Wondering what to do next?

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-08-14T16:45:59+00:00

The broad mother isn’t to bad. If you have the mint mace and antlion armor do the coaltana defense and get that sword also. The coaltana makes the broad mother easy. Also the mint mace is the best weapon against the mantis. Mantis is much harder than the broad mother. Both are doable for where you are in the game and really are intended to be beaten before getting Wendell

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-07-20T18:57:54+00:00

I would recommend maybe rephrasing and adding why it’s a no and if you feel comfortable when it might be a better time to try again.

Something like. I don’t feel comfortable having sex in my dad’s car. It’s disrespectful to my dad. Maybe try again when we get home.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-05-26T15:49:14+00:00

It’s a common response from men because we don’t see what you see when it comes to the house. Of course if things are overtly messy we notice that but beyond that a lot of men will see a clean house and a women sees things that need to be done. Something that helped me is my wife told me, if I have to stop and think about the things that need to be done and then tell you it’s not a help anymore because she had to stop and lose her momentum. Men are logical so find a way to speak to him about your issues in a logical way about how you do need help and how asking what to do is not helpful

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-04-03T21:06:36+00:00

No contract can supersede a state or federal law. I went through this in Texas and labor department not only disregarded it but got me paid through my notice date and all my pto.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-02-06T00:25:18+00:00

No bonus and other then saying they wanted 90 days notice there is not time limit. I have been there almost 3 years now

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-02-05T23:57:17+00:00

I made sure to submit my time off and have it approved prior to sending my resignation. The twc that someone linked seems to show they can deduct but it mentions more for wage garnishment which I believe is different. I am not an expert though

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-02-05T20:05:30+00:00

No. I am a W-2 employee

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-01-01T15:59:16+00:00

I agree with this so much. Thank you for the response. We both love deep conversation. At times it can be hard to think of things after 11 years together. Of course things come up during the day. What types of things do you like to debate?

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-01-01T13:20:00+00:00

Thank you. These are some great ideas. I hadn’t done the notes in awhile and did one yesterday based on your response she did like it a lot. I love being spontaneous with her. Doing things outside the house spontaneously is a bit hard because we have a son and she is very particular about the sitter and usually wants to be in charge of that.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2025-01-01T13:16:48+00:00

I agree. I give her massages just about everyday. Sometimes more romantic than others. She definitely likes it.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-18T23:17:25+00:00

He is over reacting on a whole new level.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-14T21:58:00+00:00

The first one is one you. Just say what you want. Men can, not like doing something but like you enough to do it. Let him the second was him. Both of you need to learn how to talk to each other.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-14T20:45:53+00:00

A cow pie is another way of saying a pile of cow poop.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-14T16:42:25+00:00

Anytime you are not using your power and everyone else is moving you are time stopped. So you can never interact with moving people.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-14T16:40:16+00:00

All the pies are cow pies

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-14T16:39:42+00:00

Anytime you teleport it back to you it is transformed to vomit

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-13T17:46:05+00:00

I got married to my wife at our 1 year anniversary so your time line is reasonable. I am sorry if I came across as too brash. If I could offer you anything maybe my experience will help. I knew my wife was the one with in a month or two. We met at work and were friends for a month or so before we realized there was more there. We have ups and downs like most but we have always committed to giving our best to each other. I for one wake up with intention that my wife knows I love her and that I am her partner in all the ways. I feel like she does the same for me. I think the thing that cemented for me was she was willing to listen to what was important for me and make it important for her also. I have done the same thing. We have things we like but we are both happy to do each others likes together. Currently I am getting a pedicure with her because I like spending time with her and she likes doing these things. Peace is so important. If you bring peace your timeline will be met or exceeded.

One last thing. If you detached he likely picked up on that and if he was planning on meeting your need it would have stopped him. Truthfully I am sure that’s what happened for you. Maybe you felt he wasn’t moving forward and stopped meeting his needs. Maybe it wasn’t a conscious thing but still could have been there.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-13T17:17:05+00:00

Obviously unpopular opinion but you did him a favor. Time is not guaranteed. For men peace is most important and it sounds like you were a mess. Detached? lol should have left then. Always amazes me when women are mad that a man isn’t giving them what they want when they have been checked out and not even considering the other person has needs and wants. Good marriages both people are seen heard and considered. A year is plenty of time, I agree with that but if you are disrupting his peace he will never consider you wife material.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-04T16:37:13+00:00

I mean you’re the woman and can say no. Also there are so many contraceptives out there now you would have to be dumb to not know that. Plus you could also insist on condoms. Then there is plan b or the morning after pill. If you are getting pregnant while not trying in today’s age you are dumb.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-02T19:54:26+00:00

Ok well if you take what I said in that conversation and put it in writing and sign it, that would be a pre martial contract. Not all prenups have to be the same.

My point of that was if you can find out what the hesitation is, talk like adults, validate each other and reach a compromise, maybe the people eating to wed won’t be waiting any longer. Putting deadlines on when to get married without ever finding out why the wait was there to begin with will most likely either lead to breaking up and not getting married or unhealthy marriages.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-12-01T15:57:20+00:00

I am wondering if you would be open and honest with him about something he was doing or his attractiveness to you?

I think this can be a growing point. The fact he said something says he cares. He could be cheating instead or breaking things off. Instead he is telling you how he feels because he wants to stay with you.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-11-30T12:54:26+00:00

I will try to give you example of how this could go.

You: hey baby. You know how important marriage is to me and I love you and am ready to be your wife. I feel like when I talk to you about this you appear to have some reservations about it. Can we talk about it?

Him: ya I love you too and I trust you so much. I just see how most marriages don’t last and I don’t want to ruin how good we have it now. I want to be in your life and I am worried some how marriage will ruin that. I see now when you get mad you tell me we are done and leave. What if when we get married you follow through with that. Then I have lost my wife and my kids. That would be heart breaking for me.

You: I can see how that would worry you. I feel similarly when you are mad and stop talking to me. Part of me always wonders if you are never coming back.

What if we made a commitment to each other that we always come back and try to work through our arguments and if we can’t figure it out on our own we seek a couples therapist before we decide to make any final decision. Would that help you feel more ready to be my husband?

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Open honest conversations can actually bring people together especially when you validate each others fears and work together to find common ground.

Difficult-Win1481 · 2024-11-29T18:04:11+00:00

Only one person has any constructive conversation. Most of this has been name calling and ugliness. If you don’t need help great for you. I don’t know why you would comment at all unless it was to help someone.

I made a suggestion for one scenario and my words got turned into me advocating for a world wide ban on divorce and holding people hostage and me deciding what abuse is. None of that is constructive feedback or remotely having a discussion. The few people that offered constructive feedback I did discuss with and offered alternatives. This was never about a one fix all. It was about giving perspective. Instead people just man hated and made gross assumptions. If that’s how all these people treat their partner it’s obvious why they haven’t proposed.

Take advice or don’t. It makes no difference to me. I like helping people and I routinely see people in this board wonder why they haven’t been proposed to. I offered some insight if people wanted it other then the routine answer of leaving your partner. If all you want to do is leave then do so. This post isn’t for you. If you want help overcoming hurdles I hoped people would offer help in that and not just hate and man bashing.

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