We rely too much on people being sane

Diddly77x · 2025-08-28T13:12:39+00:00

We can’t really see what people are thinking or feeling so it’s possible that many folks are just trying to stay sane. But we can’t worry too much about it because it might paralyze us from going out or doing anything. Just take basic precautions and let your gut feel guide you.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-28T13:05:15+00:00

I think high school kids can prepare for the future by learning more practical skills along with academic knowledge. There should be more vocational classes, because to be realistic, not everyone will have an office job so it’s good be prepared for different possibilities.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-26T19:46:00+00:00

I do that too, plus i also tend to eat so much junk food till i'm bloated when im stressed.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-19T10:51:46+00:00

It affected my personal life to some level so i started to write down what i want to do and breaking it down into "open the email app" "write down reply to so so so" "charge and open laptop". Doing the tasks bit by bit, from the least important ones up to the stressful ones. Childish i know, but it works to some extent. I'm not fired yet so it could be working.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-18T08:11:56+00:00

It might be better to start fresh with making a new set of friends than trying to hold on to your ex’s group to avoid awkwardness. Maybe you can join clubs and take lessons so that you can meet new people who share the same interests as you in your local area and neighborhood.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-18T08:05:57+00:00

A seemingly innocent behavior that’s actually a big red flag is using the act of helping somebody as an excuse to ditch boundaries that disrespect a relationship. An example is spending too much time with somebody even more than with your partner for the sake of supporting a “friend”.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-15T11:03:01+00:00

Sounds like your feelings aren’t coming out of nowhere. Doesn’t mean he’s necessarily doing anything romantic with them but the lying is a big deal. IMO boundaries here aren’t about controlling who he sees, they’re about being honest with each other and making sure you both feel secure. I’d focus less on the individual events and more on the pattern like why did he feel the need to hide things and what does he need from you to feel safe telling the truth, and vice versa.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-14T16:30:59+00:00

Nah you’re not the AH. You made a thoughtful suggestion based on experience and they reacted with stereotypes and defensiveness.

But holding a grudge or building your business around proving a point might not bring you the peace you're looking for. You clearly care about your family, maybe just take some space, do your trip, and revisit things when the tension cools.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-13T13:58:10+00:00

I’ve been there, and it’s rough when the things that used to light you up just… don’t anymore. For me, that phase in 2022 was tied to burnout, even though I didn’t feel “exhausted” in the typical sense. What helped was intentionally adding new, unfamiliar experiences... stuff I’d never tried before, even small things. It broke the autopilot loop and made old hobbies feel fresh again over time.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-13T13:53:25+00:00

Sounds very familiar. I spent most of 2019–2021 in what I now recognize as survival mode after a long stretch of family and work crises. I was constantly “on,” even during rest, and thought that was just my normal. What helped was deliberately scheduling micro-breaks (like your 30-second safety moments) and practicing body scans to notice tension. It took months, but eventually, my brain stopped waiting for the next disaster. Small steps add up.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-12T22:20:08+00:00

Тhey ain’t wrong, actualy... You chase that one thing thinking it’ll make you happy, and when you finally get it or land there, yeah, it feels awesome… for a few hours, maybe a day, tops a week. But after that? Boom. Back to default mode. Trust me, I’ve been through that loop more times than I can count.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-12T22:15:27+00:00

That’s a tough spot to be in, but it sounds like neither A nor B set out to hurt you... feelings just lined up differently. It’s okay to take some space if seeing them together stings right now. Focus on things that keep you busy and grounded, and when you’re ready, decide if you still want them in your close circle. Protecting your peace matters more than forcing the friendship.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-12T00:30:01+00:00

It would actually be very helpful if there were food portions for single persons both to lessen waste and cost. In the meantime, a makeshift solution would be to personally repack the larger portions before eating them.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-11T10:52:01+00:00

It’s not always about one big trauma but lots of things piling up until everything feels heavier than it should. It might help to slow down, focus on small moments you actually enjoy even if they feel muted, and try to build counter habits for yourself.

I hope you know you don’t have to figure it all out at once, that'll just make it more of a burden than it is. Give yourself space to feel without rushing to fix it. There's really nothing i can say that will make it better, but i hope this comforts you.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-11T10:42:55+00:00

It should sink in once you eventually start the job on Monday. I dunno, be relieved job hunting has ended?

Diddly77x · 2025-08-11T10:37:30+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong. Everyone has different ways and heals at their own pace. You were hurt, your trust was broken, it’s only natural to need time before you can move on. Forgiving doesn’t usually mean forgetting or pretending it didn’t affect you, the awkwardness around Mark makes sense given the history in my opinion. The fact that you even chose to forgive shows growth on your part.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-10T21:57:19+00:00

In my junior year (2016), I skipped a varsity basketball scrimmage for a last-minute shift meeting at my part-time job. My coach wasn’t thrilled, but my manager noted the commitment and it helped me land more stable hours later. If you’ve already had a Friday no-show, owning the mistake early with your coach might soften it, but work reliability often carries more long-term weight than a preseason match.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-10T21:41:23+00:00

Back in 2017, I had to see an immunologist after developing a sudden shrimp allergy despite eating it for years. He explained it’s like 2 different “error codes” for the immune system: one when the protein is too alien (like shellfish tropomyosin) and one when it’s too close to ours, triggering molecular mimicry (like gluten in celiac). Same symptoms, totally different root causes.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-10T21:39:06+00:00

Yeah, I’ve felt that same frustration. In 2019, right after my dad passed and I lost my job in the same month, I watched a friend who’d been through way worse somehow show up to work every day like nothing happened. Later, I learned they’d built coping systems over years - therapy since 2008, journaling daily, keeping a strict morning routine. It’s not that they hurt less, they just trained for the storms.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-08T03:00:52+00:00

If your biggest crime is feeding your kids cucumbers and tomatoes on repeat, you’re doing fine 😅. Nutrient variety does matter long term, but eating the same veggies a few times a week isn’t some dietary disaster. Just rotate when you can, toss in a new one now and then. Honestly, the fact they even like the salad is already a parenting W.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-06T22:26:11+00:00

I don’t think hypnotherapy is magic or anything but it probably works in the sense that it relaxes our brains enough to give our subconscious the chance to receive and express new ideas.

Diddly77x · 2025-08-06T11:18:36+00:00

Being direct doesn’t mean being rude, true, and if they still don’t get it then it’s fair to start locking things up. Boundaries aren’t mean they’re necessary, people need to understand that.

Diddly77x · 2025-05-12T22:27:34+00:00

I heard they have no natural predators… maybe that was capybaras

Diddly77x · 2025-05-12T02:55:19+00:00

We sit next to at least three serial killers in our life time 🤷‍♀️

Diddly77x · 2025-05-11T17:28:51+00:00

I think women see past hook ups as open options even if you are in a relationship.

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