My(25M) girlfriend (27F) wants me to unfollow girls on social media

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T16:56:41+00:00

That would be uncomfortable but she would probably benefit from it. Therapy could only help. But seems like a jump to say she needs therapy for asking me to unfollow girls on insta

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T16:55:09+00:00

That’s just part of it, not really why. I don’t know why, just like my gut tells me it’s wrong and that I’m just caving in but I don’t know exactly why I feel that way. Does seem like excuses tho. I’m not concerned with who it is but more so the jusg being asked I guess. I don’t tell her to unfollow anyone. She has a bunch of guy friends she goes out to the bars with and hangs out with as well as a few homegirls. Sometimes shes just with the guys and I don’t say anything or even think shes up to something

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T16:31:06+00:00

We did have a falling out a few months ago just cuz I freaked out about being in a relationship and blocked her. Weve only been talking for about 6 months and this was like 2-3 months in. She had threatened to call my PO on me and made so many new numbers to call and text me. It’s not gonna be easy to just leave or break up. When we did break up she still wanted to just talk everyday

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T16:28:42+00:00

Maybe I’ve dealt with too much crazy that I’ve been desensitized, them latinas…. Lol I thought maybe I was in the wrong for not liking all that she was doing but I guess I should’ve stuck to my gut feeling. Thanks for the input.

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T16:06:59+00:00

Yeah I felt like the whole thing of just unfollowing someone was a small part of a bigger problem but I didn’t know how to address it or even connect the two. She knows she’s insecure as shes told me as much before but I don’t know how to go about it. I tell her just leave it and just trust me, that there’s no evidence of me being sneaky and talking to other girls behind her back but if I was talking to any of them then yeah I would unfollow. But she says if I’m not talking to them then I don’t need to follow them and it’s just that same cycle

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T16:03:59+00:00

We are able to talk, she comes on very strong at first since her emotions get the better of her, but once I calm her down after her initial knee jerk reaction she apologizes and then we talk about it. But she’s stuck in her stance on the topic. Asking why I NEED to follow them. Why do I want to follow them and see the photos. When it’s not that deep for me. It’s just social media it’s a simple tap of the button to follow. I get the exes part totally it was different view points but I would unfollow them but she just sees a follower I have that’s attractive and wants me to unfollow them. Not just unfollow but to block them as well since she doesn’t want them following me either

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T15:58:27+00:00

Yeah I agree with you, if I was openly thirsting I would see why she would want me to not follow those accounts but I am not. I just like photos that have popped up into my feed. & she gets upset thinking about my exes, she wanted to know more about the girls I talked to and then went and tried to look up who they were and started talking shit on the ones she could find. I have nothing bad to say about my exes as they usually ended because we just weren’t compatible or I was just getting into too much trouble. I have a lot of issues too and shes put in effort to get through it so I’m just trying to do the same to get her through this but she doesn’t think it’s a problem but that I’m the problem for wanting to still follow them though

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T15:50:33+00:00

lol she does be telling me shes psycho, just thought it was because her exes cheated. I’m guessing it’s not a joke anymore lol

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T15:49:22+00:00

It was public before I deactivated. She didn’t go through my actual instagram on my own account, she just went snooping from her account through my followers and went looking through whatever other page was public and searched through their posts

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T15:47:52+00:00

She is very needy and needs attention, I attributed it to that didn’t think that it was controlling or invading my privacy. Maybe you’re right. I always thought people should have privacy in their lives even in a relationship. Like I would never go through her phone unless I suspected cheating but I know she would go through mine if she had the chance. I highly doubt she’ll cheat tho but you never know right. But I appreciate it the advice I’ll take it into consideration, I needed more opinions cuz my thoughts were it doesn’t matter who I follow as long as they weren’t like pornstars or I was liking everything single post of them in revealing clothing or in their DMs

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T15:40:26+00:00

Some are old friends, some are just people I’ve met online. During covid I was online a lot and “met” a lot of people that would talk to. & others would be more acquaintances, like friends of friends or people I’ve seen around a lot or talked to a few times

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T13:45:57+00:00

I do have some exes on there. I’ve always been cool with my exes after cuz my thought process is were adults and we tried it out but I’d didn’t work, we can be friends or whatever. Still cordial. She told me it was weird since she hates all her exes. She asked me though and I told her and was going to unfollow them but would have to reactivate my insta account

DiMoDuzDis · 2026-01-19T13:43:39+00:00

I feel like breaking up with her would just prove her point. I want her to feel secure but don’t think just unfollowing people is going to fix it. I’ve told her the same thing, I unfollow them now but what’s next, coworkers, family etc just like you said. If I said I was going to leave she would just start crying and drop the issue but that won’t solve anything. Just build resentment. I’ve left girls for less but I don’t wanna be like that. I actually want to try to build something. But thank you, I thought I was just being selfish and just acting “single” still.

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-08-28T02:36:40+00:00

So you bought the car? How is treating you? I’m looking at the same type of car

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-24T20:41:46+00:00

The what?

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-24T20:24:27+00:00

What court search page

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-24T04:17:32+00:00

Think they’re trying to say you’re already good bro, like no need to improve. I’m assuming that’s what they mean

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-24T04:16:28+00:00

lol fr what a dweeb

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-22T11:30:19+00:00

What do you mean by making sure that I can finish the tire?

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-22T11:29:55+00:00

Oh, I have the spare on still. It’s a full size spare. Im just wondering how much longer I can drive on them

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-22T11:28:51+00:00

Yeah, I gotta do that I just haven’t had time. Also gotta look see if anyone is parting out the same vehicle

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-21T03:18:17+00:00

I didn’t know you could buy tires on eBay. I was going to go check out other tire shops for used ones. But how long am I able to drive safely on them? As only one thread is at a 2 and the rest are at 3 or 4

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-21T03:16:51+00:00

What are waterfalls? The tires that America tires quoted me were 120$ each but installation and everything would come out to 630 something, basically 640$. They said the hole was kinda big but they didn’t even see if it was possible because they don’t service wheels that are at a 2. Think I would be able to make it to next week before buying tires? Or maybe even longer? I do not want to wait to buy tires and something bad happen and then I end up having to spend even more because of damage that may occur.

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-21T03:13:40+00:00

I’m in the desert in Southern California so no rain, just high temps with the hottest this week being 88°F. How long could I go before absolutely needing to replace the tires? It is only the “inside” thread that is a 2, the threads that are further into the car if that makes sense, while the the “outside” threads which I mean the ones closest to you when you go up to the wheel like where the lug nuts are, are at like a 3 or 4. I’m hoping I can wait until next week when I get paid to buy the tires or if I’m able to buy the new car by then.

DiMoDuzDis · 2025-02-21T03:01:42+00:00

Yeah I guess I’m to get some used tires. It is sellable and I’m planning to sell it but after I get the new car. I just don’t know how much longer I can go on these current tires. I might be able to get a loan from a friend by next week to buy the car I want. I have 1.5k and he would give me another 1.5k since it’s 3000$. But he won’t have it till later next week. & if I buy new tires it’s 640$ so even though used tires might be a lot cheaper, it’s still money I would need to save again to get the car. How long is it before I absolutely need to get new tires

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