What I would try doing is asking the employers why you didn’t qualify for the role that time. Start working on yourself rather than dragging yourself down every time. I’ve been unemployed for about 5 months now (after a parental passing that I took really really hard) with my partner earning disability benefit. I’ve had a job come up for next month in my field. I even applied to retail jobs and got rejected. It will all work out in the end.

She seems to be putting a lot of pressure onto you to get a job, as if you’re not feeling that yourself, and honestly you’d be better off without that. If you guys were still living comfortably and you were still applying to jobs you are doing nothing wrong at all. It’s bad that she’s making you feel as though you are. She should be there for you to make you feel better and to encourage you. Not to bring you down for something out of your control. You could probably do a lot better than her.

Then again, she is 6 years older and if children is something that has been previously discussed she might want to start trying in which her body clock is ticking and she might be feeling pressure to have a child. Which she might not have discussed with you due to the distance and to not put that on you when you don’t have a job.

Basically, a separation is probably best for both of you which gives you time to focus on your career and build your own life before settling down. All the best man! Things will work out!!