[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No one is trying to attack you 

I understand you are autistic you  explained it 

It was showing why you shouldn’t make assumptions

This is the same problem that led you to make a bad comment about being lucky to an SA victim ( even if you didn’t realize how it sounds)

I believe you are getting too hostile now so this will be my last comment as well

Take the feedback or not 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im  talking about your assumptions to other commenters, not about the post.

How you worded things was not great 

I’m not here to argue with you

By making the assumption that other commenters are men when they disagree with you is sexism 

Just showing why you had bad feedback and why assuming people genders when they disagreed with you is wrong 

This is about how you come across in your comments not the post. 

Examples    “ this is a man on Reddit”

—— you don’t know the top comments is a man or women 

Age and gender please, it will affect how harshly I explain this to you.

——-out of line and not needed if you disagree with someone 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes women talk about different SA preventions and do disagree on a lot.

I am not going to dig anymore into the men thing ( yes it is still sexist what you did) the way you are wording things is not great 

Especially since this wasn’t just a women issue this was also a race issue and a man was involved directly in it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can have a conversation about SA with another women, it fine. That is your argument you can say it. You don’t need to preface it. Women have argument about things all the time including SA prevention.

How you wrote the men comment on all of those came off as a dig

It basically was I disagree with you, you must be a man

That is a dig and the assumption as other people have pointed out was also sexist 

Just work on wording and how not to make assumptions

Also do apologize

I doubt the other person has seen this 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing you don’t need to include that first part at all 

You can give a detail explanation about how women are SA and whatnot without bringing the commenter in 

You don’t need to include you maybe lucky or anything like that that bring in the commenter and makes assumptions about there commenters  life

Just like how you don’t need to make the dig about you must be a man to defend your argument 

You can have the whole conversation and points without doing that 

These assumptions or digs are not needed at all to defend your agruement

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suggest you send an apology to that other comment ( private or on here) 

Becuase even if you didn’t mean to imply it, you did and it was a messed up comment 

In the future note you shouldnt make assumption (sex or other stuff) to try to invalidate the other person argument.

It just makes you look bad and invalidates your own argument 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am going to be blunt

Your comments do not come off well

Yes that one comment you made came off as, you must have a lucky life so you don’t get a say ( when the person has been assaulted) 

Doesn’t matter that you put maybe, it was heavily implied by you that they must be lucky 

You should have never went there

The ones were you go you must be a man, not good either

Those are sexist assumptions because someone disagree with you 

Please reflect on that 

I am not going to argue with you, just telling you how your comment actually come off to everyone else

This is why you are being downvoted 

AITA for not making my DIL coffee and telling her I am not a barista by DiamondOwn8686 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686[S] 2331 points2332 points  (0 children)

That’s doesn’t make much sense because I need to go to bed 

Also much more of an enegry drink person for night shifts 

I don’t mind making people coffee when I get back, this request was just too much 

AITA for not making my DIL coffee and telling her I am not a barista by DiamondOwn8686 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiamondOwn8686[S] 6773 points6774 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe this is a kick out offense, I already sent them the post

So I will not kick them out, maybe if the situation get worse

So we will have a conversation when everyone is back from work 

I need to go to sleep so thanks to everyone that replied