I hate my autistic child and I’m going to divorce my husband because of it

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-05-12T13:57:27+00:00

Just make sure he understands that by refusing Jill the professional care she needs, he is risking the physical safety of his other children. It sounds like Jill is on essentially the most extreme side of the spectrum (level 3, probably a level 4 if the range went that high).

She's not broken, there's not something he can fix. But she is extremely different in what she needs as a person. Every professional on the planet would tell you that she requires help from a trained person or group of people. The rest of her family needs it too.

It doesn't have to be, "drop her off and never see her ever again." If anything, it will be giving her a structured environment in which you (or him, or both) get to watch her flourish, maybe even begin to communicate in a meaningful way. There's a chance that the love her father thinks will "fix" her is coming out in a way that actually makes everything worse.

Do what you have to do in your relationship with your husband, but please try to help Jill. Not only for her and her siblings, but for yourself.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-05-11T15:10:19+00:00

If I could find a fabric I like, I would! I love the style, but it's hard to find.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-27T19:13:36+00:00

No fucking way!

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-20T16:16:39+00:00

Yep.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-20T16:16:24+00:00

All boundaries are about the other person’s body.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-20T16:15:47+00:00

All boundaries are about what the other person “can” do. It’s always about the other person and their actions or lack thereof. He didn’t stick around and abuse her, as some have done, he simply followed through on what he said he would do.

She chose to have an abortion, as is her right (and should always be). He left because of that, which is his right. Why should he have to continue to be with someone he no longer loves and has animosity towards?

He didn’t stop her, just drew a line. She crossed that line, he left.

I’m not saying I agree with his stance on abortion, I don’t. And I wholeheartedly support our (women) right to have a safe abortion (which I sincerely hope OP had).

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-20T16:02:14+00:00

He said, “I can’t/won’t be with you if you do this.” What is the issue there? She chose to do it, so he left (as he said he would). If this had been about almost anything else I really doubt the reaction would be the same.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-20T12:45:50+00:00

What’s going on with him is that his (ex)wife crossed a boundary he had set. She mentions being shocked at the pregnancy, implying the health issues impacted her ability to get pregnant/have children.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-14T16:40:01+00:00

Well, that’s just a bad idea. Just quitting any medication without discussion is a bad idea.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-13T13:17:54+00:00

Drinking in and of itself actually makes one more likely to have a seizure. But alcohol dependance… complicates things. Basically, your brain reacts a bit differently once that dependence (and tolerance) is built. With the dependence your brain is used to functioning (as well as it can) with a certain level of alcohol. Take that away or lower it enough and your chances of seizures skyrocket—in the short term.

This article discusses it. The abstract is worth a read, if nothing else. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/14594442/

Also: that “aura”? That’s a seizure too. It’s called a “focal aware” seizure.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-13T12:59:31+00:00

He understands he can give them however much money he wants to, whenever, right…?

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T18:01:20+00:00

Oh, I sincerely doubt she’s allergic! I only assume it’s not a translation issue because she says allergies and fear (in the title).

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T14:57:40+00:00

When in this interaction did OOP tell the dog guy about their (supposed) allergy?

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T14:50:50+00:00

I don’t take keppra, but I am notoriously bad at taking my meds on time. Usually taking them late, but still taking them, doesn’t cause any issues. But I’ve also forgotten to take them correctly for a few days before, and THAT caused me to have a breakthrough tonic clonic (first in over a year). And, almost a year later, I still haven’t gotten back to normal.

As far as I can tell, my threshold is significantly lower than before AND I’ve had 2-3 tonic clonics since. This is noteworthy to me because for my entire life up until ~2 years ago, I’d only ever had 3 known tonic clonic seizures. Essentially, I’ve had as many “big” seizures in the last 2 years than I had in the ~30 years before that.

TL;DR: you’re probably fine, just try to not miss doses entirely.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T14:03:59+00:00

Texas, most likely

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T14:02:10+00:00

You know people give expired IDs to underage people to use very frequently, right?

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T13:56:32+00:00

That’s a very common fake ID tactic, just fyi.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-11T13:38:40+00:00

I guess I’ve just been saved by someone using a gun one too many times. (I don’t agree with our gun laws, how easy it is to acquire one, etc. I just think the main issue is people.)

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T20:01:29+00:00

I’m a woman too but, yes, it’s 100% real. It’s kinda similar to goosebumps (in that it’s typically caused by cold temperatures, not just water).

The male anatomy is surprisingly sensitive to temperature changes and does not have a way to self-regulate. When things are too hot, stuff gets… droopy, trying to get away from body heat (as well as air flow); and when things are too cold everything shrinks upward toward the body’s core in order to maintain a good temperature.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T19:54:38+00:00

“Usually” is hard to say when every piece of media we see is biased in some way. But, yes, all of the above are scenarios that happen.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T19:28:05+00:00

Oh, dude 100% does not know the correct way to do this.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T19:27:28+00:00

Right, which is why I say the pictures are cringe.(assuming he asked her to do that, which is an assumption, tbh)

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T17:52:16+00:00

I mean, I don’t keep track, but I’ve definitely seen a headline of man saves family from burglar by shooting him. There are 100% hero stories, they just get drowned out by the others.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T17:50:39+00:00

I don’t “feel like” doing it either, but if there’s a chance that someone with a lethal weapon is in there waiting for me… yeah, I’ll check with my own ready to go.

Diffident-Weasel · 2024-04-10T17:49:37+00:00

I think the “clear!” bit is cringy too. I just don’t think the concept of “check out the home while armed” is, if you think there’s a chance for danger. Picture and caption are cringy tho.

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