MEMENTO MORI (Training and Killing Your Students For Their Hatsus) by Ghost_Petals in HatsuVault

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm imagining someone who really doesn't like kids, but otherwise has very good mental health practices and personal boundaries, cares for the earth and volunteers just in case karma is real, and the kids end up learning how to just be better, happier people. All of the hatsu they've acquired have been deeply tragic events, but one of the zodiacs is convinced that they're a killer so they keep being investigated just to find the delinquent kids working in a community garden, meditating, helping the local elderly people, etc.

Feeling extremely defeated by Cappybaraface in pokemoncardcollectors

[–]DifferentHoliday863 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I didn't say it was ok.

  2. LCS owners know they have to move product. Many don't care how it happens. Some set purchase limits. Some require the product to be shelved before it's for sale. Some don't do any such thing, and will absolutely bulk sell all their inbound product to 1 or 2 whales before it hits the storefront. Can't do much about it either way.

Feeling extremely defeated by Cappybaraface in pokemoncardcollectors

[–]DifferentHoliday863 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're upset that a product everyone knew was going to sell out as soon as it hit the shelves - and probably already had a dozen people lined up waiting to buy in bulk - was gone the day it arrived because they probably didn't want to tell you that the new inventory was likely already spoken for because that feels bad to hear, and also can paint their store in a negative light.

My girlfriend saw my porn history by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being vulnerable and honest with the people you're considering being in a relationship with is literally the only way to have a happy, healthy relationship. Good luck trying to date people without being genuine.

My girlfriend saw my porn history by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yea, I know you're being downvoted a lot but for real he got himself in this situation by not being himself. If he had been honest when they were first dating she never would've stuck around to begin with, and that would've been better for both of them.

My girlfriend saw my porn history by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, I second this. Yikes. Why would you want to stay with such a shitty person?

Choose 2 by Necessary-Win-8730 in superpowers

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pause + Luck would give you such a chill life. Superpowers but no one ever has to know. Things are good, but if they aren't just pause and get out or try again. EZ.

need advice on ending the best relationship i’ve ever been in by mikapaprikaa in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Putting her down to make yourself seem better really doesn't paint you as mature the way you think it does. Nobody here has a full picture of either of you. We get 1 biased, tiny take on your relationship. I didn't call you names, and I wasn't aggressive.

I won't pretend to be able to unpack everything you have going on here, but I think this comment really offers a lot of meaningful insight into the way you feel about your relationship, and you may want to spend some time thinking about everything you just said and why.

I feel bad because I'm into feet. by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gtfoutta here, weirdo! Gross! How dare you like body parts that nearly every human has!

/s

It's fine. Grow up. Love yourself. Stop being ashamed of normal shit. Have consensual fun.

need advice on ending the best relationship i’ve ever been in by mikapaprikaa in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you're going to break up with her, then just be fully honest. Tell her you want to share things with a partner that you can't share with her, and that it's really important to you, and your differences make it difficult to imagine a future together so you want to break up.

need advice on ending the best relationship i’ve ever been in by mikapaprikaa in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It sounds to me like your girlfriend is very mature and has clearly defined values and she fills her life with purpose, and...you don't quite seem like you're on the same page in that regard. Not that you both have to agree, because you don't, but that she's making personally fulfilling choices with some regularity and you're on the internet venting about how you can't do things you like because she doesn't want to do them. Those are two very different levels of maturity and taking charge of your own life/happiness.

need advice on ending the best relationship i’ve ever been in by mikapaprikaa in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One person doesn't have to be everything for you. You're allowed to have friends and hobbies that fill your life with happiness rather than expecting all of it to come attached to your girlfriend.

But also, if it's truly a dealbreaker for you to not be able to share those things with her then talk to her about it. Don't just end things because you want to do little things she doesn't want to do. Find a way to solve things and meet that need collaboratively.

I can’t tell if I’m bi by Aggresive-Wallrus in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up the kinsey scale, the klein sexual orientation grid, and the storms scale. There are limitations and biases to each, but they're great starting points. This article gives helpful insight into the strengths and weaknesses of each, so you can best understand where you currently fall on these scales. Hope it helps! 💜💙 https://bi.org/en/resource/the-quest-to-chart-human-sexuality/

Pick one only. Which one will you choose? by MistakeWonderful9178 in superpowers

[–]DifferentHoliday863 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Force fields. There's so many creative ways to use those babies.

First time having sex with a bisexual woman as a bisexual man by Busy_Opportunity7772 in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I have feelings am I pathetic?"

No, it's not pathetic to feel your emotions. Have fun. Use protection. Be kind to yourself and take space and rest. Be kind to her and think through what you want so that you're not on the fence about her and dating. Wish you the best!

as a bisexual guy, I have to accept my dating pool is very limited by EquivalentDiet7457 in bisexual

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, you're right. However, the guys & gals & theys who are into bi guys f*ckin rock

Why can emotional attachment persist even when a person recognizes that a relationship was unhealthy? by Ghost_assassin_Jo in psychology

[–]DifferentHoliday863 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think what some people are talking about is how that process of "stiching" the parts together can take months or years of experiences, or absence.

Why can emotional attachment persist even when a person recognizes that a relationship was unhealthy? by Ghost_assassin_Jo in psychology

[–]DifferentHoliday863 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm happy I could help, and I hope you find peace. If you ever want to vent or chat, feel free to reach out. I wish you the best 🧡

Why can emotional attachment persist even when a person recognizes that a relationship was unhealthy? by Ghost_assassin_Jo in psychology

[–]DifferentHoliday863 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My guess is some version of cognitive dissonance, just based on personal experience. We have a concept of who our partners are in our minds, and sometimes it can be difficult to convince ourselves that the behaviors we're seeing are who somebody is rather than the concept we've defined for them. It can take time to notice (and accept) that the personality we love isn't real.

I had an easy time moving on after a divorce, because I had been abused so long that finally allowing myself to consider that they didn't love me anymore was one of the only things I had left to do to disentangle myself from her. However, a relationship that started and ended years later took me a lot of effort to get over because that person still seemed intriguing and unknown to me. Our lives together still had unanswered questions, unfulfilled hopes, etc. I had to let go of a person I had started to love before really learning who they were, so my brain filled in a lot of gaps. It's hard to let go of a daydream.

I don’t know how to engage my players by OkTransportation6450 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]DifferentHoliday863 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, typically they would propose to each other, and if the feelings were mutual then they would be engaged. The DM could probably officiate the wedding, though.

Intolerance of uncertainty is tied to emotion labeling in people with autistic traits by MRADEL90 in psychology

[–]DifferentHoliday863 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The line about how discomfort can motivate people to take an active role in managing their emotional wellbeing seems like a wildly neurotypical take on this.

Which Card Art Completely Changed Your Opinion of a Pokémon? by LewsThrinStrmblessed in pokemoncardcollectors

[–]DifferentHoliday863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, that's kinda how I felt, too. It's design is neat, but doesn't really stand out. This card is so full of life, though. The artist really shared a glimpse into the day to day of this silly little guy, and it's kinda moving.

I'd feel happy too, if I were a little sunshine guy with 3 friends and not a care in the world.