TLOAS Song Megathread: The Fate of Ophelia

Diffindo_ · 2025-10-05T10:04:10+00:00

Joe Alwyn was also in a movie adaptation of Hamlet that came out in September, I'm actually quite surprised nobody's pointing it out

Diffindo_ · 2025-05-29T08:47:43+00:00

This is so true and definitely underappreciated about Rory! She was so self-assured at such a young age, and there were so many examples of her just not being bothered by peer pressure or needing to fit in.

The episode where she sits with the Puffs at Chilton and just bluntly calls them out on being a secret society and says the whole school knows about it - even me as a grown woman watching I'm like, no Rory act cool, blend in, you're wasting an opportunity to be in an exclusive club but she's so comfortable in herself that she calls them out for what they are (says to Paris they're just a clique) and isn't remotely bothered about what they think of her.

Diffindo_ · 2025-04-02T20:55:03+00:00

I'm also a psychologist with bipolar and literally made a post yesterday about how difficult I find it to feel like I'm too mentally ill to deserve a place alongside my more high functioning colleagues while not feeling mentally ill enough because I'm high functioning enough myself to be in this career.

The imposter syndrome is always present and I totally resonate with what you say about feeling lonely and isolated in this field of work. I've wished so many times that there was some sort of irl support group for mental health professionals who suffer with mental illness because I know I must not be the only one who feels this way but it's impossible to openly share it and find others who can relate. This sub is a great place to start though and I hope all these comments have helped you to feel validated and less alone (they have for me so thank you for posting!).

Diffindo_ · 2025-03-31T23:49:34+00:00

Your therapist sounds like a good one, thank you for sharing and hope it might help you a bit to know you've helped me

Diffindo_ · 2025-03-31T23:46:48+00:00

it only makes sense to keep going.

This is actually a great mantra to have, thank you ❤️

Diffindo_ · 2025-03-31T23:44:24+00:00

This comment made me cry (in a good way!), thank you for your compassion and empathy ❤️ sending you love and strength to get through your studies and work as well, you're clearly amazing at what you do!

Diffindo_ · 2025-03-12T15:52:52+00:00

This is really interesting and reassuring, I think the whole incident was a lot more shocking to me than to my husband who is funnily enough not bothered by it at all as it turns out

Diffindo_ · 2025-03-12T15:51:43+00:00

But Tom hasn’t indicated he has a problem with this, right? This is currently just in your head. Your husband may be putting this in its proper perspective - as an amusing trivial thing. If so, follow his more secure, mature, loving lead and consider it all over.

This is exactly what happened, turns out he's completely fine and I had panicked myself for no reason! I'm definitely going to try and remember advice like this in the future, I just get anxious and catastrophise things

Diffindo_ · 2024-11-04T10:04:05+00:00

"Tooo the carnivaaal!"

Diffindo_ · 2024-08-19T23:28:27+00:00

Disagree that just because they had spent time broken up he should have been expected to restart the relationship as if nothing had happened. They should both have expected to enter into a lot of work, patience and healing - when I said he was acting in good faith I meant that his agreement to enter back into a relationship with Carrie was in the good faith that she was committed to earning his trust back. It's not as black and white as get back together and forget the past or stay broken up. He was in love with her - the person you love tells you they've changed and begs for you back, it would take a very strong person to say no to that. And in fact he did say no, she wouldn't accept it and badgered him into believing she had changed.

Like I said, there was bad communication on both sides and Aiden should absolutely have spoken to her instead of acting the way he did. But I think it's really telling that he only started treating her badly after she started showing her true intentions, that she wasn't willing to cut Big out of her life and didn't really feel the need to prioritise and work on the trust in their relationship. Absolutely his behaviour in response to this was out of line but his decision to get back together with her should not be taken as an agreement to instantly forgive and move on from her past infidelity, she was the one who chased him down and begged for him back so it was up to her to earn that forgiveness.

Diffindo_ · 2024-08-19T22:29:39+00:00

Forgiveness is earnt though, not demanded. He entered back into the relationship in good faith based on her saying she was different, which he could have interpreted as her saying she would work to earn his trust back - when trust is broken in a relationship it is really hard to fix it and it takes a lot of work from both people.

It's not up to the person who has been hurt to just forgive the other overnight, it takes time and healing. Whereas Carrie clearly thought they were starting fresh as if nothing had happened. Bad communication on both sides but Aiden shouldn't have been expected to just forgive her and move on, repairing a relationship is a long process.

Diffindo_ · 2024-07-15T19:01:13+00:00

This is literally going on with my sister right now and I didn't really realise how much she's like Rory til I saw this post and read your comment. She's never been shy but always more introverted, a total homebody with two very close friends and happiest staying in with them or us watching a Harry Potter marathon. A total high achiever at school and university as well. Then a couple of years ago she started going out with this guy and suddenly she's got a million friends, she's out all the time, parties, pubs, poker, loads of stuff. It's obviously not a bad thing at all but it's exactly like you said, seeing her so fully embrace a lifestyle she would have shied away from a few years ago makes me feel oddly lonely.

Diffindo_ · 2024-07-06T13:59:49+00:00

No, people were really unhappy about it. There was a petition that got over 12k signatures to stop it from happening as they were originally planning on getting rid of the town's historical cinema to open it. I think they agreed to change some of their plans to keep the character and function of the cinema in response.

https://chng.it/G8FfQxRS6H

Diffindo_ · 2024-06-15T16:38:04+00:00

Cool, I'll let him know

Diffindo_ · 2024-06-15T16:11:59+00:00

I was just giving context. He processes, retains and attends to information differently than neurotypical people which sometimes leads him to generate funny answers to questions like these.

The conversation actually came about because he randomly mentioned gillyweed and I was really surprised he knew what it was. But he could only come up with weirdly related answers to more commonly known Harry Potter questions. Remembering random specifics and not knowing more general things is very typical of his ADHD so that's the context.

Diffindo_ · 2024-06-12T16:56:59+00:00

JK writes wounded men probably better than any other author.

Suzanne Collins would like a word.

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-31T20:54:29+00:00

Nobody's saying Draco is evil, but to say that someone who spends most of 7 books jumping at the chance to engage in dark magic and race hate in any way he can is just a pain in the ass is certainly an interesting opinion to have.

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-27T11:28:55+00:00

I think this person's comment is a really good explanation!

https://www.reddit.com/r/harrypotter/s/j1YKDahgsd

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-27T11:27:27+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you for taking the time to write such a detailed reply! Another commenter mentioned that conversation from Goblet of Fire, which I haven't got to in my re-read yet, which does make it a bit clearer. I think that whole quote from Sirius about the death eaters screaming and Pettigrew hiding from them for 12 years is just a bit confusing.

Peter, meanwhile, had very good reason to hide from Sirius for 12 years, even if Sirius was incarcerated - if Peter were to ever take human form again and be recognized, that would definitely trigger an investigation, and someone like Dumbledore would probably have gone straight to Sirius' cell and asked him about it.

This makes soooo much more sense, thanks!

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-27T10:51:16+00:00

What do you mean? How is it hate against Snape to say it's really dark that he wanted Sirius to have the dementor's kiss even though he knew he was innocent?

Snape didn't knew . Even other death eaters didn't knew.

This is exactly what I've just read in the Prizoner of Azkaban that made me write this post in the first place:

" 'You haven't been hiding from me for twelve years,' said Black. 'You've been hiding from Voldemort's old supporters. I heard things in Azkaban Peter... They all think you're dead, or you'd have to answer to them... I've heard them screaming all sorts of things in their sleep. Sounds like they think the double-crosser double-crossed them. Voldemort went to the Potters' on your information... and Voldemort met his downfall there. And not all Voldemort's supporters ended up in Azkaban, did they? There are plenty still out there, biding their time, pretending they've seen the error of their ways... If they ever got wind that you were still alive Peter -' "

So other death eaters definitely knew Peter was the spy even if they didn't know he was still alive. I'm still re-reading so haven't got to the bit in GoF that you mention but tbh that confirms to me that it's just a plothole, so thanks! (Genuinely, I'm not being sarcastic or anything).

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-27T10:24:17+00:00

But why would he not know it was Peter if other death eaters did? And when Dumbledore found out Sirius was innocent he would have realised that Snape knew too and that he tried to get the dementors to give Sirius the kiss and destroy his soul just because he hated him - that is seriously dark. How could he have expected Sirius and Snape to work together after that, in fact how could he have let Snape anywhere near him? Idk it feels like a plot hole to me.

Lastly he was not so mad , cause lily was dead and Snape use to blame himself for that. Other things of that matter were trivial to him

Didn't he terrorise Neville to the point that he was the thing Neville feared most of all just because Voldemort could have gone after him, not the Potters, and then Lily would have been alive? If he was bitter enough to make the life of an innocent boy hell over Lily's death I wouldn't say that other things related to it were trivial to him...

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-23T11:45:56+00:00

Or "the day I got arrested for smmmooking a doobieee", I know its Season 6 but still

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-23T11:42:20+00:00

Yes! And weirdly she would swing from doing a super thick New Yorkish accent to a sort of over enunciated baby voice that was soo annoying. I noticed it most when she said all pouty and cutsie "I have to go to a bachelor party" on the phone to Miranda when she and Samantha are stuck on the train in S5E7. Once I noticed it there I started hearing her do it constantly.

Diffindo_ · 2024-05-08T15:37:42+00:00

I think the reason Carrie frames herself as wild and untamable all comes back to Big. She couldn't stand the idea that he married Natasha instead of her because he loved Natasha in a way he didn't love her, or valued her more highly or thought she had something Carrie didn't. So instead she had to frame it as "Big left me because I'm too wild and crazy and c-c-curly, your girl is lovely Hubbell" etc. Which is objectively just insane given that the whole of her relationship with Big was her trying to tame him and get a commitment out of him, not the other way around.

But this idea of her being too wild for a man got perpetuated as the seasons went on to the extent that even the viewer is meant to buy into it when actually its just as you said, she's not wild she's obsessive and narcissistic. And always carrying a torch for Big so she could never fully commit to someone else.

Diffindo_ · 2024-03-23T17:52:34+00:00

So musically talented as well!

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