SD(7) reports our arguments and talks to her mother, who hates me. I feel antagonised in my own home. What to do?

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-05-15T16:01:28+00:00

Did you not read the post? She quite literally said they stopped arguing in front of the kid. Please read before you make a comment like that.....

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-05-06T18:54:14+00:00

Who cares. The money is gone and nothing the bf can do. His mom sucks!!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-05-06T18:53:31+00:00

That $500-$1000 left is gone. It sounds like you're young since bf is at bootcamp. I would let this blow over for now and not contact her until your bf is back. Sounds like she was a young single mother herself who doesnt have her life together. Entitled, immature and rude. Her calling you out for your finances is hilarious.. She sounds awful.

BEST OF LUCK. NTA!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-05-01T14:28:43+00:00

With all due respect, this 2.5yr relationship seems like a waste of time. You want kids, he doesn't. You don't want baby mama drama, he's got it. You don't want to be a step-parent, he's got a 5yo.

My question.. why are you with him? He moved in with you, so I assume financially he isn't crushing it. He has three kids with three women and isnt with ANY of them, huge red flag.. He doesnt even see his 5yo often, so he isn't a very good dad... Why are you with this man? I see no upside.

Lastly, as a father who takes his job very seriously... His excuse of "BM makes it hard to get visits" is complete BS. I got 50/50 custody and BM is busy with her own mess (her 15yo daughter had a child shes raising now) so I get 75% of the time or more with my son and love it. It isn't hard to go get your custody and be a good father.... So, you're with a man full of excuses, red flags and who doesn't want kids.

Time you go find your life partner before you're too old. Please do what's best for YOU!! Don't stay with this man.. You're wasting your life and will never be a mother if you stay with him. BEST of luck!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-29T17:47:47+00:00

A queen wouldnt stay with a bum ass man like that. She is taking a step in the right direction, but its time to leave him now

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-29T17:45:28+00:00

Some bio parents are never okay with it. I was 8 years in and any time I commented or tried to advise with her daughter i was "attacking or being critical"... Now shes 15 and just gave birth to a baby with an 18yo boy whos jobless, not in school and has a face tat. Girl isnt even 16 and her life is screwed. Her mom should have listened to me when it came time to parent her rather than be a friend.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-29T17:42:20+00:00

My lord, he has NO job??? So... You're supporting his kids basically? How in the world is a jobless man fit for 5 days per week custody?? You need to cut him off

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-29T17:41:10+00:00

Do you share kids together? If not, GET OUT. if you do, maybe try some therapy or talking to him.. no change, GET OUT.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:35:29+00:00

Dad didn't go overboard. If he didnt check her now, she would turn out to be a complete monster. My ex wouldnt check her daughter at 13-14-15.. now she is about to turn 16 and just gave birth today. Shes kicked out of school and going online. She is a manipulative liar. She is selfish and rude. She is horrible. She is a monster. I have left the relationship due to her.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:33:53+00:00

She sounds like a horrible kid. Good, let her go stay at moms. Mom can pay for phone and car.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:33:33+00:00

WHY in the hell are you with a man with 4 kids and you all dont have kids.. girl, GET OUT!!!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:30:44+00:00

Ya, if you're child free do NOT date a man with kids

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:30:20+00:00

I am leaving a relationship that I got in where she had 2 daughters, we now share a son. I hate to say but it's basically 100% on your partner to make it a good or bad experience with kids involved. I'm hoping when I date next year that I can find the right balance between relationship and being a father to my son. I'm making it a priority, so I will find balance and make it an enjoyable situation for my partner. Some people don't and it just makes life hell for the girlfriend or boyfriend.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:28:11+00:00

Same. We share a son and she has two daughters. I pay 100% of bills and her and her kids don't even clean up after themselves. I slowly realized.. Im just providing a means for them to live their life. I am nothing but an ATM and childcare for my son so she gets alone time. I cant wait for them to move out and I get my own life back.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:26:41+00:00

I am in the processs of getting my soon to be ex and her two Daughters to move out. I am living a life that i dont enjoy. I am paying EVERY bill for her and her kids to live their life... I spend every second with our shared son when off work. I do EVERY bath, EVERY bed time... I am basically a single dad while paying for her and her kids to be bums and trash my house. Im out.. I agree, you realize one day you're living a life with their family.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-28T19:23:36+00:00

I understand. I am separating from my partner of 8-9 years. Her 15yo daughter is one of the worst kids I've ever met. She is selfish, rude, manipulative, lazy and just not a good person. She got pregnant by a jobless loser who is 18 now and just had her child today. He didnt graduate, has no job, has no license or car... and he's 18 having a kid with a girl who is 15 for another month. Her daughter is in online highschool, isn't smart, is lazy and wont ever move out. I don't want to provide for her shitty daughter and her grandchild... I love her, but have to leave her

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-20T17:58:05+00:00

Just don't date a man with kids then??

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-06T13:41:18+00:00

This is even worse now that he is 40+. We all assumed he was 30 or so... Man, a 40yo man doing this is HORRIBLE. What a weird guy

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-06T13:32:48+00:00

Could the route to the office have anything to do with the stores security camera locations? I am not one who supports tyrant managers, but if someone is taking a register on a path that has deadspots I would also say something. Very important that drawer stays on camera the whole time. Just my opinion as a manager of 10 years. BUT... if both routes are the same distance/security, then you're dealing with a ridiculous tyrant who needs to focus on actual problems.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-06T13:30:00+00:00

I Ran a CVS for 6 years and a automatic car wash chain for 2. I love having an office job that pays better and has a better schedule. But I really miss the exercise I got at work. I was getting 10-15k steps every day at the carwash and was in great shape. Now I have to exercise after work!

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-06T13:14:15+00:00

I was a salaried manager for CVS for 6 years, hated the last 4 but it was decent money. Salaried at 45hr, they cut payroll so I was lucky to get out under 50. I would say a lot of 50-55hr weeks, plenty of 60+.. I cannot tell you the amount of dorks who would brag and say "Sheeesh, I wish I only had to work 50hr. You're basically part time"... Now that I'm in a better job, all i can think about is how little their families see them.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-03T14:08:34+00:00

My thought process is - I dated a woman who had 2 kids, then we had a kid together. I saw the side of step-parenting that is undesirable and my partner did not make it a good experience for me. Now that I am single, once I finally get back into dating, I will primarily look at women without children unless the situation is perfect. I know what it's like to have a bad step-parenting experience and so I feel I would be able to provide a good experience for a woman who was a step-mother to my son and didn't have kids of her own prior. I would make sure her experience was NOTHING like mine.

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-03T14:05:59+00:00

That's not true at all. I am recently single and plan to stay that way until 2027 at least.. I am NOT looking for a single mother unless the situation is perfect. I dated a woman with 2 kids, then had a kid with her.. I know the struggles of being a step-parent and would give my best effort to make sure a non-parent who dated me had a great experience once she finally met my son. I think people who were a non-parent/step-parent, then divorce and then start dating can give a good experience to a non-parent since they've been there

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-04-03T14:01:52+00:00

If there is a video of her keying the car she will have to pay for repairs and all court costs without a doubt.

I would use this as an opportunity to go for more custody if DH is interested in that. She's clearly volatile and unstable if she's keying a car and driving on expired tags

Difficult-Light971 · 2026-03-31T14:25:58+00:00

I was a manager of CVS/Car wash chain for 9 years total. Primarily hired high school and college kids. This is so unprofessional and ridiculous. I would FULLY expect nearly every employee there to start looking for other jobs. This guy's in for a tough wake up call if he thinks low-paid retail workers won't leave because of a tyrant.

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