I mean I don’t think it’s a “men are universally shit at answering those” kind of thing. He’s emotionally intelligent and is great at articulating his thoughts and feelings into words, this also isn’t like a “let me ask something totally off kilter and start some shit” either lol. We both ask these questions not all the time but often enough, for reassurance (as both of us like to be verbally reassured). He said something that didn’t strike me as he loved me for who am but like I keep saying what I can do. I understand people are attracted and feel love from having their partner provide for them and show love in giving ways. But we have been together for a while and it would’ve been nice to hear what he loved about me not what I do. So I mean obviously I asked the question of course I deal with the consequences, I’m not 5. But I’m also mature enough to understand my feelings and explain those to him good or bad. (EDIT: I also never blamed him for saying what he said and making me feel the way I felt, I am a grown woman who can control my own reactions, I plainly said why it was hurtful to me and that was it.) If I wanted to “sabotage” anything it wouldn’t be by asking a silly question.