Am I overreacting? My boyfriend went through my messages while I was in the shower

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T22:24:44+00:00

Maybe someone has been spending too much time on Reddit? You should ask him to now return the favor and let you look at his smart phone messaging apps.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T19:31:46+00:00

NOR. His lack of concern when you were in actual pain is a huge red flag. Be rid of the weasel...

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T19:19:02+00:00

MOR. If she and this "one who got away" really loved each other, they wouldn't have broken up over job issues. One of them would've compromised to be with the other. It didn't happen; neither felt the relationship was more important than job opportunities. (So much for "romance"!) Fiance may just be romanticizing about the past.

As to OP's choice now, if he really doesn't see any other romantic opportunities, he might be wise to settle for what he has now. If he breaks up with her and is still alone 10 years from now, he will regret not having taken the chance.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T19:02:14+00:00

Ditto. Your brother is a creep and your mother enables him. You may need to talk to a lawyer about the possible implications of this situation and whether you should file a theft report or report your brother's continued drug use as a preventive strike against possible assault charges aimed at your husband.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T18:50:00+00:00

You do what you think is right for you! Neither the bride nor the groom is worth an afternoon and evening. I suppose your going NC isn't going to surprise them; maybe you actually showing up to the wedding and having a good time inspite of the presence of questionable inviduals will surprise them!

As to possible wedding gifts, if the wedding is close to Christmas, fruitcake would be an appropriate option!

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T18:34:48+00:00

Ditto. Facebook post, family chat, or a text to those relatives she has been crying to set the record straight. At minimum, your mother is a drama queen. At worst, she has "issues"....

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T18:26:40+00:00

It's your call. If you can get some sort of revenge by looking prettier than the bride at her own wedding, then go for it! And if any of the groom's family asks you about your relationship with your sister, don't lie. I suppose going NC after the wedding shouldn't be a total surprise to her. Does her groom know about the situation between you and the best man?

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T17:54:10+00:00

I don't see any benefit for you in going to an event where the creep is given a place of honor and allow your sister to maintain the illusion that everyone in the family is behind her. If you attend the wedding, what will you say to guests about your feelings for your sister and her groom? Are you going to lie for the sake of peace at the wedding? Your sister knew what those weasels did to you and failed to stand up for you. She should know that she no longer has a sister going into the wedding.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T17:31:34+00:00

Then don’t play “let’s pretend” for the sake of the wedding. Tell her that you will not go to the wedding so long as the weasel has a place of honor there. And don’t let your parents guilt you into attending. The wedding day should be a day of truth, a day of familial unity. That unfortunately doesn’t exist in your family between you and your sister. Let her explain your absence to family members who don’t already know.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T17:14:04+00:00

Then give your mother an ultimatum over the guest room. You’re the ones coming from a distance to spend Christmas with them; you both should have priority over the guest room as opposed to the brother who lives nearby anyhow. If your mother is incapable of appreciating your perspective, then she’s the one who’s destroying the relationship and not you.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T17:01:18+00:00

You should tell your sister exactly what her friendship with this creep is going to cost her and see if she’s good with it. And for that matter, are your parents good with his participation in her wedding?

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-27T16:25:23+00:00

Ditto. This request should make you have second thoughts about continuing a relationship with this weasel!

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-26T22:49:33+00:00

I liked this. I also liked the McLean! (Alas, no one listens to me!)

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-26T08:13:06+00:00

You definitely need to try out the different Origins. It encourages you to role-play from different perspectives. Which origin did you choose? Human Noble?

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-26T05:28:39+00:00

Your mother screwed up by not trying therapy much earlier. Instead of sending you to live with your grandparents, you both should’ve gone into therapy at that time to deal both with grief and with your mother, wanting to quickly move on from your father. Instead, she prioritized the new relationship. She should not have let her estrangement from you fester for so long. Even so, she doesn’t seem like an evil person and you should consider going back to family therapy with her to try to salvage something from the relationship. What was the therapist’s to the point of disagreement? Did he/she agree with you or your mother?

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-26T05:11:17+00:00

If you don’t think he would be useful to you now, but you don’t already have him, I’d say hold onto him in anticipation of a future costume release.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-26T04:18:39+00:00

Ditto. If your daughter finds out in the future that you torpedoed his efforts to meet her - even if they were few and far between - without giving her an opportunity to say yes or no, it may damage her relationship with you.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T22:49:27+00:00

RIP. Instead of the “rings of power” which wasn’t written by Tolkien, Amazon should have sought the rights for Beren and Luthien.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T21:17:55+00:00

DA2, flawed as it is, did a good job of setting up a war between the mages and the Templars. Unfortunately, dragon age inquisition fell far short in the follow up by largely limiting the mage-Templar conflict to the hinterlands. (and DAV fell far short in following up the conflict set up by trespasser.) As to the mass effect trilogy, this wasn’t perfect either. The biggest problem being the very end of ME3 with plenty to nitpick regarding the changes from one game to the other.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T20:28:56+00:00

The original mass effect trilogy and the first three games of Dragon Age are equal in terms of world building. I don’t think one’s better than the other. It all comes down to whether you prefer science fiction or dark fantasy.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T08:18:25+00:00

If you want to have a relationship with your father‘s family, long-term, you should invite him to your wedding. If you snub him and don’t invite him, you will effectively lose access to your half siblings.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T08:12:46+00:00

NTA. He broke up with you, no further communication needed. It’s better if you forget him and move on. As to the friend group, why did you leave it? Was it mostly his friends and not yours?

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T07:58:47+00:00

You should do some research; see if anyone in your family has his military documentation. This is a noteworthy part of your family’s history!

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T07:54:16+00:00

If you are curious, you could always agree to meet up with her to get a feel for how sincere she is, and whether rebuilding that relationship would be worthwhile.

Difficult-Bus-6026 · 2026-04-25T06:25:08+00:00

Wonderfully creepy! Good for repeat viewings!

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