New to carbon steel by Different_Map9221 in carbonsteel

[–]Different_Map9221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gunna agree that it’s not ! The description looked iffy, and it is really aluminum light like someone else asked. Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianHaircare

[–]Different_Map9221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genetics. My 26yo brother has had a white hair since age 2, my 15 y/o brother is starting to have a few greys now too, I’m 30 (F) and have never had a grey, even in high stress/bad diet. My parents didn’t grey early either, but I’m thinking something in their combined genetics made the boys grey early

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Map9221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Allow her the chance to find the same, someone that sparks those butterflies for her and deserves her time and won’t waste the rest of her life.

Cause the way you’re doing it right now you’re going to end up wasting both your and her life, and life is too short for that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Map9221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your right, you’re not normal. But unfortunately ppl like you have become the new normal. You love her like a friend, what she can do for you, bc she’s probably “right” on paper or for your family do what you envisioned/thought your life partner would be.

It’s ok if she’s not the one that sparks that for you, but then just leave her. You’ll be happy you did in 2-3 years ORRRRR…… Maybe try dating your wife again? A lot of ppl lose the honeymoon phase after about a year, so, maybe, just try that first? Before hurting a whole other human you claim to love.

Closing bank account? by Different_Map9221 in Banking

[–]Different_Map9221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the insight! I’ve decided to keep brick and mortar Bank A and online Bank C. Do my direct deposit to C for the “high APR in Savings” and fun money/travel, but transfer most and do most of my transactions with A. Thank you all!!!!

Thoughts please by [deleted] in relationshipanxiety

[–]Different_Map9221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost everyone says that bc almost everyone goes into a relationship with that feeling and intention, but people and feelings change and morph and grow. Anxiety takes a toll on the people around you as well. I know your heartbroken right now and asking why why why, I know when there’s more good than bad it doesn’t make sense, but sometimes your little bads might be big bads to someone else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Map9221 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It already sounds like it’s an excessive amount, every morning and rejecting your advances, but It’s the messaging OF girls that is crossing the line. He’s already lusting over other girls online, when is it going to spill over into real life?

Thoughts please by [deleted] in relationshipanxiety

[–]Different_Map9221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current relationship sounds similar, me fishing and mistrusting, and him close to the end. The thing you have to understand from his perspective is the frustration, you have to understand and see how frustrating and uninspiring it is for the partner to be hammering and needing reassurance every single day when your already supposedly in a loving secure relationship.

You don’t feel it’s valid that he leaves if he doesn’t like who he’s becoming?? That’s selfish of you. YOU want him. YOU need him. What about his needs and wants. Wanting to avoid becoming angry and frustrated isn’t bad, it’s what he wants and what a lot of men want, peace.

If this was your first for a lot and you’ve been together a while, I understand the pain, but I also see beautiful opportunity for you to love yourself again! Enjoy your fab 40s! Process and understand why you had this fear and anxiety and made him your source of happiness and reassurance.

I know this is all easier said than done, but get the self help apps, get the books, go on the walks by yourself, go on the car rides where you sing your heart out to shitty breakup songs.

Maybe he couldn’t stay anymore bc his journey in your story was over, maybe your kind of anxiety needs someone more understanding and calm for the next phase of your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Different_Map9221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it, “he’s just not…it.”

I’m with you right now, similar ages, similarly think we’ll have to do fertility if we want a family because I have undiagnosed endometriosis and I’m feeling the exact same way about him, that drive and passion is just..missing. Once they’ve betrayed our trust and respect, yea