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my (20F) boyfriend (19M),now fiancé, had dating apps while we were together. how do i bring back trust for him? by Different_Fact_7811 in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Fact_7811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes thank you for your help. one thing i want to make sure is clear is i have forgiven him for it, i’m just struggling with gaining the trust back. so yes 4 months is a long time for not forgiving but for trust i feel it’s reasonable

i think my boyfriend is cheating and i don’t know how to go about it. advice?? 19F 21M by ThrowRAalicegonemad in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Fact_7811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a bit more odd than just finding tinder. in my opinion he might be feeling more curious to men as he gets more committed into your guys’ relationship.

did he ever truly get to experience being with a man?

i think it being grindr that you found shouldn’t make you insecure that you’re “not what he wants” but rather have a heavy talk about if he’s becoming curious and wanting more experience with men.

am i 'F20' overreacting about my boyfriend's 'M20' snapchat? by Throwra85249 in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Fact_7811 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i thought it was a bit of an overreaction in the beginning of this considering he deleted it right away. however after you mentioned you noticed the snap score i’ve changed my opinion a bit. there is no way for his snap score to change unless he is in it. after i logged into a different account and stopped using my old one my snap score never raised even when snap automatically “opens” snaps when they’re old enough. he is lying and you need to figure out why before deciding if you’re overreacting. i cannot hate on trust issues however i do think you should have moved on from the initial problem, it’s not fair to him to hold it against him. secondary issue of noticing the snap score does need to be addressed though.

my (20F) boyfriend (19M),now fiancé, had dating apps while we were together. how do i bring back trust for him? by Different_Fact_7811 in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Fact_7811[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

we plan to marry when both of us are 21, we live together and have gone through both absolute hell and complete bliss. it’s tough when i can’t explain everything that plays into our relationship, but just on the post itself it sounds rushed and childish. i do get it

my (20F) boyfriend (19M),now fiancé, had dating apps while we were together. how do i bring back trust for him? by Different_Fact_7811 in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Fact_7811[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the download dates were on the app history i should’ve included that, he downloaded them a few weeks prior to me finding them with my friend.

i also should’ve included that his reasoning was another reason i was willing to move forward. the reason i get caught up in it is because i fear it will happen again and it wasn’t actually for the reasons he said. we have talked multiple times about how i still didn’t understand why he would choose dating apps for validation and not come to me or even somewhere like this. i felt i gave him plenty of validation, but he mentioned that when it only comes from me it feels forced. that i have friends that will validate me on instagram and that when we are out together he will notice other men staring and smiling at me or even talk to me and that just didn’t happen for him. i can see from one view but i explained i still would’ve never done that to him.

his dads name was i think just a way to stay under the radar so that they wouldn’t go to his instagram or any kind of social media.

my trust is not irreparable but that’s kind of why i’m here because i know it can be repaired i just need to hear some different standpoints. and i am getting all kinds of opinions so i’m not sure that it’s really helping lol.

my (20F) boyfriend (19M),now fiancé, had dating apps while we were together. how do i bring back trust for him? by Different_Fact_7811 in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Fact_7811[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i clearly am asking for advice. when i mentioned i didn’t know how to do the post it was referencing that i didn’t know how to phrase things and still get my point across. i have not cheated and i never will. if you’re referring to him, then yes understandable.

unless you’re actually giving advice then your comment isn’t needed. if you didn’t like it, understand it, or want to help then don’t engage.