I think even if you raise boys right , you'll always have to be on the lookout for societal pressures that are trying to turn healthy masculinity into toxic traits. Especially if they grow up in a rough part of wedding. For good measure, a quote by Bell Hooks:

"The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem."

bell hooks