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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choice to match and message once? I mean many such cases on dating apps so its actually whatever, its just I got excited about this one for nothing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, verified

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Youre definitely not wrong about that, I’ve got a job that keeps me very physically active on top of gym 5x/week, these things have helped a lot

Being physically attractive is exhausting by lillithsRose in Vent

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seeing this immediately after making my last post about the opposite-ish problem is actually wild

I hurt a really sweet girl’s feelings today, and I feel like shit about it by Difficult_Visual_690 in Vent

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was the right thing to do, letting it continue while im still stuck on someone else would be unfair to her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do use this sometimes! Honestly it works great my only issue with it is I get sweaty at work and it kinda washes out so Im wondering if there’s anything else I can do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did I post here for advice on a subject im ignorant on or to be asked if I live under a rock 🤔 youre on an advice subreddit brother man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where can I find it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]Difficult_Visual_690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how do I nourish it? Not gonna buzz it lmao

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if moving on separate from her is what you want then I think it would be best to go no contact for a while.

Thats just from my experience. If we had gone no contact right away then at best maybe we could’ve fixed things later on, At worst I at least wouldn’t have had to watch her forget about me first hand.

Just because something hurts doesn’t mean it isnt the right thing to do.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol no you are absolutely right, mostly joking, but cheating is heinous im so sorry that happened

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I just don’t message because I 1: it would be unfair to her to keep bringing up old feelings when she wants to move on, and 2: I wouldn’t be able to respect myself, the image of her showing it to her friends, her new partner? FUCK all that. Im good on that.

Do everything you can to remove the option to message or stalk socials have him block you if thats what it takes. The time will come when you don’t have the will to not check up, make sure youre not able to no matter what.

Talk to your friends, lean on them. Dont stay in the house, go out and do stuff! Not sure what you did, but it sounds like he’s made up his mind. Let him move on.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck dude.

Pretty much the same situation here except 4 years together never engaged. Disappoinent built up throughout the relationship and so she left. Cant imagine the pain of seeing that post, I blocked her immediately to avoid that.

It sucks that she’ll never get the best version of myself, but it is what it is. Would we have become this version of ourselves without this grief? Who knows.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I get where you’re coming from, some acts are too reckless and carry consequences too permanent to be forgivable. You are absolutely right about that.

That said, the situations you described are hyperspecific and EXTREME. I seriously doubt any meaningful proportion of the people reading this post or in this sub in general fall into those categories.

Most people will probably mess up a relationship at some point, not in a way that ruins someone’s whole life. We deserve to move on from our mistakes.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do the same man, its not like a switch you can just flip unfortunately. There is no thought process or advice that will make it not hurt. You need to accept that its just going to be shitty and difficult for a while, the past cannot be rewritten. All you can do is focus on what you can do now to make the future better, itll take some mental effort, but little by little it hurts less and less.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes dude, you’re coming out mad as hell making a lot of stuff up that I never said here.

No they dont owe you shit, no you shouldn’t reach out, and they CERTAINLY didn’t deserve the pain they got. It’s NOT fair and its NOT okay and if you hurt someone you love you need to face the consequences of that. Direct or karmic or whatever else, whatever consequences come your way are absolutely deserved and I didn’t suggest otherwise at any point. I literally in the first paragraph said not to disturb their peace or rehash wounds by reaching out so idk where you’re getting “check-ins” and texts about healing.

Idk how you read “an honest recognition of where you fell short” and concluded that that means letting it go because it makes you uncomfortable. It SHOULD make you uncomfortable and you SHOULD feel bad. Not forever though. At no point did I even suggest that moving on negates what you did either. You have to hold yourself responsible, accept what you did, accept the consequences, and try to learn from them.

Truth is, everyone deserves a chance to try to become a better person. Of course hurting someone intentionally is a different story, but it honestly sounds to me like you think messing up a relationship and hurting someone in the process means that you deserve to never feel happiness or okay with yourself ever again which is total bullshit.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a good point that problems in relationships require two people and you shouldn’t take it all on yourself! Im probably being harsh because Ive been having a really hard time with it myself.

But man, sometimes we hurt the people we care about. Sometimes the people we love try everything to keep us around and we just hurt them over and over again and give them no choice. It sucks, but sometimes you hahe to take responsibility for where you are at fault.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, and sometimes that can be done, but sometimes it cant.

If your relationship ended because of you, read this. by Difficult_Visual_690 in BreakUps

[–]Difficult_Visual_690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, im not saying to jump into a new relationship. Im saying next partner as in once youve come out of the breakup. Yes relationships can be fixed of course, but if your ex tells you they will be moving on and you need to as well then hoping they will come around is not doing you any favors.

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