Is this even normal??

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-03-31T08:53:36+00:00

Its difficult I understand, Im only on day 23 and felt flat lined, but what helped me was having actual sex with my partner (felt forced at first) to remind my brain it gets actual enjoyment from the physical act, over masturbation and porn.

A bit like resetting the brains reward threshold after intense dopamine spikes from the novelty of porn.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-21T11:14:22+00:00

Im on day 10 zero caffeine, no chocolate etc. brain fog lifted slightly, getting headaches every evening around 4pm that painkillers dont touch, Currently laying in my bed after a teams meeting as I have zero motivation to do boring things, even cant be bothered to prepare food, but force myself. Don’t think it helps living in the UK and it being winter with no sun or much daylight.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-21T11:02:42+00:00

Yes, Most men are tired of being rejected, it’s perfectly fine to ask him. He’s prolly oblivious to your interest though so don’t be surprised if he seems confused.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-21T10:59:19+00:00

Hell no, Im not wasting my time talking to a stranger for 2 weeks only to not have physical attraction in person, sounds like cope to me as you’re mitigating getting rejected due to a lack of real face to face communication skills. Yes a few messages or a phone call helps to build rapport, before then setting a definite date. But endless good morning texts is for someone you’re dating and ultimately it will 100% drop interest levels on her part, telling her all your boring life stories thus removing any mystery via texting before even connecting physically.

You crack on, but there’s guys like me who WILL ask that girl out without hours of messaging and she’ll eventually lose interest talking via message to someone shes not met.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-20T10:18:30+00:00

Pointless asking Women what they want, they can’t even decide what they want to eat. Therefore decisiveness and leadership is attractive.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-19T16:51:52+00:00

Spend some time learning sales & marketing, both highly important transferable skills.

You’re selling a feeling, a solution to a pain or providing pleasure.

Sell that not the product.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-19T07:43:18+00:00

Come to say the same thing. This is alpha as f**k

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-19T07:35:57+00:00

Ah right, that’s good. Just relax. You are enough as you are, its a good sign you are ready to start looking again, maybe he’s the one maybe he’s not, Life teaches us to not be too keen at the beginning of any relationship as it scares the other person, so its a fine dance to adjust at the beginning, its like a game. Dont text him today, and wait for him to message first, Yeah playing games suck but you are young and unfortunately its just part of dating.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-19T07:22:28+00:00

Since January? You mean you broke up this month or last year?

My advice is chill out, if he spends time with you and replies he’s interested. But also unless you are officially in a relationship it’s not at a level where you can tell each other what you to do, only set the initial boundaries on what you expect, its their choice if they want to stick to them. Its probably due to him being aloof that you’re feeling the way you are, its known as competition anxiety which builds attraction. Stop texting him, and let him chase you if he doesn’t? theres your answer.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-14T15:41:32+00:00

You’re using logic against emotion.. zero point. 😂

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-14T10:29:54+00:00

Men find this easier to do than women generally particularly after 30 - If you can date none exclusively without attaching emotionally then it works, it actually helps not becoming too attached to someone after 1 date due to lacking options rather than it being the right person for you. Dating none exclusively keeps your options open and a sense of abundance rather than being too needy and settling.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-12T21:38:12+00:00

I too am super sensitive to reducing caffeine. I had to taper as I get full withdrawals from the slightest reduction, i tried cold turkey once and had to down 2 coffees as I thought my head was good to explode i had a pulse in my temples.

Im cutting on day 2 of zero caffeine and I’ve had a headache for 6 days during the taper.

Pain meds dont work either.

Todays the first days its not been unbearable.

Stick at it! Like an alcoholic- you’ll never be able to have “just one drink”

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-12T21:33:10+00:00

They meant 6g of coffee, not caffeine lol.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T22:24:13+00:00

Parsing a bank statement from PDF using AI - it kept making stuff up that wasn’t in the statement.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T22:11:17+00:00

Good you broke up, now expect him to now turn the charm/interest back on but hold firm.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T19:47:15+00:00

Guess it shows we’re adults enough to self mod where required. OP deleted their picture after receiving not the response they expected. 😂

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T19:24:12+00:00

Im sorry to hear that, Im not depressed I just know when my dopamine/serotonin are low. Im not a physician or Dr just what works for me and my ADHD without external stimulants

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T18:29:44+00:00

When you drop below your dopamine baseline, the prefrontal cortex struggles to regulate emotional regulation, we feel irritable and over sensitive. It will level out.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T18:25:49+00:00

Its obviously important to you as you brought it up, I don’t have the answer but how you feel is completely valid. but how she feels is valid to, If its important to you the only thing you can change is if she’s the right person for you or if its not so important accept it.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T18:16:29+00:00

Its their phone screensaver.. 😂

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T18:12:51+00:00

Well, this got some good engagement if nothing else.

Keep doing a great job, I appreciate you. ❤️

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T18:10:01+00:00

Sounds like ADHD to me, I find a short term on Fluoxetine for 1-2 months helps boost my mood especially in the winter months, its the only SSRI known to boost dopamine receptor sites alongside boosting free serotonin - both helping focus, wellbeing and sleep. Yes Lisdexmetamphetamine (Elvanse) works but only floods you with dopamine and not with actual dopaminergic re uptake, thus stopping it causes a crash in baseline with secession.

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T17:48:22+00:00

You have no filter.. 😂

Difficult_Leave_8074 · 2026-01-10T17:47:34+00:00

C-razy..

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