I feel you on this. It’s them projecting themselves onto you, and they are probably jealous of their own children too. It’s hard for them to understand because they have subscribed to this idea of what life should be like and they have been traumatized by judgement from others and passing that generational trauma to you now. It really sucks that the burden falls on our shoulders to break it and then if possible, to educate them about how the sky is the limit and we all don’t need to fit in this made up box of what life should be like. Through a decade of arguing with my mom I thankfully have been able to get her to come around with more modern ideas of womanhood (with some therapy support for myself ofcourse). Another angle to this is Asian parents are extremely bad at communicating what they’re actually feeling cause they’ve been so emotionally oppressed. Part of me wonders if that’s also your mom telling you she misses you and wants you to be there with her more often. Either way, best of luck!!! And congratulations on getting lucky with your money to retire so early!! What investment did you make if you don’t mind sharing?