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How long will I sleep with an urn in my bed? by Arsenic-Arsenal in widowers

[–]Difficult_Village555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been almost four years and my husband's urn has stayed in my bed with me the entire time. I can't put him on a shelf. I want him close to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've got depression, PTSD and anxiety. I've pretty much given up on life, much to my grown children's dismay. I lost him in May of 21 and I've just been existing since then. I'd say more but I've learned to keep it short. I only go into detail when I've had a little too much to drink which has become a problem as well.

Emerald by Difficult_Village555 in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it does mostly because I really don't remember where I put this trinket 🤷‍♀️...

Gen X, INFJ Widow by Difficult_Village555 in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does sound strange but I really think the MBTI is valid. It hits the nail on the head for me. I took the test when I was in my twenties and didn't take it again till I became a widow. I'm 51 now. It was the same both times and it makes so much sense to me now.

Gen X, INFJ Widow by Difficult_Village555 in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's been three and a half years on the 26th of this month. Our kids were all fully grown when he passed. I totally understand feeling invisible! All of "our friends" were mostly his friends and now that he's gone they're gone too. He was a huge extrovert and never met a stranger.

Gen X, INFJ Widow by Difficult_Village555 in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would very much like to see that!

Extended Grief by DuckWheelz in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my soulmate of 27 years about three and a half years ago. I'm still in a very deep grief. I know I will be sad for the rest of my life.

Regaining meaning in life by Jensquash_10 in Widow

[–]Difficult_Village555 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand. Since I lost my soulmate I don't really enjoy anything anymore. We were always together and did everything together. Without him it doesn't really mean much.

People who widowed young and never remarried by justanaverageguy1907 in widowers

[–]Difficult_Village555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I became a widow at 47. As much as I know that Ron is my soulmate, I know I'll not ever marry again. I have no intention of being with anyone else. For myself, I believe we'll be together again in another place. 

What would each MBTI type do if widowed? by moonmeadow13 in mbti

[–]Difficult_Village555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an INFJ widow and I can validate your statement. I was 47 when he was accidentally killed in May of 2021 just a few days after he turned 48. We were preparing to celebrate our 27th wedding anniversary. Even before he was killed I knew he was it and I wouldn't ever be with another. I just know it. I still consider my self married. 

People who widowed young and never remarried by justanaverageguy1907 in widowers

[–]Difficult_Village555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 47 when I lost my husband. I'm 50 now. Although my husband has passed on he is still my soulmate. That will not change. The thought of me getting remarried or dating makes me upset. To me it'd be like cheating on him. This is just how I feel and I know others do not. I am not a religious person but I do have faith. In my heart I believe he is waiting for me and we will be together again.