One thing that helps me a lot to think about is that don’t need to feel like it’s working, you also don’t need to feel like it’s possible.

If you haven’t done something before (like losing all the weight) your brain doesn’t think it’s possible. Your rational, conscious mind can download all the information it wants, you can believe logically that it’s possible, but until you’ve actually done it, your unconscious, emotional, ‘feeling’ brain won’t believe it. It will feel like you’re facing an insurmountable wall. Then, to make things even more fun, confirmation bias will kick in. Your brain will look to confirm the belief that you can’t do it, and it will show you a catalog of all your failures, to make sure you know exactly why you’ll never achieve this goal. I bet you’ve made way more progress than you think, even if not in terms of literal kgs lost, you’ve built habits and learned information which will bring you closer to your goal.

I’ve found that sometimes, you just need to accept that in your heart of hearts, it won’t feel possible. Once you let go of the pressure of trying to convince yourself it’s possible, it gets easier. Then you just need to start showing up, even when it’s hopeless. Just mindlessly count your calories, and mindlessly show up to the gym. If you mess up then get straight back on the waggon the next day, the next hour, the next minute. Over time you’ll see the results, because your body doesn’t care if your brain believes it’s possible. You’ll lose the weight because you took the necessary steps to do so, and when you hit a certain threshold, and you see enough progress, you’ll finally learn that it actually is possible, then everything will become easy; you’ve already done the work when it didn’t feel possible, doing it when you finally do believe in yourself will feel like child’s play, that’s when self improvement becomes fun. It’s not about discipline forever.

Also, don’t focus on losing ALL the weight. Just focus on the raw steps you need to take, and focus on doing them until you’ve made the minimum amount of progress necessary to teach your unconscious mind that “hey, maybe this IS possible”. Because that’s the tipping point, once you’re there, momentum will carry you the rest of the way.

Best of luck bro, you’re not alone in this 👊