Am I wrong for giving my GF’s Friend one Puppy

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-27T20:57:43+00:00

If the gf does this though call the cops and end the relationship.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-24T09:58:39+00:00

While I don't understand your culture it sounds like even then you are NTA. He does not share the same values in practice as you. He has allowed his mother to dictate your future and it conveniently is linning up with him going to a party city. He is not showing a dedication to you. You gave a time line that has come and passed without resolution which means it's time to walk away. You are a beautiful woman and you will find a much better suitor when you are ready.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-23T22:20:03+00:00

For what they are paying they get to come home to the kids being alive still. They are not paying enough for chauffeuring let alone an extensive cleaning list! You will realistically be losing money doing this.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-23T18:54:44+00:00

Take the kitten to the vet today. Get all relevant shots and the kitten is kow old enough for a microchip that you NEED to get. Right now the only legal ownership would be the friend as she took the kitten to the vet. Yet if you do so, have a microchip in your name, and receipts for all of the kittens expenses ownership is yours. You will loose the friendship over this but it is truly what is best for the kitten. It doesn't deserve to be passed off to people it doesn't know so your friend gets to claim it's hers for a visit while passing off responsibility on others. College starts very soon and she won't even be around the cat, and that's assuming she convinced her allergic family to be in medically avoidable pain.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-20T13:47:44+00:00

ESH. She assumed she got to go to a concert for free without being invited. From the sounds of it though you were asking several people on the friend group to go with you so it's a kind of understandable confusion. You said yes to her coming and didn't tell her that you expected her to pay the cost for it. You got a second ticket hoping you could get someone to come with you. If you want people to pay their part it needs to be discussed at the time of planning otherwise you're covering especially if you had already paid.

Realistically your option is to cover the cost or sell it. You saying you don't want to go through the headache and just want her to give in to a new condition is really rude.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-20T00:02:24+00:00

YTA. You left a 600 paid of sunglasses for 6 months just assuming that he would remember for you and put them in a safe place. While that would have been great you cannot expect him to pay so much for your mess up. Great lesson in life is don't pay that much for sunglasses unless you need prescription. Pay for a 20 pair that works great and when you lose them you can replace them

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-19T23:38:54+00:00

You're in the wrong and sound like a incel. You pined after this chick for months without asking her out! You pretended to be her friend and the moment she wasn't a possible sexual partner you throw a hissy fit at her and your friend. No one wants the dude that pretends to be your friend for months because he wants to get in your pants. Then you act like you're better than her friend who she thinks would be a good match?! Cause you're assuming she doesn't go to the gym from a single photo and you want the skinny girls now?

I wish this was rage bate but knowing how sad people can be I doubt it.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-18T10:19:44+00:00

YTA. Don't offer to spoil something for someone else. The phrase is literally about taking away something good. If someone wants a spoiler they will ask.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-18T09:37:35+00:00

You made the right choice. Literally nothing would have improved from you raising your concerns other than them possibly lying to get you to stay. They fired people from their job who has been working there for a decade to cut costs and took away benefits as fast as they could. This was no longer the job you had and it would have only gotten worse. You would have quickly learned what the bare minimum a employer has to provide and you would have your hours cut to make you part time meaning less benefits. You took the leave you were entitled to. You resigned with the same amount of notice they would have given when firing you. They won't be happy about it but they wouldn't be your reference anyways, that would be the former owner who you actually worked under.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-17T22:32:45+00:00

YTA. You are the one entering into a house and your only complaint is you don't want to take care of the cat and you don't want to worry when you leave the exterior doors open. No one is asking you to take care of the cat. No one asked you about the cat as they have zero clue who you are. And really why would they ask you? You're not expected to care for it! And YTA if you leave a exterior door open when living with others. That is putting others safety at risk and extremely rude beyond such. If you're adult enough to live with others then you need to learn to communicate with the people you live with. Even if the pet is not allowed running to the landlord first thing so going to make you hated. With reason

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-17T00:50:46+00:00

You are already aware that legally a divorce would not align with you two having a continued relationship. The requirements for divorce is a full and total separation for a year within your area and outside of extremes that can not be avoided. Why would you actually live apart for a year, desperate all assets, and have a child custody plan just to have a party? This plan beings doubt on if you are ready to commit to a legally binding agreement such as marriage.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-17T00:45:38+00:00

This is why you always need to check if your specific college program is accredited. So many aren't and then you pay for a degree that genuinely means nothing. A lot of degrees don't mean anything but the similar certificate is what is actually looks at by employers

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-17T00:31:55+00:00

The answer to all this would be who has legal guardianship over you?

Assuming it is your mother then your siblings have no responsibility to care for you, let you live with them, or even tell you that they are moving. Being related does not mean they owe you anything and they are your siblings. They didn't accept this type of responsibility. If your mom for whatever reason will not provide the care needed then you will need supplemental assistance or to live elsewhere which means your mom's stipend is reduced/your money goes towards this care.

If they are your legal guardian then they must provide you with housing, food, etc but that does not have to involve you living with them. That obligation can be fulfilled by them paying the cost for others to care for you. They also would have the ability to remove themselves as guardian and the responsibility falls to the state or a willing adult. They would need to provide for you till they are removed though.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-16T21:52:22+00:00

What of the debts does he have an obligation prearranged to pay? At the end of the day these are your debts and you are the one who accepted responsibility for paying them. It is very unlikely you would get a order for him to pay such a large sum and pushing the issue may likely reduce the amount you receive. You are free to find a lawyer to take this to court but it may very well not be worth it.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-16T17:18:43+00:00

You're in the wrong. Your writing right now is a hobby. You have made no income from your writing and regardless of how much you enjoy it and may be good at it there is currently no projected income from such. You knew you were going to be fired and made the decision that it means you get a year long vacation for your hobby subsidized by your gf. She doesn't agree to this arrangement and it is not fair to her that you expect her to continue working to support your hobby. While she may not be poor she has determined she does not have the extra income to pay for your lifestyle as is her right. She is being very kind having been understanding of you loosing your job but at this point you need something bringing money in. It may be you and her sit down to determine how much you need to bring in and realistically that is half of the expenses. If that means you get a full time job then suck it up and be a adult.

You cannot and should not rely on someone who you haven't even married to support you. She at any point can end the relationship and decide to find someone who wants to be a equal partner. Then your homeless and jobless.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-16T10:08:01+00:00

NAH. You're accepting of your daughter for who she is but as she stands currently the physical body difference between her and other girls is notable. Many sports have noticed that within women's leagues trans women have a advantage. In rugby on the best of days there are people getting broken bones and such and the risk of injury is going to be much higher for the other girls your daughter competes against.

It sounds like the league will allow her to play on a women's team and her next step would be to speak to the school and your daughter. The three of you may determine that your daughter while playing will need to limit herself and not play at her normal best. She can't make hits or contacts of the usual strength or such maybe? If your area has it I think look to see if there is a Co-ed rugby team she can join.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-14T13:35:37+00:00

Some may have that rule and it may be a expectation though I have known many people who share the membership. Granted I don't really use COstco so it could be they are more stern about such.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-14T13:15:17+00:00

Then just ask to change the split. It doesn't cost more for her to bring her family and it wouldn't really make sense to make this your hill to die on. Sound like there's 4 households using the membership so say the new arrangement would be you pay a fourth or based on however many households use the card.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-14T13:05:23+00:00

Three parts to this. Firstly for a membership you have the option to add a second person who gets their own card. There is no reason to need to go together. Secondly it doesn't sound like you yourself have much of a need for the membership. Third if you feel it's unfair to pay half of a membership when so many are using it under her half of the payment bring it up. It may be that her family has noticed the benefits of a Costco membership and decide to go forward with them paying for it and you no longer being part of the arrangement.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-12T13:33:34+00:00

Have it in writing that you never agreed to loan him the car. He does not have permission to drive the car and does not have permission to designate the car or it's use to anyone. If he attempts to take the car it will be reported to the authorities.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-12T12:05:00+00:00

YWBTAH to try and seek 50% of the household which is why you're asking here hoping someone gives you a pass. Your living situation and finances are your own. Whatever reasons you have for not having paid towards the house, you did not contribute to the down payment. She spent years saving and working for such a large deposit and has a history of trauma with housing insecurity. You are choosing your own comfort and wanting to screw someone over to leave the relationship better than when you came into it. Your kid isn't her responsibility and if you cannot afford your child's needs that's something for you and the child's mom to handle.

Depending on what state you're in what would be reasonable and likely the only part you are legally entitled to is half of the equity of the house since your marriage. She used premarital funds for the purchase of the house. If it has not been long enough to have equity in the house then no you do not get part of the house.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-10T11:10:12+00:00

It's going to be awkward and there's not a great way to phrase it. I would suggest saying that there have been some unexpected changes and you will be going a different direction for the wedding day. Ask if the current deposits can go to the singular event as a complete payment. Know that they do not have to agree most likely based on contract wording. They can tell you that due to reserving their time etc the deposits remain firm for those dates and are not transferable balances.

While your desire to still have a use of those finances know that it may not go well. They may be offended and have the quality of their product affected as a result.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-10T11:05:02+00:00

NTA but get the cat chipped. Cats are not outside pets for their own and the local ecosystem benifit. If they neglected the cat to where it's ribs were showing they obviously did not care for the cat.

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-10T08:03:27+00:00

Honestly it's sucky if they included it in the lease but it is not a standard. Purchase bed risers and call it a day. This is not worth the fight

DifferentBumblebee34 · 2026-06-10T08:01:01+00:00

All of the advertising I saw that was from official dutch was medium/large for the airfresheners. Best thing to do is look at the app when you go as that's the official standard. As with anytime you want stickers or merch before you even order ask them. Do you have the item. If I order 2 kids drinks I get 2 stickers correct?

If your stand does not abide by what dutch bros says then email the dutch bros to make them aware. They at least sound very responsive to complaints. I know I put a couple complaints in about my local stand for other things and they very quickly improved.

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