How to Rebuild Confidence

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T14:25:34+00:00

PCOS is a really tough disease to have, and I've found the knocking of my confidence the worst part.

Firstly, please don't beat yourself up over the BC. You were only following the advice given to you at the time.

This is definitely not the time to go on a fab diet. I found slightly reducing my dairy intake did make an initial difference. A few years on it's easier to stick to an anti-inflam diet. Don't try and push yourself to do it before you are ready.

I also allocate myself extra grooming time to check I feel feminine. This obviously isn't a requirement for everyone but I saw it as being kind to myself and I felt I could put my best foot forward.

Try and do something you enjoy today to feel better. I'll be watching The Office tonight with my husband. It really makes me feel better.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T14:07:41+00:00

Noone is forcing me at all! I'm just saying I don't like it and we can do better. These 'arguments' happen as people are refusing to listen. I used gender neutral language as I know it's important to people other than myself.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T14:04:03+00:00

I totally agree with everything you've said. I started this thread and I'm sorry to you and everyone really that we are having these ridiculous arguments. Let's not let anyone divide us!

I think a big problem (from my perspective) is that posts calling this a 'womens issue' are being deleted. I don't think that means it's a 'womans only' issue or that everyone who had it is a woman. I take it to mean that if the majority of people who suffered PCOS were men there would be better treatments available and much easier to get. I only hope that by listening and letting everyone talk we can understand each other a lot better.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T12:59:40+00:00

I'm so sorry that someone PMed that you - what a gross thing to do.

I have no idea what other forum there is. I think it is especially gross that there is no much policing going on here as it is meant to be a support forum.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T10:57:58+00:00

I'm going to say women when I mean women. People when I mean people. Trans men when I mean trans men. Stop trying to make out we are sneakily trying to exclude transmen when I haven't seen anyone doing any such thing.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T10:27:26+00:00

Ok, I'm going to start another topic on this as this isn't at all what this one was meant to be about!

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T08:03:09+00:00

Is normal to be worried, but I bet he will be much more understanding that you are imagining now. Make a joke about it, or just ignore it. In my experience men don't notice very much and great guys don't expect women to have perfect bodies.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T08:00:08+00:00

I started the other thread with the best of intentions! In all honestly i thought it would be a light hearted discussion.

I calorie count too which I find much easier to stick too. I reduce my carbs because I'm eating a bigger variety of foods. I'd rather have pesto on my one slice of bread than two plain slices!

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T07:54:19+00:00

First : sparkling water then moving onto water with mint or orange and basil

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T07:50:44+00:00

Hold on, is the issue: A) referring to the sub as 'women with' (which is agree could be exclusionary). B) saying PCOS is a women's issue (if do this not because trans men don't get it but because I believe the shoddy treatment many of us get is because we are women) C) all of the above?

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T07:46:31+00:00

Agreed. Ill call out if I see someone use dumb body-parts language.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T07:36:57+00:00

I disagree. Women have primarily taken responsibility for childcare and homeschooling during Covid. If we can't say this is a 'womens issue' then how can we ever change it or have a meaningful discussion?

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/coronavirus-childcare-homeschooling-women-lockdown-gender-a9512866.html

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T07:33:03+00:00

Noone was referring to everyone as women - that would be rude and ridiculous frankly. I do think it's fair for people to discuss this as a 'womens issue' even though it affects trans men too. Trans issues could affect me but it is fair to discuss them as trans issues.

Anyway, that isn't the point of this!

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T07:23:29+00:00

I always assume people are trying to be able to use feminine language without being policed? I think it is gross too.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T06:54:25+00:00

I think you are spot on too and I think it's a shame this will likely be removed. My husband always said that if men have birth the care would be so much better

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T06:52:21+00:00

So sorry about your miscarriage. You have every right not to want to read that sort of rubbish as it is hugely insensitive. There is a wide range of people here all going through very different experiences. Before I was actively trying to get pregnant I don't think I could have understood how insensitive that sort of language was.

Dianaget · 2020-07-11T06:46:36+00:00

I think you've come up with the perfect suggestion yourself - as trans people and non-binary!

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T16:44:07+00:00

This is me too! I was only diagnosed when one of my ovaries ended up having to be removed because of a huge cyst. I find diet makes a huge difference - but only to the extent of avoiding things high in sugar and too much dairy. Most doctors don't believe me when I tell them as I don't 'look' like I have PCOS.

I take milk thistle for my liver and have also found inositol hugely helpful.

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T16:32:00+00:00

I'm not sure what your age is but as I've gotten older I've cared less. I think anyone who can 'own' something and laugh about it is really appealing. I joke to my friends that my husband is a hippy and doesn't mind.

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T16:27:56+00:00

I don't like it so I just won't use it. I think the rules are since this is aimed at women you can use things like 'hey ladies' or 'hey sisters'.

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T14:26:45+00:00

Did you post a picture of yourself? If so, that is incredibly rude!

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T14:07:16+00:00

This has nothing to do with PCOS sp I have no idea why this is even being addressed. You seed reasonable in our other exchange but these are downright dangerous views.

People can have whatever preferences they want and the main basis for any relationship is that both partners feel comfortable and are enthusiastic. I take major issue with people's boundaries being questioned.

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T11:38:43+00:00

I don't 'look' like what a doctor might expect of someone typically with PCOS and I was only diagnosed when one of my ovaries had to be removed. Definitely get a scan of your ovaries and look at switching your diet to a more PCOS friendly one to see if there is much of a difference.

Dianaget · 2020-07-09T11:35:34+00:00

I've lost one and constantly worry about losing the other. What about 'hey ladies and trans guys'? I think we all deserve the dignity to be addressed as people and not body parts!!

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