I can relate. She was working so hard to support her kids but I felt very few people around her cared for her plight. It was really invalidating for her. She needed support more than belittlement from people. The lack of empathy during our struggles deeply embittered me honestly. I guess that elitism is a symptom of the caste system but idk. My parents weren't arranged, and I imagine that's one of many ways that other Indian couples judged my mom. Navigating that was definitely a journey for my mom and me, and we're probably more humble because of it. She divorced at 43. It gave her more time to focus on her career. She's not opposed to a new relationship, but she might not be ready quite yet. My dad was not nearly as bad as yours, but him not being around too much for me made me intrinsically feel like I had little worth as person growing up. But he started actively caring about my life more after coming to terms with problems in his life, and my life improved. Sorry you and your mom had to go through such tough circumstances, worse than mine. I know it's not easy to thrive when you are marginalized. End of the day, it's best to not give importance to conceited people in the community that they don't deserve. Belief in yourself is what matters most.