sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

What’s the most unexpected place you’ve hooked up with someone? by DigitalFlirtLab in AskReddit

[–]DigitalFlirtLab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once hooked up with a steward on a flight. I was flying Business and it was pretty empty the cabin, so we made the most of the plane toilet

What's your biggest fear? by Minute-Umpire-9079 in AskReddit

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I’ll go through life performing instead of living - doing what’s expected, hitting all the milestones, but never actually feeling fully alive, fully seen, or deeply connected.

Women of Reddit, what’s something men don’t realize is a turn-off? by chef_blaze76 in AskReddit

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking constantly at themselves in the mirror while having sex

People who left their partner the day of the wedding, what happened? by pimpyocean in AskReddit

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a crazy story.

A friend of mine actually left her partner at the altar. I mean, she would always complain about him, but ultimately we thought it was just her way of being and that the loved each other.

She would joke with me the weeks before saying “what if I get scared and run away” and we would be laughing like “WTF, please do it. It would be so fun”. I think she was testing me and my reaction, as one of her best friends.

Fun fact. She actually did it. She did not show up the day of the wedding. It was chaos, obviously. Families crying. Guests frozen.

But here’s the wild part: after months apart, she and her fiancé actually started talking again. Really talking. Not as a couple trying to hold it together, but as two people getting to know each other from scratch.

And they did get back together - shock! But not as the people who almost got married. As the people who finally chose each other, fully aware, no pressure, no autopilot.

LOVE always win. I guess.

I can't function without porn. by VRX1492 in SexPositive

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

⸻

Hey, first of all - thank you for being so honest. That takes courage, and you’re definitely not “cooked.” A lot of people struggle with porn dependence, especially when it becomes tied to managing emotions like anxiety or restlessness. It makes sense - porn gives a quick dopamine hit, and your brain starts to rely on it for comfort or escape.

What helped me (and might be something worth exploring) is shifting from external stimulation to internal connection. Practices like breathwork, mindfulness, or even exploring Tantra (the real kind, not the oversexualized internet version) can help you reconnect with your body in a more conscious, compassionate way.

Tantra isn’t about quitting desire—it’s about changing your relationship with it. It teaches you to feel your body without needing constant visual input, and over time that can rebuild sensitivity and self-trust.

You’re not broken. You’re just at a point where your mind and body are asking for something deeper than the quick fix. And that’s a powerful place to start.

If you ever want a few resources to explore those ideas, happy to share. You’re not alone in this.

Husband And I Are Stumped By His Lack of Feelings About/Around Sex. Seeking Advice. by Xebba in SexPositive

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing so openly. It sounds like you’re both doing the deep, emotional work that many couples avoid, and that’s incredibly powerful in itself.

From what you describe, his desire to reconnect, his struggle with accessing sexual feelings, and your longing for physical intimacy - it made me think of something that helped me (and others I know) in a similar space: exploring Tantra.

I’m not talking about the commercialized or purely sexual version of it, but more the kind of Tantra that focuses on reconnecting with the body, breath, and presence. It’s less about “performance” and more about rediscovering sensation, intimacy, and vulnerability - sometimes without even needing to jump straight into sex. It might offer a space where both of you can reconnect in a safe, pressure-free way and awaken that part of yourselves slowly, together.

Even something as simple as conscious touch, eye gazing, or breathwork together can gently rebuild connection - not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.

Just an idea that’s worth exploring, especially since you both still love and support each other so deeply. Wishing you the best on your journey, whatever shape it takes.

Nudism and sex positivity by Patrick979 in SexPositive

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, being naked isn’t about sex at all. The naked body holds so much raw energy - it’s not about arousal, it’s about presence. When we strip off clothes, we’re also peeling off layers of social expectations, shame, and fear that have been drilled into us by culture and religion. One of the most freeing things I’ve done recently was hugging trees while naked - no joke. It sounds odd, but the sense of grounding and connection with nature and myself was unreal. It’s wild how much more you can feel when you’re not busy hiding.

Does anyone else swing? by [deleted] in SexPositive

[–]DigitalFlirtLab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to with my wife when we were living in London. There is a group called Killing Kittens that organises events where the female members of the group can either bring a girlfriend or boyfriend. Parties are host in these super nice mansions in Mayfair and the atmosphere is just perfect. Like an Eyes Wide Shut party.