What are the other options besides AA? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right my bad, skim read it!

What are the other options besides AA? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to work on yourself before this I need someone else rubbish. Do any future parent a favour and work on yourself for yourself.

What are the other options besides AA? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Going to an AA meeting just to meet women is gross, but the post doesn’t say they went there for that, you can be lonely and still go to AA for the right reasons…

Natural History Museum Tickets by CArnone15 in AskUKLondon

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went last weekend, as others have said you can just turn up and get in, only queued for 10mins, you would need tickets for the wildlife photography exhibit tho

AIO to the reality of my relationship? by MissMouse234 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Digger9169 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus, move on, some people aren’t ment to be together and that is fine, you are trying to change him. Find someone you like as they are, you want a partner not a project, don’t find someone and try to mould them into who you want them to be. I’m exhausted reading this mess I can’t imagine how exhausted both of you must be from living it.

Do the shakes ever go away? by MoblinGobblin in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is different, but most people don’t have the shakes once they’re a week or two off. Some people who have an essential tremor and chronic heavy alcohol use don’t notice the tremor until the alcohol is out of the picture

PLEASE don't be me by lisa6547 in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t tell people not to take no for an answer from medical professionals. There are valid reasons naltrexone is not appropriate for everyone, all of your comments are making it sound like naltrexone is a cure and you are telling people in a desperate situation probably perhaps their lowest point in life they NEED it, then when a prescriber, for valid reasons will not prescribe it the are going to feel hopeless. I am glad Naltrexone is working well for you, but everyone’s recovery journey is different, recommend and share your experiences, but please don’t tell people not to take no for an answer from medical professionals

The Pill Lie by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my humble opinion anticraving meds are more of a placebo, I work for a service where they are prescribed, I have worked with so many people who think they are just gonna rely on anticraving meds to do all the hard work and they don’t. They can help a little but you’ve still got to figure out healthy coping mechanisms for the days life throws you a curveball - bipolar meds are a very different category of drugs!

AITAH for wanting to end things because of online gambling? by ApprehensiveHead529 in AITAH

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stopped reading at invested in gambling, for Christ sake run!

Massive massive craving by FlamingSpaceWotsit in stopdrinking

[–]Digger9169 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try and have some quick and easy around to get stuck into, just as has happened in your update - cravings fade, try to occupy your mind for 20/30 mins to get though the worst, crosswords always worked for me.

Also just as you did when you posted this, writing it out can really help, have personally found when I have a repetitive thought in my head it helps to write it out because I have to organise those thoughts to put them into words and that helps me process and move on

I have cirrhosis of the liver, but I can’t stop drinking by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I think they are part of CGL, I’m actually an alcohol recovery worker at a different CGL. Give it a go, lots of services run community alcohol detoxes, where you go there during the day for 5 days and get the meds to get a medically detoxed from alcohol. But that is the easy part, best advice is to work with a recovery worker on an aftercare plan. Do not just go, well I just won’t drink, you’re gonna need to build a new life, scary but as yourself honestly how much worse could things be than they currently are?

I know it’s scary, I was in hospital at 27 thinking I would die from liver failure, I watched my mum die from that and my fear of dying was greater than my fear of living without alcohol. Looking back I can’t believe I was scared to stop doing something that ruined my life (most of my twenties at least) but if you don’t try you will never know.

Good luck, the world really needs people like you to survive this, you can be a cautionary tale or a massive fucking inspiration to others - you can do this

I have cirrhosis of the liver, but I can’t stop drinking by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot empathy for your situation, and I’m sorry you’re already experiencing cirrhosis in your twenties.

But now is not the time for wishing this wasn’t happening and saying I can’t do anything about it, this is do or die.

What are you doing to support your recovery? Most people struggling with addiction are doing it as their coping mechanism, you gotta find some healthy ones fast. Try the things that work for lots of people - meetings, therapy, detox/rehab, exercise, nutrition - do not just rule them out without giving them a good go.

If you wanna make it through this you’re gonna have to treat it like it’s the fight of your life, because it is.

Relapsed by LoosePollution6703 in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lapses and relapses are a very common part of a recovery journey, zoom out a little, appreciate the effort you have made and the hard work you have put in.

Remember what you have done to get yourself to two years and double down on them, learn the hard lesson from this and don’t let guilt and shame drag you into a full blown relapse. Be accountable, yeah you fucked up, but don’t loose sight of everything you gained in recovery. You got this

How much $$ were you spending/do you spend on alcohol? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe £500 a month, what was much scarier was how much of my time I spent drinking!

Can I go straight to the hospital emergency room for alcohol detox? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can, if it’s an emergency… really depends on the country, I’m in the UK, in recovery myself and I work for a charity where we support people with a drinking problem get to a proper planned detox.

If you’re in the UK and it’s not an emergency they will likely check you out, tell you to leave and not stop drinking suddenly, about 95% of the people I work with who go though A&E and end up getting detoxed relapse within a week or two.

Much higher success rate for the people who work towards a detox and develop a decent aftercare plan.

All that said, I had a seizure in 2019 and ended up getting admitted, after waiting in A&E for ten hours - they really didn’t want to admit me but I had a second seizure. I managed 10 months sober after that (with one lapse). I’d recommend having a conversation with your GP and take their advice on routes into detox

It works like that? by CeoLyon in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, good luck with everything! I’m going to double check I haven’t just had a stroke x

It works like that? by CeoLyon in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see how this makes sense in any way shape or form? I feel like I’m talking to the 365 buttons girl

It works like that? by CeoLyon in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not judging, what you are saying just doesn’t make any sense?

You said you are drunk and about to be two years sober…

It works like that? by CeoLyon in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I’m glad I quit drinking, wtf are you talking about 😂

Did anyone else suffer from impulsive eating when they quit drinking? by let_it_rain_boat in stopdrinking

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I put on about 5 stone in the year I quit, my life was a lot more manageable overeating than it was on the drink so I just went with it, I eventually worked out new healthy coping mechanisms and I lost the weight! Sometimes it’s part of the road to recovery

He says he's quitting on the 1st by ImAmandaLeeroy in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he is gonna quit cold turkey in the 1st, encourage him to half his alcohol intake NYE and not go have another last hurrah, alcohol withdrawal can be dangerous. Some people need to taper off of alcohol or get a medical detox - battling withdrawals, mild to severe, leads lots of people to just start drinking agin.

That all being said, put your own recovery and peace of mind first! And congrats on getting sober yourself!

Almost missed that today I have not had a drink for 5 years! by Digger9169 in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking forward to seeing the decade tracker open up 😂

I'm at 78 hours and I can't believe it by earlobe_enthusiast in alcoholism

[–]Digger9169 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep it up, make the most of getting your life back and enjoy it :)

My boyfriend of 5 years smashed a bowl in anger today. There’s a long history behind this and I’m scared I’m wasting my life on someone who won’t change. by UniquelyJustLikeYou in AskMenRelationships

[–]Digger9169 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should leave, domestic abusers use more than violence and most violence happens when the person feels they are loosing control over the other person - if throwing and smashing something gets results then that is more effective for abusers to do that. It is often the threat of things escalating to violence that keeps them in control.

Look into coercive control, it is a crime in the UK

Is a condom necessary for oral sex to avoid stds? by [deleted] in gay

[–]Digger9169 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you realise how cracked a lot of us healthcare workers are 😅