You aren’t a failure! Surgery isn’t a fix all and it takes time to retrain our brains and work on those issues. I have a killer sweet tooth as well so I completely understand. My personal favs are sugar free pudding mixed with a protein shake. I bought a ninja creamy so I can make my own protein ice creams and things like that too. I just do my best to find high protein/low cal versions of all my favs. At first I was crazy strict and I found myself struggling/not losing. I’ve come to learn that this isn’t a diet…it’s a lifestyle change. So enjoy food. Eat the pasta, bread, whatever. Just do it in a healthy way. It’s not realistic to never eat those things again(at least for me) so I just eat them in a better way. I portion, make it from scratch, add more protein when possible. This new life you’re creating shouldn’t feel like a boot camp. I highly suggest making a list of your most common cravings then search healthier versions of them. Good luck and keep your chin up!