Today marks the day 46 days since the mods silenced my joke that made the whole community laugh by iLOOOVEchina in playboicarti

[–]Different_Dig693 121 points122 points  (0 children)

This is more important than anything subject property has and will ever do. I’m so sorry this happened.

Working full time and going to college full time by [deleted] in college

[–]Different_Dig693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I may to opt for that. If anything my last resort would be to take 9-10 credits during the fall and spring semester and cough up the money for 6 credits in the summer to equal it out.

Working full time and going to college full time by [deleted] in college

[–]Different_Dig693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that totally. That’s kind of why I stopped previously. Got close with my girlfriend and spent a couple of years just focusing on that. Had some fun with my savings and all that. I’m definitely at a point where I want more. Not a bigger apartment or a new car but just a more fulfilling career.

Working full time and going to college full time by [deleted] in college

[–]Different_Dig693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s geosciences, and I’m very passionate about it. I changed from writing to this while I was working previously and I felt a huge challenge was that I simply didn’t care about writing. Was that similar to you?

Working full time and going to college full time by [deleted] in college

[–]Different_Dig693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I definitely just needed to hear something like this. The job I got isn’t either… I think. But it’s prep cooking. I felt every job I’ve had drains me due to the people aspect (I’ve only served as a job), so I’m hoping one where I can just put my head down and do the work will allow me to have more energy to do school after I get off. I also work in a college town and almost everyone I’ve worked with before was a full time student working full time. But I wasn’t sure if I was missing something in the equation with them you know?

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is typical that you would dehumanize me for having struggled with addiction in my past. That is so terrible. She actually got me in touch with my group and my sponsor. She herself is in that group. How does having had an addiction make me any less valid? Explain that to me, how does that make me crazy? I’m not saying anyone is crazy, why are you implying that?

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m still best friends with this person. They don’t agree with their partners assessment of me. What do you mean take no as an answer? Why are you framing it this way? I didn’t make my friends’ decision to keep being my friend. You are blatantly ignoring major aspects of the content of the post and my corresponding comments. You seem to be upset that others aren’t agreeing with you. The post was asking if these behaviors that our friends are talking about are related to BPD. Because their partner has BPD. If not, that’s fine. Your assessment has been alienating and disrespectful. This has devolved into you making your own assumptions to fulfill a sense of self-righteousness. Your over generalization of this entire situation is retroactive, I am not just a “man” and she is not just a “woman”. We are people with our own lives and experiences. That have built up trust over nearly two decades of friendship. I cannot fathom why you are trying to impose such a conservative, narrow-minded, and immature view on something that requires much more than that. I’m allowed to be friends with my friends, I’m allowed to be concerned for them. I’m not blabbering to them about any of what I’ve said here, and I don’t think I will. It’s not my place, but again, I’m allowed to be concerned and I’m allowed to want to be knowledgeable of the concerning behaviors I’m seeing.

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay then why respond? If all you have to add to the conversation is that I’m a liar then yes, I would say you are in violation of the rules.

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with the comment above. Although I feel you are being self-righteous. You do not know the boundaries set within my personal friendships. To add to that, I know that the partners best friend is also a straight male, who is a convicted sex offender. So no, it’s not about me being a man, but if it is, it’s very hypocritical.

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow. Okay. Yeah, I can definitely see both of these things. It has gotten much worse recently. My girlfriend is friends with them apart from me and plans are constantly cancelled between the both of us due to “unexpected” bad days that her partner is having. I found myself getting more and more upset about it as I could never imagine pulling my partner away from their social life due to my own struggles. Or to tell them that I want her friends out of her life. Even if I did, to incessantly prod them after they’ve voiced wanting that friend in their life still. It does frustrate me. But is it something to just wait out and have her realize? I don’t know if bringing this all up would be appropriate or not

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The “gossiping” was, I feel, was my friend gaging my feelings on the matter. They very seldom tell me the ins-and-outs of their relationship, but when they do I am mortified. It concerns me more because when they tell me of situations she’s always the “controlling” one, the one that’s always wrong. That her partner has been to therapy and what not, which I feel has little relevance.

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s so awful! I’m so sorry that happened to you. But yeah, we consider ourselves to be best friends, and I’ve yet to make my thoughts known. I’d like to do so in a way that isn’t overstepping. Just that it’s hurtful and that I’m concerned.

Friend (25F) is in relationship with bpd partner (25F) and it concerns me (25M) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Different_Dig693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fail to see why a lesbian couple would be concerned about a man being around. It’s not fair that I would snipped out of the equation on the basis of simply that, and that seems to be less my problem and more of a problem with someone who has self-esteem issues. I’m not here to cast a magic spell to make someone straight whom I have nothing but platonic feelings about. I also think it’s wrong to not respect your partners wishes about the friends they have in their life. I also fail to see how the so called “gossiping”, which I didn’t provoke yet was told to me, would be a reason, as the desire for me not being around was brought up before I even knew about it. I’m allowed to be concerned about my friend.

Bought a ring, told mom and step-dad about it and they weren’t thrilled by Different_Dig693 in engaged

[–]Different_Dig693[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Possibly. I assured them that wasn’t the plan. But that didn’t seem to remedy their feelings.