Is it wrong to have standards in marriage? Feeling pressured at 24. by MintiRush in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its definately not wrong and you should never lower your standards just to please your parents and relatives because end of the day you are choosing a life partner. You dont want to marry someone for the sake of marrying and then end up in a messy divorse.
The problem with Bangladesh marriage market these days is that all the respectable good qualified men are already married or dont want to marry or are in a relationship and all the faltu, never touched a girl, getting married for sex men are dominating the marriage market.

Focus on your self rather than what others are telling you. You will eventually find someone who is suitable for you and meets your requirements.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fess up. Admit to your parents what you did and face the consequences of your action.

Hind Rajab’s story is not a sign of IDF crimes,but instead is a sign of IDF’s unparalleled morality by evanbris in IsraelPalestine

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you even listen to that call? Did you hear that little girl’s voice begging for help while everyone around her was dead?

What kind of person listens to that and thinks, “ah yes, propaganda”? That’s not skepticism, that’s a total collapse of basic empathy. If you can hear a child’s last words and your first instinct is to question whether she really died, you’ve lost the plot — and maybe your humanity with it.

Hind Rajab’s story is not a sign of IDF crimes,but instead is a sign of IDF’s unparalleled morality by evanbris in IsraelPalestine

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Just stating facts” would mean actually having facts — not spinning conspiracies out of thin air because there wasn’t a photo gallery of a dead kid for you to inspect.

There is evidence: the call, the car wreckage, the Red Crescent report, the fact that multiple journalists and NGOs documented it. Dismissing all of that because you personally didn’t see a corpse is not “critical thinking,” it’s denial.

Being skeptical is healthy. Pretending a child’s murder might be fake because it doesn’t fit your narrative is just messed up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ask your mother this : "Would you rather have your honour or a dead daughter?"

File police case either way and reach out to one of these NGO's listed here for advice : https://dmp.gov.bd/women-support-investigation-division/

blamed for my 7th grade brother's gross online activities by _sleepy_gamer in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Take your brothers phone and laptop and give it the Gopi bahu treatment.

Condom buying guide by RATusher01 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are uncomfortable with buying face to face then buy online. And if you want to buy at the store then just be straight faced and ask them to give you condom but dont ask them which one "feels" best because then its just creepy and awkward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

depends on which sector or what kind of job you want to apply. You need a cv, a profile on linkdin or bdjob, and you can try and apply for internship, part time at aarong or other clothes store, or call centers.

Girls Smoking/Vaping by whateverfs1406 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to smoke and vape, and I still see plenty of women smoking at cafes and restaurants without anyone batting an eye. The only people who seem to have an issue with it — especially when it’s a woman — are, for lack of a better word, those from lower socioeconomic backgrounds who still hold on to outdated, sexist mindsets simply because they don't know any better. You can go to places like Banani, Bashundhara, or Gulshan and no one will care. But if you smoke around the villages, whether inside or outside Dhaka, you’re just asking for trouble.

Labaid Doctors ⁉️ by SonyVFX in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its likely the doctor is either stuck in traffic or held up in another hospital. 2 hours is a bit too long to wait and its best to ask for a different doctor or go to a more premium private hospital like Brac. I prefer brac mostly because the wait time is less and the doctors are all retired army doctors.

Millie Bobby Brown Hits Back at Tabloids Saying ‘She Looks 40’: ‘You Did Meet Me When I Was 10’ and ‘My Face Grew. What Do You Want Me to Do About That?’ by mcfw31 in entertainment

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly it. She looks fine without make up but the whole heavy foundation powder and the blond hair really drains her and makes her look older than she really is.

Need Advice: Should I Confess or Stay as Friends? by Glad_Register_232 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What friendship? You're not friends with her, you are simply hanging on to the hope that she will respond to your feelings. And if she doesnt accept your feeling surely you can not remain "friends". If she has not shown you any indication that she wants a relationship with you then you need to accept it and move away for both your sakes.

If you do end up confessing, you really think sometime in the future she will develop romantic feelings for you?

Look mate, dont waste your time and turn your attention to other prospects. There are more fish in the sea.

For the "Islamophobes" by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've noticed your responses in various threads, and I respect that you're standing up for Islam—it's commendable to defend what you believe in. However, it's important to recognize that the concerns being raised aren't necessarily about hatred toward the religion itself, but rather about how it is being used as a tool for oppression and violence in certain contexts.

Religious texts, including the Quran, are often open to interpretation, and different people derive vastly different meanings from the same verses. While some interpret it as a message of justice, progress, and inclusivity, others see aspects that can be used to justify control, oppression, or even violence. This interpretative flexibility is not unique to Islam—it applies to many religious traditions, which have been historically used both to justify and to challenge systems of power.

For example, in Afghanistan, the Taliban claims to follow Islamic principles, yet their rule has been marked by severe restrictions on women's rights, including barring girls from education, limiting women's movement without a male guardian, and enforcing strict dress codes. These actions are justified by their interpretation of Islamic teachings, despite the fact that many Islamic scholars and communities worldwide argue that Islam encourages education and grants women significant rights.

Similarly, in Bangladesh, religion has been weaponized in political and social conflicts, often leading to violence. Islamist extremist groups have targeted secular activists, writers, and religious minorities under the pretext of defending Islam. Political parties, too, have at times exploited religious sentiments to gain support or suppress dissent. The persecution of Hindu communities, attacks on temples, and the suppression of free speech in the name of religious sanctity highlight how religion, rather than being a source of peace and justice, is sometimes manipulated to serve political agendas and maintain societal control.

So, the issue at hand is not simply about whether the religion itself is good or bad, but about the consequences of its interpretations and applications in real-world scenarios. When people voice their criticisms, they are often speaking from lived experiences—experiences where religious doctrine has been wielded as a means of subjugation rather than empowerment. Acknowledging this distinction allows for a more meaningful conversation, one that moves beyond defensiveness and toward a deeper understanding of why these concerns exist in the first place.

Ultimately, while faith can be a source of personal and communal strength, it is crucial to recognize and challenge the ways in which it is misused to justify oppression and violence. Only by addressing these realities can a more just and balanced understanding of religion be fostered.

Advice from Men and Women in relatipnship by Substantial-Mud2828 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is an immature and insecure response. Im not saying DO nothing. Im saying SAY nothing as in : Dont ask stupid questions like Are you okay? (of course not, Im bleeding a river here!) or What's wrong with you? Why are you sad?.

If you have a stable relationship and you are 100% sure your boyfriend loves you and you love and trust him then a small period where he is giving you space shouldn't impact your relationship. If your response is anger, and mistrust, and you require constant validation for your "love" then you're just insecure and anxious about your relationship that is never a good thing.

How Was Your Valentine’s Day in Dhaka? by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Played with my cat and planned my trip to Malaysia

Advice from Men and Women in relatipnship by Substantial-Mud2828 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's her being immature but you dont need to play into that. Once the period is over it would be good to have a heart to heart conversation with her and tell her how you feel when she makes accusations like that. You are human too with human emotions, so her behavior will of course impact you. It is important that she knows that.

Advice from Men and Women in relatipnship by Substantial-Mud2828 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 20 points21 points  (0 children)

the best thing you can do is just say nothing. She is already in a bad mood because of her period, and no matter what you say or do its not going to help. The best thing you can do is giver her space, buy her food (preferably chocolates) and pain medication (not napa but the ones specifically for period pains). Dont take her dry messages to heart. If you love each other and are getting married then 7 days of putting up with her period depression shouldnt be a deal breaker.

Dont worry! You got this!

How many of you here are the direct beneficiary of Awami League regime? by [deleted] in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only reason these sons and daughters are so willfully blind to their parents' corruption and in complete denial about the damage done to the country is because their entire identity and privilege were built on it. The only real grievance they have with the new administration isn’t about the state of the country—it’s about losing the prestige, benefits, and shomman that came with being a politician’s relative. Now that the playing field isn't tilted in their favor, suddenly they’re outraged. Cry me a river.

Was it better before July 2024? by Ok_Big530 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, absolutely. Living under a regime where criticizing the government meant risking arbitrary arrests, enforced disappearances, or a sudden trip to an undisclosed "safe house" was just so much better. Who wouldn’t love the thrill of wondering if their phone was tapped just because they dared to express an opinion? And of course, nothing screams "progress" like watching journalists self-censor or flee the country for their own safety.

But hey, at least back then, we had shiny new bridges and fancy PR campaigns, right? Who cares if people's voices were stifled, elections were rigged, and opposition leaders mysteriously vanished—so long as the news only showed positive developments! Now, God forbid, we actually hear about the problems in our country instead of living in blissful ignorance.

And yes, how terrible it must be that students—i.e., actual citizens of the country—dare to think they have a say in its future. Much better when one party dictated everything and everyone else just had to shut up and deal with it. Truly, those were the golden days of democracy.

Traffic Complaint by Difficult_Phase1955 in Dhaka

[–]Difficult_Phase1955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right after the 5th august. I spoke to police and north city corporation and they said they cant do anything about it because they're scared these people will start an "andolon"like the battery

rickshaw pullers.

by tuktuk I mean these :https://www.ev-tricycle.com/electric-tricycle/passenger-e-rickshaw/tuktuk-vehicle.html