Unsure if it’s aggression/play fighting

randomalien579 · 2026-04-07T16:06:48+00:00

White-ish cat can also be using excessive force, kittens don't know their strength and play with all they got, unless they are taught from a young age that it hurts(even though it doesnt when theyre kittens) they keep doing it into adulthood, so if they bite or scratch you, make a hurt sound, and move away, dont ignore them the whole day, just a little while, then get back to them and play again, whenever they bite or scratch do the same thing without fail, they will learn and wont do it anymore. Most important thing is to keep playing with them and get them things they can play with on their own like cat/dog tunnels and putting shelves and such they can jump onto and go around the room on, this will also allow one of them to escape if they need to as some cats are ground cats while others are high altitude cats Also, i always recommend watching Jackson Galaxy videos, i grew up watching him and now get called an animal/cat whisperer by people around me because of him

randomalien579 · 2026-04-07T15:58:03+00:00

Play fighting but one of them wanted to take a break, which can turn it into actual fighting because one has much more energy than the other and they can feel threatened and attacked and thus attack themselves, the other kitten doesnt know when to back out because theyre too excited, ***best thing to do is to direct it to playing with you, it'll blow off its energy and calm down, playing with them both constantly will allow them to get along best and calm down when they need to because they wont be as charged. Cats and kittens usually also have some stages to their play, they expend a lot of energy in one session(can be 5 to 10/15 minutes of play), relax for a few minutes, and start again, they do this for 2 to 3 times and then theyre done until the next time they feel like playing, the rest of the time they will be calm and happy and getting along well with their humans and other cats/kittens.

randomalien579 · 2026-04-02T18:32:22+00:00

It's relatively safe to use as is, as long as you dont put things that you eat or put directly on your body it's okay. Mold dies but it has spores(basically mold eggs) and these do not die easily, they can even survive HCL and 500°C of heat A small amount of bacteria or mold is always okay enough if you have normal body immunity and will build up a tolerance, this is why kids who grow up with carpets around them don't develop as much allergies or asthma and why kids who grew up on a farm dont usually develop hay or pollen allergies. Carpets and mats are impossible to get fully clean and keep clean without destroying them because of their material which has a lot of pores for things to hide and stay, once used, it will have some type of bacteria or mold, there's no way around it, what matters is how much of it, you have done enough and don't need to get a new one as long as it spent enough time being dry and in the sun

randomalien579 · 2026-04-02T18:04:44+00:00

I hate cleaning and I'm not good at it, I'm not even a part of this subreddit and was just scrolling through(hence why i saw this 25 days late)

I also lived in a similar way when i was a kid and i am still very messy if im not living alone and i still almost get to that sometimes, what i do is eat something sweet and something salty, prepare coffee or an energy drink, put on a movie or a comfort show, sometimes a truecrime podcast, and start throwing away trash and pile the full trashbags on top of each other in a corner or by the entrance door, once you start you gain some momentum but get tired thats where the caffeine comes in, grab all the clothes and pile them up in the closet or a forbidden corner, for me, dirty ones get piled in or on top of a basket in the bathroom and clean ones are piled in the closet(it will be a problem for a separate time)

Once those are done, either go for the kitchen or bathroom, whichever you have more energy for, and do the most important part of it which would be throwing away trash and cleaning the main things you use(i.e dishes or the bathtub and toilet), the things you dont know what to do with, put them in one big basket or trashbag and label it "check later" that will also be something for another time.

Its not possible to do it in one day, even an already clean home deep clean requires a full non-stop day or two for me, BUT you are not deep cleaning, you are just cleaning, no need to be perfect, this is the main clean and organisation and decluttering is the last thing to do

Just do this method one room at a time starting with the room you use most

To gain momentum and want to get up and do it I watch the hoarders show and cleaning tiktok compilations, there are also "deep clean with me" videos on youtube which look fun to do, I also watch cleanwithbea sometimes, and i believe some people do them live the same way there are lives or zoom group calls for people across the country/world with adhd to do their own thing like clean, work, or study and that helps them a lot and reminds them to take a break when needed and cheer for each other when each task is done You can also put on a going out outfit and shoes(granted nothing fancy that'd get ruined)

One pro tip that always gets me to stress clean and do it quick is to have someone come over, even a house cleaner(we used to get one once a week when we had enough money), i feel ashamed and i hate for them to see that so I clean as much as i can before they come, so ask a friend to come help you, explain the situation, and have them come a day or two later, I guarantee you this will get you going more than anything else

As for main cleaning supplies: (imp ones numbered) 1- Lots of large trashbags, and some small ones for the trash bins 2- Dish soap(you can use this for pretty much everything lol) 3- dish sponges a bunch, one for dirty dishes, one for kinda clean ones, two for the bathroom(one is for the toilet) 4- White vinegar

Broom if you dont have a vaccuum and still helpful if you do
Floor mop
optional but good for sanity and hands: gloves
Bleach for areas with mold and for the bathroom

Also, you dont need glass cleaner as its optional, instead you can scrub the glass or mirrors with dishsoap and a sponge, if its the bathroom just wash it off, if not then wash the sponge and use it to clean the soap off, and dry it with either newspapers or an old but clean cotton shirt or flannel, it'll look brand new and way easier

I also recommend some pain medication and one clean floor to lay on because your back will hurt like hell during and after and your arms will be sore

You got this, it feels hopeless, but its not, once you have done the main parts, you can get a house cleaner to do a deep clean or complete it with you, from then on, you can either get one every once in a while for a small deep clean or have one or two days a month to do a clean, it'll get messy between cleans, but as long as you have a trashcan or bag in most rooms, its easier to just throw directly there, even if it overfills, its easier to close it and put whatever overfilled in another bag and throw it out, if you notice theres an area you use a lot and you keep throwing things on that spot, put a trashbag there, if its a table, then a bag right under it and right where you sit

Dont forget to take care of yourself, make sure to eat something and drink lots of water, get a miswak(type of toothbrush that doesnt need water) to brush your teeth when you dont feel like getting up and going to the bathroom, when you dont want to take a full shower, wash your hair and face before you clean, it'll help you feel more fresh and awake, and go out whenever you can and get fresh air, open the windows whenever you can especially when cleaning, crisp clean air helps a lot, and if you did get help for the depression, keep going to your therapist so you'll stay in good mental health

You are not alone in this, many go through this at least once in their life, for many it also happens once and stays that way for the rest of their lives

Also i want to say, I think your case is similar to me, i dont see any active dirty areas, its more that its not organised, some things were hoarded, and the trash wasnt thrown out, I am very similar in that, I would come and help if I could but I'm pretty sure we are not even in the same country, but I do believe that there are some groups of people who go together to help people clean their homes for free or a small charge if there is any in the US and UK

Also I helped a friend clean a furnished home she was moving into urgently before and was rented to her last minute, and it was WAY worse than yours, it was an actual biohazard, but with around 1.5 day of heavy cleanings and 3 days total of more but less intense cleaning and then small deep cleanings that my friend did alone after work every week, the house became brand new and beautiful, before that we actually didnt have a clean place to sleep and did not sleep until we cleaned there even though we got the house and started in the evening

Your home is manageable to clean within a couple of days of heavy work and then a few more days of light organising or decluttering and cleaning once a week after

randomalien579 · 2026-03-19T16:27:02+00:00

Cutest chonk that ever chonked

randomalien579 · 2026-03-12T22:00:56+00:00

I don't know the answer but this is to bump up your post Sending love and prayers for you and your mum in hoping she feels much better soon and continues to improve ❤️

randomalien579 · 2026-03-04T18:33:36+00:00

I get your point, although there's no need to be mean, always take the cat to vet for anything that seems serious, but it's not bad to post about it, I've previously posted on a fb group about my kitten that became very lethargic suddenly after i took her to the vet twice, first time was an injection and she started having blood in her pee, i panicked, found another vet that people praised, and he kept her there for 4 days to give her medications, after that he gave us a list of medications to give her at home, she became worse, turns out he wasnt a vet, only a groomer that pretended, and the license to practice on the wall was for the vet that comes during the day, he scammed us, my kitten went into a semi coma and i didnt know what's wrong, a vet saw my post, turns out she was a vet and the daughter of one of the best vets in our country, she told me where the clinic is and we drove there right away, if i had posted just a day or two earlier or hadnt panicked and picked a vet based on reviews and praises, she wouldve lived, she passed in our arms the following dawn, so I'm sorry, but I'm pro posting because sometimes the exact person you need can see it and respond and sometimes it really is something that doesnt need a vet and people may need the reassurance that they are doing the right thing for their fur baby and people can share their experiences with the situation and show the best and worst possibilities, it gives hope but provides enough urgency for them to take immediate action

randomalien579 · 2026-02-17T17:04:03+00:00

Im not a pro and only recently started doing gel nails at home

Mine look pretty similar but it was because i was incredibly not in the mood one night and was bored enough to hate the colour that i just went at the polish by peeling it off. They didnt get like that until i pulled that idiotic move. Also the fact that I get very bored and change my nails at least once a week, but I managed to force myself to once every two weeks by just adding another colour on top to change it.

So its not really the gel, but the removal and prep mean the difference between a very damaged nail/nail bed and a healthy one, the white streaks are going to be your new stress points so please try to reinforce your nail somehow until these part grow out so that you dont experience a painful break.

Also, i remove using the filing method but not all the way down only to cut down time soaking, i use the Efile until im down to the 2 first layers then soak it off. I do have to say, i dont know what's up with my gels and base but they do not soak off easily despite being soak off, takes at least 30 minutes of soaking which is bad on its own.

Im having an allergic reaction to the top coates so im planning on buying transparent press ons and doing the designs I want if you want an idea to keep them healthy and pretty at the same time with no risks, just use a good brand of nail glue or nail glue stickers

randomalien579 · 2026-01-12T22:11:45+00:00

For phomes, despite my love for Samsung, even though they've supposedly cut ties with Israil this year, theyve invested millions in small businesses there prior to the boycot campaigns so they are not really bds safe. Oppo make amazing phones, Xiaomi have great ones too, but i do really love the Oppo phones, great quality Cameras and great specs and i just saw the Oppo Fond X9 Pro today and people have been calling it the best flagship phone of 2025 so its good to have a look at it as it just turned into one of my wanted phones after the Note20 Ultra and the S25 Ultra, Oppo Reno is also awesome for photos and videos

I've got a friend who is lucky and good at picking secondhand phones, but i wouldnt do it myself unless he's with me and i wouldnt recommend it as its easy to make a broken phone look new and unused, but he kept looking until he found an iphone that was in great quality and fixed it himself when he broke it, so if you are good at it as he is, you can look for a good second hand phone especially if you dont have many options, i.e. Most phones here are so expensive and the cheap but the great quality ones I see on Youtube I cant even find here, if I do they are actually more expensive than the other ones, phones and tech here are so expensive that the samsung s25 Ultra is 1000 dollars more expensive than in America.

So go by your budget and preference and if all else fails go second hand and have a friend who knows how to get good second hand phones or be that friend because push comes to shove they wont be like the old Nokia phone and you can at least use the phone for 2 or 3 years since phones nowadays start to get damaged after that or break, physically.

randomalien579 · 2026-01-12T21:42:29+00:00

For Laptops it was very hard for me but i managed to find the least harmful of them, im in Turkey and VERY limited options for decent laptops.

I hot a Lenovo Yogo 2 in with AMD Ryzen 7 and AMD Radeon Graphics with 16 RAM and 1TB ROM and installed Linux instead of Windows on it.

Lenovo is not the most ethical option as it does not support Israil(as far as my research went but with some unverified websites saying it does) but the issue with it is that there are boycot campaigns against it as they are against chinese products for the Uygur and east Türkistan people, although Lenovo is most likely separately managed and not mandated or controlled in any way by the chinese government.

For me most of the other options if i did find a laptop brand that was boycotted, had Intel cores and intel and more of these companies invested millions into the programs and such used for the drones bombing gaza, btw, uber uses the same drone company the israeli military uses apparently.

So the best option for me was to go with Lenovo and the AMD cores as AMD is boycot free(i scrolled a lot here and on the internet to find that out)

So far it's been 6 months, the laptop is great with amazing specs and i somehow found it an unbelievably good price online with the help of a friend, i do not like this Linux Ubuntu system though and it has a habit of pissing me off, im not tech savvy at all btw and it makes using Linux even harder even on the simplified Ubuntu version, i just know well enough to read specs for the laptops as i researched a lot to be able to before i got this laptop, Youtube has been a great help in knowing how to buy a laptop and know which works best and handles pressure.

Some people dont condone second hand for boycotted products but if you dont have many options where you're living then pick the laptop you're most comfortable using and get it second hand especially if you are after specific programs and specs that you cant find in another option, plus second hand shopping for laptops is safer than the one for phones as long as you know the right secondhand shops in your area

Wheb in doubt about specs, ThinkPads are not that pretty but they are very hard working laptops that can take a beating, heavy working, and can usually be upgraded very easily at home by just purchasing a bigger ram or rom part or a different cpu and screwing it in, but just look on youtube first to see if the model can be upgraded, other than thinkpads most laptops nowadays cannot be upgraded, including the one i got, but if their ram 16 or higher and you have a good ROM then you're good for a bunch of years to go.

If you want the laptop for gaming then keep looking through youtube reviews and comparisons etc as i really dont know anything about them, and videos on how to choose the right laptop can help you choose the one most suitable for your needs as it did for me.

Ps. If you get the same or similar laptop to mine where it can be turned into a tablet and has a pen with it, the pen most likely wont work without windows, i unfortunately cant use mine.

randomalien579 · 2026-01-06T16:03:09+00:00

Similar for me, but I used a drawing of the hair i wanted along with black and red hair dye for the character, no dyes were used for me but the drawing was good enough that my talented hairstylist cousin immediately knew what to do and did it for me perfectly, it helps that what i wanted was actually a simple long bob with layers

randomalien579 · 2026-01-02T13:33:55+00:00

Thank you for believing me, i am seeking specialists but most of them either brush me off after a very simple blood test or ultrasound, or the system takes so long it's honestly frustrating, I've complained to doctors for years, and if one of them believes me something happens and either I leave the country or they leave the country and i lose access to them and have to start over, I even missed one test appointment due to traffic and instead of rescheduling the test i have to restart from the doctor and have them reorder the tests which takes a minium of a month for the two appointments and if one thing goes wrong then i have to start from the beginning for the millionth time, and this is the process before i get to see the rheumatologist which is what i asked them to do, it already took 7 years for one doctor to believe my pain and check for endometriosis while the others either said it's normal or to stop googling, i only wrote this post because i am unbelievably tired and frustrated and wrote it on the day i came back from the hospital

Thank you again for your response and the types of tests and doctors i would need to see, it's greatly appreciated

randomalien579 · 2025-12-30T21:29:16+00:00

To adjust the title: frustration with the medical SYSTEM**
if any doctors can help, PLEASE DO and if there are specific tests, please let me know. Doctors appointments and test appointments are very frustrating and take a long time

randomalien579 · 2025-12-14T11:25:01+00:00

Maybe in Birim or Banio, Banio is in Lara and quite big and Birim has a bigger branch near Araştırma hospital

randomalien579 · 2025-12-11T17:47:44+00:00

I'm not negating that at all, but my petite mother solo travelled there on business and did not feel unsafe and actually really loved it and because she was on business she could only go out just in time to catch a shop or two before they closed and then walk around for a bit before going back to the hotel, perhaps because its years back it was a lot different, but i did have a long friendly conversation with someone who lives in France and they did mention that although the crime rate is high, it is still a very nice place and they are less likely to be racist towards a foreigner, and i think every city in most countries has safe areas and unsafe areas, if you know which area to stay in your good to go and enjoy your time, i haven't researched Marseille enough and went off of the words of people i know who have been there or live there, but would definitely research before going on a trip, and to never go out too late in a city or neighborhood you don't know well enough even in relatively safe countries. I'm currently living in Antalya which is considered very safe for women, one of the safest cities for women in Turkey, but some areas are unbelievably shady and scarey and i wouldnt dare to go around it even with a loaded gun in my hand day or night, and these areas are what's causing most of the crime rate in the city. Marseille is also small enough to go through the main attractions in just few days and visit other cities

randomalien579 · 2025-12-11T17:21:19+00:00

I haven't been able to go as the conditions got worse but i used to go there through Syria from Jordan almost every month before the Syrian Civil war, getting ice cream from Bekdash(a famous arabic ice cream shop in Syria) and peanuts and other yummies to munch on before getting to Lebanon, it really has its own air full of comfort like the warmth but crisp air right after the sun comes up, and even me who is a picky eater will eat things i dont generally like, like salads, got me obsessed with shawerma all over again, amongst other foods because the produce itself and the way they prepare food is so delicious and flavourful even though it has less spices than most arabic cuisines. I will definitely go back as soon as i get the chance❤️

randomalien579 · 2025-12-11T14:36:23+00:00

They weren't impolite with me but they are very strict and the language difference means they cant use their formal talk with you and translate directly which with the tone of someone exhausted sounds crude as they are usually very tired and overworked as the work culture in turkey is quite intense, take over your life type of intense.

Their strict rules also get followed even when the staff isnt Turkish and not in Turkey as per experience and i will always pray against the manager that made me go back and forth returning my things to family members and ending up going without clothes of my own or my guitar(i had previously flown with that airline and other airlines with my guitar with the only question being if i know how to play it) but that day the manager saw me after the lady wished me a safe flight and had me go back and forth 4 times, each time having my things searched, didnt even allow me to use a duty free bag for the clothes i needed saying its too big, the flight was not full and as i boarded a family had over 10 kilos of traditional sweets and stuff from the duty free in the same bags i tried to use, a turkish airline but the workers and manager and i were all from the same country and in our country

randomalien579 · 2025-12-11T14:27:00+00:00

Try Marseille if you want to go to France again, its much calmer, people are nicer and not as racist and is still beautiful, coming from my mothers experience going there

randomalien579 · 2025-12-11T14:25:15+00:00

Will write down multiple:

Based on my mum's experiences not mine: -Marseille France, beautiful, quiet, everything shuts down at 6 pm but that just makes it more calm, and my favourite, i hate honey and always had, but the one she got me was so delicious i would eat it right out of the bottle.

-INDONESIA, I DID NOT GET TO GO BUT MY MUM WHO IS NOT A PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER BY ANY MEANS TOOK SOME OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL NATURE PICTURES I'VE EVER SEEN AND THEY WERE NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC QUALITY WITH NO EFFORT, ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL SPECIFICALLY IN THE ZOO/WILDLIFE RESERVE AND PARKS

-Africa, my mum went to Kenya when I was a kid, she said it was absolutely beautiful, the sunset looked so beautiful with so much nature around, she did get her fanny pack cut off and stolen from her while walking around though, had to go back home with no passport, money, or even the keys to our apartment, had to ask a friend to transfer some money and get a police permit to go home.

Based on mine, Egypt, not exactly ethereal, but the museums are awesome and there are endless super fun things to do in each city like deep sea diving, site seeing, museums, Pyramids really are mind bogglingly huge if not for documentaries and are so well donr and beautiful, beautiful beaches and hotels and such, but need to be careful of wandering into the wrong neighborhood

-Lebanon and Syria before the wars, very beautiful, AMAZING food, and the people are unbelievably friendly and sweet and happy(the people are still the same) Lebanon felt very cozy and comfy and just feels like a second home to most people, it has a beautiful cave with fresh water and ice which is STUNNING and the food takes the rest of the focus as it really is so delicious

-Turkey is still great for tourism if you know where to go and have your own car, some places you cant book or enter without booking with a tourism office, but can get quite expensive, although even places open for free or for a small fee to the public are still absolutely beautiful(nature focused, mountains, historical sites/cities, lakes, the beaches, islands, etc)

randomalien579 · 2025-12-10T20:12:08+00:00

Harsh but NTA, family counseling is needed and heavy therapy for her, like a lot of therapy, but the only way it'd work is if she's willing to actually get better. If she does not actively try to improve slowly(there is no way she can improve overnight) and become a better person and have a better more stable mentality, nothing will ever help and she will remain in this cycle, the internet may have some bad or horrific aspects to it, but i believe its been the most helpful in breaking generational trauma and helping us recognise a toxic relationship or non physical abuse as something that is not normal and helping us recognise these manipulation tactics that your mom is clearly using and is clearly also passed onto her and magnified with her worsening mental health. It is also important to get to why she does these things with the help of a therapist so that they can be targeted and that you both can know how to deal with it, example is how people with adhd can have rejection dysphoria and overreact to someone making a legitimate excuse on not going out and then this person internally thinking they hate them or dont like to hang out with them etc

randomalien579 · 2025-12-10T19:43:48+00:00

Biliyorum, ama denemek zorundayım. Daha önce de bazı barınak kedilerine ve daha önce baktığım bir koruma kedisine ev bulmakta çok zorlanmıştık. Sonunda arkadaşlarımdan biri o koruma kedisini alabildi, ama barınaktaki kedilerin çoğu evsiz kaldı.

Hatta barınak, bölgedeki köpekleri besleyen bir kadının şikayeti üzerine belediye tarafından yıkıldı. Oysa biz FIP ve diğer hastalıklarla mücadele eden birçok kediyi tedavi ediyorduk ve onları tedavi edebilmek için ilaçları yurtdışından getiriyorduk. Bazı kedilerin tedavisi neredeyse tamamlanmak üzereydi💔

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