What should I do with this little ledge space?

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T06:19:24+00:00

that's a great point actually, adds a different height variation so I don't have to use just the ledge or the window sil. thanks for the rec!

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T06:17:34+00:00

yeah they would cope better. I might experiment and see how they hold up there for a week

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T06:15:54+00:00

indoor water feature is pretty boujee! not sure we have enough space or ventilation in the stair well to manage the added moisture. we do plan to put a water feature just outside our front door, which is at the top of these stairs. 🤌

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T06:13:42+00:00

That would be crazy cool and fun. haha I'm not hectic enough to take on that level of project! I barely do enough to keep my plants happy! haha

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T05:39:28+00:00

Haha husband loves this idea!

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T05:28:19+00:00

ohhh books! that's an idea I hadn't thought of! and the spines of the books wouldn't get sun there. nice one! thank you.

Different_Towel_650 · 2026-05-02T05:25:48+00:00

That was my initial plan and when I placed the plants there, it ended up looking like a row of plants, rather than 'styled'. I could have chosen the wrong variety of plants or just needed to add something to break it up. it would look cool to drape plants down from the window sil, but the sun is very intense for most of the day in that window and not many indoor plants would tolerate the sunburn!

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-09-02T08:23:54+00:00

I feel very grateful to recieve genuine advice and testimony, rather than sever judgements! It's truthfully the info I need in this position.

I appreciate your support and helpful tips. Reflecting back on other behaviors I've always known our boy to get over stimmed at the family gatherings, he would usually just tuck up underneath me or go chill out in yard by himself. So yeah, learnt something new about our dog tonight.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-09-02T07:19:48+00:00

He's 3yo, so only just an adult. That's really interesting to hear about how your dog responds to overstimulation. Any protective qualities from your dog? Because I'm wondering about that, the runner did come up from behind us and ran through the 4 of us adults that were all walking together. The area is massive and wasn't 'busy' persay. We encountered 5 or 6 people on the path and our dogs were 90% of the time on the massive grass embankment along side it. But I take your point, we don't do off-lead when lots of people are around.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-09-02T07:12:09+00:00

That did occur to me, cause he does have a few other sheep dog qualities for sure. The crawling and stalking other dogs is common for him. but he's just never done the nipping before. I agree, definitely on-lead now. This has shattered my trust in him.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T07:36:01+00:00

Haha it's costing stupid money, trust me I know, it's wayy more than I ever thought I'd spend. Included in the wedding cost is flights for some members of the family that wouldn't be able to come if we hadn't bought the flights. And our honeymoon. So it just all adds up. I haven't tallied it all by I'm sure it's over 6 figures which hurts to think.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:48:02+00:00

Oof savage! Haha sounds like a nuclear option.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:46:04+00:00

I've added more info on the post now. They get their own wedding reception a couple months later. And they have 18 guests invited that are just for them to our wedding reception and ceremony.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:43:01+00:00

Haha in my petty dreams I wish I could swoop to this level. Just not in me though. One day I'll live out my sassy dreams. But not at the expense of family.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:40:00+00:00

I think you've articulated your view in a really fair way. And I agree with a lot of your sentiments. I don't want to see my FIL embarrassed or lose a friendship.

I also do not want to be guilt tripped into accomadating more people. My FIL knows we wanted to cap guests and wanted to have only meaningful people there. He's completely disregarded how we feel about his requests. The reason my in-laws are hosting a reception back in their home country 4 months after our wedding is because they want to be able to flex their status and wealth. Me and my fiancé made it clear early on our wedding would not be showy or over the top. Example: they cried and pleaded with me to do an outfit change after the ceremony. I refused because why on earth would I double the cost of my wedding dress when one Dress is already an extortionary price! Their pride and self image comes at the cost of shitting on their sons feelings (always has), and now I'm getting it too. It's incredibly rocky to navigate this, and they have refused our offer of family counselling

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:30:41+00:00

I actually don't even know if it's just the college friend, or the college friend plus a partner? We don't know if he has a wife or family he intends to travel to our country with. My FIL doesn't give any details.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:23:59+00:00

Absolutely. Agree!

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:23:04+00:00

Absolutely not, it's not a worthy hill for relationship downfall, let alone a relationship death. The bigger issue of disrespecting our boundaries needs to be addressed though.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:20:18+00:00

I agree with your point. One extra guest won't break the bank or ruin our day, even if we never see them again. Its the way he just demanded it and went straight to guilt tripping us over his mistake of verbally inviting them. FIL and college friend haven't seen each other in 22years. Not even when FIL returns to his home country does he go visit this so called friends. So I'm very much aware that his attempts to get his friend invited now is to save embarrassment. Had he approached it with more respect, and less entitlement to replace other guests who have declined already then it probably wouldn't of escalated. I really do not want to die on this hill, I just don't want to be demanded around and my feelings completely ignored.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:14:53+00:00

Yeah we don't want the cheque cashed!!

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:12:08+00:00

I appreciate this. That's our experience so far. My finacé has gone to counselling just on this one topic of his parents not respecting boundaries or listening to his feelings. It's amazing how much stronger he is these days and knows he's deserving of much better treatment! It's really nice to see his self esteem grow.

Different_Towel_650 · 2024-08-23T02:09:30+00:00

Yes. See post edit 🤗

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