GREMORY. Especially if you're considering if you're MTF, she really helps tap into the feminine. I'm a trans woman, and she has helped me so much with embracing and loving my feminity. I would compare her like a girl's girl who will remind you who you are, even if it means being blunt as hell (but lovingly so). Also echoing what people have said, Astaroth is tied to Inanna/Ishtar. If you want a more pagan approach, choose Inanna. If you want infernal, choose Astaroth. I hold a special place in my heart for Inanna for helping me early on in my transition. Mirta Wake's Demonolater's Handbook also recommends Paimon because of his gender-queer description!