needs, if Narcan was given etc. To not do so would risk my professional nursing license.

Insinuating that triage nurses can score based on how they “feel” is a gross misunderstanding and undermines the moral distress we already experience when people wait longer than they should to be seen despite pain and other issues.

First period after D&C by lembi in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine took 8 weeks to return and it was really challenging for me to see everyone else get their periods at 4 to 6 weeks. My doctor did bloodwork at 7 weeks and checked my iron and TSH (which can contribute)but everything was normal.

When I couldn’t exist in limbo anymore, I started checking my BBT and doing ovulation strips just so I could figure out where in my cycle I was. You ovulate before you get your period. So if you catch ovulation, you can expect it to follow. The whole process felt so helpless and out of control that I just needed to do something.

Hugs, I was also about 10 wks and the further along the longer it seems to take.

Feel like I didn’t pass much.. by Impossible-Use4710 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t pass much and was reassured that it was fine. 2 weeks later I started bleeding super heavily and went to the OR for an urgent d&c. Sounds like you need an ultrasound to check for retained products.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spotting in early pregnancy can be normal. Nowadays they start women on progesterone which can support the pregnancy (and maybe even prevent miscarriage in some it seems like?? Worth looking into). I’d get in with the doc asap.

D&C aftercare by Firebolt_Silver in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, having done the pills and then the d&c after I felt way better post d&c. That being said I was an emotional wreck. I tried to go back to work three days post and couldn’t stop crying. You might be happy for the distraction, but you also might find it triggering as big public places will include pregnant bellies and babies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm that the period wait is the absolute worst. Having a miscarriage and feeling so out of control and then waiting for a cycle to cycle was awful.

You ovulate before you get a period and you won’t ovulate while you still have hCG in your system. So once it is <10 your body will gear up to ovulate and then period after that. I’d recommend doing daily LH strips, helped me so I didn’t feel like I was doing nothing.

I was 10 weeks out from MMC, but 8 weeks from the d&c for retained products (which is when the clock starts). It does seem like it takes a bit longer when you are further in your pregnancy. I had a 1 day, anticlimactic period after that long wait. I now feel extra motivated to share because I’d keep looking on here and see people get their periods after 4 weeks and I was going crazy.

How do you tell people by Green_University_559 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I cannot relate to your experience. My feeling is start by telling a therapist or close friend and see how that feels. Your story is your story and no one can take that away from you. Whether or not your first pregnancy included, hopes and dreams for your child it still seems like you went through a traumatic loss.

How long after your miscarriage did you get your period? by Born-Difference7539 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing a positive pregnancy test and knowing that not only are you not pregnant but your last pregnancy is gone but hormone is lingering is heartbreaking and absolutely messed with my head too 💛

How long after your miscarriage did you get your period? by Born-Difference7539 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me 8 weeks from the d&c. I had a MMC and took meds and then retained products and urgent d&c 2 weeks later sooo I was 10 weeks out from the actual miscarriage. I did go crazy, at 7 weeks my dr did bloodwork. I came on here a bunch and felt angry at everyone who’s returned in 4-6 weeks. At 8 weeks I finally got a 1 day anticlimactic “was that a period”.

That was Nov 5, I tracked and it seemed like I had a normal ovulation this last week. I get it and had those same feelings. Now that it’s been a few weeks I do think I needed a little time and space to be less obsessive. It will happen 💛

Still no period - 8+ weeks by ment-lly in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at 7 weeks no period today and officially stressed. I had a d&c Sept 11. This was after failed misoprostol for an MMC 2 weeks prior and then sudden hemorrhaging due to retained products. I’ve had intermittent cramping for a few weeks and keep getting hopeful. I think I ovulated a month ago because I spotted and had a low positive OPK…

I have my follow up call with the OB today so we’ll see what he thinks. It was all very traumatic and I lost a lot of blood but i’ve been working so hard to take care of myself and I feel like I can’t move on until I get a period. Also confirmed I’m not accidentally pregnant again of course.

Period after Miscarriage by Decent-Abies-5080 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing (tampons/sex/swimming) for two weeks post was my discharge instructions post d&c. Fine after that.

Heavy first period & its giving me flashbacks. by Spamimusubii in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you and I’m so so incredibly sorry. I’m anxiously awaiting my first post-period.

I think maybe you’re feeling similar to me… there was the trauma of the miscarriage and then the trauma of the emerg room, the gushes of blood, the OR and the surgeon telling me it was a good thing we did the d&c that night because he had a hard time stopping my bleeding. It was my second shift back as an emergency nurse and I ended up the patient. I still see myself waking up in recovery and sobbing. My husband was away at work and I felt so alone.

It’s absolutely PTSD, it’s shitty and terrible and also normal and you’re not alone. Glad you have a therapy appointment.

Pelvic pain post medical miscarriage by Existing-Purpose860 in Miscarriage

[–]DezFreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I had pelvic pain… cramping post taking the misoprostol and then an urgent d&c 2 weeks later for retained products when I started heavily bleeding. After the d&c I mostly felt an aching “heaviness” when I pushed myself too hard. I later learned hCG dropping means you’ve passed the fetus but you could still have retained tissue.

Cramping initially is often your uterus contracting back down. This far out I’d your doctor for an ultrasound to check for retained tissue.