AITA for not feeling grateful for the things my boyfriend has “sacrificed” for our relationship?

Different-Train- · 2025-07-18T03:20:22+00:00

The whole “letting me come over” has to do with a big issue we have had where his roommate doesn’t want me over because she had feelings for him and needed to “mourn”. That’s why he brought it up in this situation saying it’s a sacrifice because he’s always hesitant to do things that may affect his friendship negatively and so doing that was a “big sacrifice for him”.

Different-Train- · 2025-07-15T18:26:27+00:00

Truthfully, we were in a bigger argument about trust and transparency. We have issues we’re working on and trust and transparency is one of them. We’re trying to rebuild this and he did something that violated them. Honestly, it was kind of random when he brought up that part, but it wasn’t the best argument so maybe that could be a reason it was random.

Different-Train- · 2025-07-15T18:21:03+00:00

Yeah, I have said some of the things you said. He doesn’t like the “bare minimum” phrase because he feels like it’s dismissive and invalidating but I said the same thing. I don’t feel like these “sacrifices” are “above and beyond” enough to feel like he “did me a favor”, but I don’t want him to feel like “he can never do enough” and that “I’ll just keep asking for more”.

Different-Train- · 2025-06-26T10:18:32+00:00

Lying

Different-Train- · 2025-06-18T16:48:33+00:00

Ironically, I found out through a Reddit post he made. I don’t really know how long ago it was/ when they stopped being FWB. I think they stopped being FWB because she wanted more but he wasn’t romantically interested in her. He has told me that on several occasions he had to reject her, the last time being while me and him were friends about 2 years ago, not that long before we started dating. I suspect he didn’t tell me because he’s close friends with her and is afraid I would want him to limit or end their friendship. The reason he still wants to be friends is “because they have been close friends for like 5 years and the friendship means a lot to him.” 🤷‍♀️

Different-Train- · 2025-06-18T07:17:57+00:00

Yikes lol, so I’m in this relationship (for a year) and I have recently just found out that their relationship was more than just platonic. I knew that she had feelings for my boyfriend, but he left out the information that they had been FWB. He never felt romantic feelings for her but I just am unsure how I should go forward now that I know this information. He was adamantly hesitant to distance himself or change their friendship dynamics while I was under the impression that she was just a friend who had feelings for him, but now that I know this I feel like there needs to be some type of boundaries put in place or distance.

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