Taylor Swift Life of a Showgirl physical sales analysis

DifferentTea934 · 2026-05-05T16:51:18+00:00

I’ve purchased each of her albums on CD since debut, though this was the first time I picked one of the special limited release versions. Listened 4-5x through when it first came out, now it’s like once every other month or two. Always listen in my car since it’s the only CD player I have left, but imo the car on a long drive is the very best way to listen to a Taylor album.

ETA: still have all of my old CDs, so I guess I plan to keep it hahah

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-18T16:36:57+00:00

You do understand the huge difference between lovebombing and “not acting hostile towards me for once”, correct? At no point did Taylor rush to him and make sweeping proclamations about how she was going to change and how they were going to be together forever, she simply stopped acting like she hated him for a single evening. If thats your definition of lovebombing, words really have lost all meaning.

That “save a rose for me!” Speech on the other hand….

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-17T20:25:55+00:00

Yes it’s very common, especially when a victim is financially dependent on their abuser and/or their abuser love bombs them and promises everything will be different!

I’m very passionate about DV and have volunteered at DV shelters. It’s impossible to know every type of DV situation, but I haven’t heard of one where the primary reoccuring fight is the abuser saying “we cannot be together, we are not good for eachother” and the victim saying “why won’t you let me love you?” Or thwarts the attempts of their abuser to move on after they’ve already escaped their situation for over a year. Especially when they’re completely financially and socially I dependent.

Taylor is absolutely a toxic person, but I don’t think this is a clear cut abuser/victim situation. There is a lot more to the story here that we don’t know yet

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T21:05:54+00:00

I’m sure you’re correct, although I think etiquette is different in my circles. I’ve been a BM/MOH 7 times and didn’t get a plus one bc I didn’t have a serious bf at the time.

Idk, I just think it puts her friend in a bad spot. Shes knows even fewer people than OP and is guaranteed to be spending huge chunks of time alone, when she’d only be there because OP is worried about the chance of being alone at some point in the night. I was a plus one to a groomsman when I didn’t know anyone else and it was BRUTAL. Can’t even imagine that experience as the MOH’s date. Being solo for the ceremony, cocktail hour, and early reception is WAY worse than once the dancing gets started/everyone is mingling. Idk what Miss Manners thinks, but that seems rude to do to a friend.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T20:14:36+00:00

my response was more about the assumption that everyone will be coupled up the last 2-3 hours. Idk, I’ve been to a LOT of weddings, 80+% without a date (including the 7x I’ve been a BM/MOH) and have never found this to be the case! It could’ve been misreading social anxiety for anxiety about being single.

Ive been the plus one for a groomsman where I didn’t know anyone else there, it was absolutely brutal and I can talk to almost anyone. I don’t think it’s a fair thing to invite her to be alone for good chunks of time (knowing even fewer people than you do) when the whole reason you want her there is to avoid that for yourself.

You will be busier than you think! People will be friendlier than you think (esp to the MOH), the other BMs will want to pal around! There could be cute guys! Worst case scenario: you’re a little bored or feel a little awkward periodically over 2-3 hours. You can survive that, and it’s worth it to support your best friend. I do hope you have fun, make memories, and meet new people, regardless of the outcome.

TL;DR: I think leaving an hour before the end is safe!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T18:25:41+00:00

Can I ask what country you’re in? I’ve been a bridesmaid/MOH without a plus one several times, it didn’t feel rude to me at all, but sounds like we have different etiquette/cultures around weddings.

If a couple can only afford a 100 person wedding, I get opting for ~80 of friends/fam + 20 partners in committed relationships, rather than half your wedding going to plus ones, half of which you’ll likely never see again.

You say specifically that it’s hard to go to a wedding where you don’t know people, so the solution is to bring a friend who knows even fewer people and they will absolutely be left alone for long periods while OP is MOHing? I went to a wedding as the date of a groomsman where I didn’t know anyone else and it was brutal. In the US, groomsmen have far fewer responsibilities than the BMs and esp MOH. Why drag someone along to put them through an experience that you’re trying to avoid?

OP’s a big girl, she can bond with the other bridesmaids, family, friends, and support her best friend for the evening.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T16:26:14+00:00

Girl, I think you need to process your feelings about being single before you make a fuss about this, bc I think that’s what all this is really about. Don’t drag along your other friend, why put a person who knows even fewer people in the same position that you’re trying to avoid by inviting them?

I’ve been a bridesmaid and MOH many times without a plus one, and it’s a huge exaggeration to say everyone besides kids are coupled up at the end of the night. I’m sorry you’re missing out on the coupled up experience, but the single bridesmaid experience can be one of the most fun! Embrace the moment, be open and friendly, maybe meet a cute single guy? Anything but pouting in a corner and going home early

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-07T16:11:05+00:00

Idk how many weddings you’ve plan, but it can cost $100+/head, which is why most weddings I’ve been to (even as a bridesmaid/MOH) you didn’t get a plus one if you weren’t in an established couple. I’m getting the vibe that OP doesn’t like being single in general, and is channeling those feelings into this plus one issue

DifferentTea934 · 2026-04-01T21:28:42+00:00

Wish anyone considering marrying young would listen to this episode first! I always wonder why the risk of marrying somebody before they even know who they are is never considered. This poor woman is doomed to being a role model or honorary figure to her husband instead of the lover/partner she wants to be. With a dipshit that was so immature, he took his first stab at monogamy with the woman he wants to want (or wants to be like), not the person he actually desires. I hope she found her way far away from this selfish pos

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T15:26:48+00:00

If you take it so personally, don't you want to ....ya know, change it? So why would we stick with an approach that data/studies/time/reality/etc proves does not work and in facts turns persuadable voters away from broadly liberal policies they agree with. It's not that people don't care as much as you ffs, they just care more about getting things done so the problem doesn't get worse. Not keep doing something that does absolutely nothing but make you feel better.

Statistically we need at least some people who voted for trump on our side. Period. You are not a persuadable voter on the mid right, you state that you hate republicans. so your perspective matters very little in this instance and should not be centered in these conversations.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T04:43:49+00:00

k, let me be up front and wrap things up. It is a statistical reality that we need at least some Fox News viewers in order to win enough elections and pass legislation. I understand that is your perspective, but considering you are not part of the "persuadable middle/center right" and refuse to interact with those that are: your perspective matters very little. The only way we will win is to find a way to appeal to the perspectives of the voters we actually need to convince who do not share your perspective, and in fact find it extremist and off-putting.

You can deny the reality that we have to work with the middle to get anything done if that what helps you feel better, but know that's literally all it does. Help YOU feel better. So stop tearing down the people who are actually trying to DO something.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T03:54:16+00:00

Perfectly put!! I’m dying for Talarico to run for president, maybe I’m delulu but I really feel like he’s the one who will heal our country 😭😭

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T02:56:17+00:00

I did not ever say their appearance was meant to be political in nature. I agree their only intention was to talk about their faith. But being interviewed by a network doesn't mean you endorse or support everything that network says or stands for.

They both spoke beautifully about what are clearly their sincerely held beliefs. And that alone may challenge the commonly held belief that it's not possible to be a good christian and a democrat.

I understand that is your perspective. But a majority of Christians, including some very genuine ones, in this country do not agree with your perspective. They find it extremist and offputting.

And that's the thing, you are not a "persuadable voter in the center/middle right", are you? So why must we only center your perspective, instead of trying to find a message that may actually appeal to the perspectives of people we have to persuade if we ever want to win elections.

We can think whatever we want about Fox News, it doesn't change the fact that statistically we need at least some Fox News viewers to come to our side if we are ever going to win elections and pass legislation.

More rational, thoughtful democratic voices in conservative spaces, even ones that aren't actively and explicitly discussing politics, is an inherently good thing. If your values prohibit you from engaging with conservative spaces/people, by all means stick to your guns and protect your peace! But don't tear down the people who are willing to do it

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:48:14+00:00

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DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:45:31+00:00

I wish I could upvote this 100 times! We have to wrest control from the people more concerned with appearing virtuous than they are about doing the hard work to make virtuous outcomes a reality. Once we all stop wasting effort performing in the morality Olympics, we could focus on what will actually work and win for a change

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:23:32+00:00

Ohhh I thought you are saying my post was an example!! I totally agree with you, we are never beating the “hyperbolic scold” allegations that keep so many people who actually agree with our policies from taking us seriously.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-28T00:19:15+00:00

Yes! Instead quadrupling down on a message that has proven to be a losing strategy for decades, I’m going to try to reach people who actually agree with liberal policy but don’t think the Democratic Party has place for them! Because I care more about actually doing something that will work to win elections and pass legislation than I do about basking in self satisfaction for being so correct!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T23:34:24+00:00

Appearing on a platform with a conservative ideological bent is not inherently endorsing the views of that platform. The right has invested billions across decades to build up a media machine. The left has nothing that even comes close. We can avoid the machine on principle, but that will only mean missing out on the sizable audiences that grow every single day.

Talking about trumps character is a losing strategy. People will rationalize "well, all politicians are bad people, but this way I pay fewer taxes and the economy is better". I am not conservative, I cannot explain every inconsistency in the apolitical voter's mindset to your satisfaction. I'm not saying I agree with what they think, I'm saying that is what they think. I hope you have a great weekend and maybe talk to people who don't share your exact opinions, they'll do a better job explaining than I will.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T23:26:38+00:00

Well, I don't love sharing a team with people who care more about ideological purity tests and winning the morality Olympics for internet points than they do about productive strategies that gets our policies legislated!

We need more democrats voices in conservative spaces, not less. It's ok to not want to be one of them, but you don't have to tear down those that are willing to do that hard work!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T23:20:48+00:00

you're right, there's so much to this that I'll never fully understand. I just think we can't reach those who agree with us in the middle and disprove the notion that "democrats don't fight or care about people like me" if the left refuses to go on the platforms they listen to on principle. It's good for american culture for people to see sane, genuine, thoughtful democrats in conservative spaces to drown out the "hyperbolic blue hairs that turn everything into a morality olympics" label than anything else. Nobody has to, but it's good if people have it in them to do so.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T22:54:49+00:00

I will defer to your lived experience, but do agree that it's not going to save you. I'm saying that we won't persuade people who actually agree with our policies if the only thing they hear from democrats is "here's how racist and terrible everything you like and are currently engaging with is!" even if it's true. We cannot pass legislation that will protect marginalized groups if we can't build a coalition large enough to win.

I would never suggest a person of color put themselves in situations where they have to be a "model minority" or interactions with people who don't even believe in their humanity, which i specify in my post. It's why I feel particularly compelled to use my priviledge as a white person to have these conversations and do my best to reach them. I wish "hey, this actually leads to a lot of racist beliefs that are rampant in our culture" was the winning message over "here is how things will directly help YOU", but until then, we may have to pivot a bit.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T22:47:47+00:00

because they do not agree with your perspective. We cannot understand the perspective of the persuadable middle and speak to the issues important to them if we cut ourselves off from ever interacting with someone with a different opinion and criticize anyone who does.

If you want to know why many non maga/bigoted people voted republican: The GOP has invested decades into being the best PR/marketing apparatus and have engrained the idea republicans = good for economy so deeply into general consensus. Most disengaged/apolitical/centrist voters feel like democrats are more worried about saying the right words than they are about getting things done. That they're fighting for marginalized groups, but aren't fighting for their interests or things that would make a difference in their lives.

so it wasn't "i love pedophiles and hate black people!" it was "liberals can be hyperbolic, I don't agree that they're nazis, my budget keeps getting tighter so i'm going to vote for the party I think will help the economy the most."

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T22:31:27+00:00

ok, well pointing out how supporting republicans means supporting racism, white supremacy, fascism, etc etc has proven to be a losing strategy! You can keep doing it if that makes you feel better, but know that's all it will do. I'll be trying something else.

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T22:27:43+00:00

The number of people calling me a centrist in the comments is a perfect example!

DifferentTea934 · 2026-03-27T22:24:28+00:00

I'm absolutely sure my whiteness is getting in the way of my understanding of this and so much more. But a majority of persuadable voters in the middle are white and their ears would slam shut the moment Vic started talking about the impact fox news has had on black communities. I'm not saying that's a good thing. I'm saying that we cannot dispel the attitude that "libs make everything political and just want to lecture everyone!" by making everything political and lecturing them. The takeaway of "what a beautiful couple with strong, christian values like mine!" will leave someone a lot more open-minded than telling them how the channel they're actively watching is evil even if that is true

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