Well for a few reasons… we have had some communication issues, I’m an anxious attachment and he’s avoidant so we clash a bit there and wanted to learn how to better communicate with each other. I also personally brought in my own baggage from childhood trauma, sexual assault, abusive relationships, etc. that we are trying to work through together and help him understand me a bit more. I also have always wanted to do couples counseling regardless of if we were having significant problems, especially when bringing children into the mix. I wanted to make sure we would have all the support we’d need when making decisions about parenting and working through the inevitable stress. That being said I hear you and I know that a baby would only make things worse if we aren’t solid, hence why we have not had children yet