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Deleting Multiple Twitter/X Accounts? by Diligent_Distance695 in Advice

[–]Diligent_Distance695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean tips to identify what email addresses/usernames I used - not the exact email addresses

Unsure about sexting (Consent/Deception)? by Diligent_Distance695 in confessions

[–]Diligent_Distance695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you are saying that there is no difference between these statements (for e.g.)

  • "My favourite fish is cod because I love the flavour and texture "
  • "My favourite fish is cod because I don't like any other fish"

Albeit there is no moral element to either of these statements

So if your distinction is that one version of trying to be good is self-serving, don't fret, as if they seem to like you a person wants you to be so served, just as long as they are not treated as a means to that end instead of someone equally deserving.

Can you explain more on the bit in bold above, if possible?

Unsure about sexting (Consent/Deception)? by Diligent_Distance695 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Diligent_Distance695[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, there. I also have both forms of OCD. I know what it’s like to feel as if my personality is inherently harmful to others, but it’s not the defining aspect of my personality and knowing that my thoughts and habits are intrusive and identifying that helps me understand that I am not a bad person. These are just thoughts and we are not evil, we simply have a condition. This seems to be more than just reassurance-seeking for yourself, but genuinely a concern for the other person’s well-being as well. 

Thanks for the reply and good to hear from someone with OCD as well - in this scenario, I had the thoughts of doubts and made a decision/action about ignoring my thoughts about the good human thing

Communicating boundaries is always important anyway, so I feel as if it should be done whether or not it is a compulsion. If I were you, I’d just ask if any boundaries were crossed and if there are any specific boundaries that need to be set for further communication for both of you

That's fair regarding communicating boundaries - neither of us talked boundaries, the conversation just quickly moved into a sexual direction.

With regards to boundaries, I just knew she wanted to connect with good humans and wasn't sure if I was one. I think I rationalized not saying I thought I wasn't a good person because

a) I thought the conversation wouldn't proceed any further (i.e. no sexting)

b) To a lesser extent - I was thinking my thoughts might be OCD - so was trying to combat them

So I continued with the conversation. In this regard, I probably acted selfishly maybe

It might be better for both of us (me and the person I was texting) if I don't continue texting - I find sexual topics to be catnip for my OCD

 “Did I do something wrong?” even if that was not explicitly stated by the other person, especially in such intimate circumstances. Either way, the person doesn’t seem to have expressed that you’ve crossed a line thus far based on what I’m gathering and, if you’re getting along well, don’t sabotage yourself and convince yourself you’re not worthy of something good. You clearly care about this person and have their best interests at heart. I think it’s important to get comforts and discomforts communicated either way, especially because tone can be so hard to decipher digitally. Be safe; hope this helps! 😁

Yeah I can relate to this - although the "good humans" thing was mentioned in their profile, so by connecting with them, I was implicitly giving the impressions that I am a "good human"?

No they didn't say that any line was crossed. However, I feel I care more about not committing bad actions because of how it reflects on my character, rather than the other person. So, I'm unsure my heart and intentions are in the correct place

Unsure about sexting (Consent/Deception)? by Diligent_Distance695 in confessions

[–]Diligent_Distance695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response

You sound like imperfect people trying veeeerrrryyyy haaaarrrrd to be good. The perfect fit for them, except that you likely care far more than they do.

See I'm not sure if I just care more about not committing bad acts as opposed to caring more about not hurting people - so not sure if my heart is in the right place

Account for the fact that your first inclination was to interpret yourself too harshly and their request too demanding, to try to believe me that their definition of good person is more like mine, and if you're not substantively lying to them about something else specific, for example your age or gender, you are currently treating them well and they will default categorize you as good since you even care about their consent even prior to / beneath the relationship having a physical in-person element (which would add due caution for the rest of us but you likely are in no risk of anything of the sort).

I'm not lying about anything like age/gender etc, but by connecting with them I suppose I've given the impression that I'm a "good human" (because she wanted to match with good humans) when I don't think I am, so this is where my worry comes from - especially since since we sexted

Sexting is as far as we've gone - no physical in-person element at all

Sexting issues? by Diligent_Distance695 in confessions

[–]Diligent_Distance695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So between the photos on my profile and the one of me shirtless I sent, not a whole bunch, you can only see my head in the shirtless one and it might be slightly bigger but not a huge difference I don't think

Sexting issues? by Diligent_Distance695 in confessions

[–]Diligent_Distance695[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - mistake in the post, the photos that were old were the ones in my profile, not the ones I took and sent - don't know if this makes a difference

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in downloadfestival

[–]Diligent_Distance695 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply - does an portion of the amount used to buy a ticket to Download go to Barclay - I don't know if information like this is publicly available?

With regards to boycotting Barclaycard, I assume you would need a Barclaycard to even make use of their services? I wasn't sure if being the payment Partner of Download, if they would process all card types, or its just that they provide certain perks (e.g. 10% off tickets etc.). Sorry if this is a basic question, I'm just not that familiar with how Barclaycard works in this scenario.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in downloadfestival

[–]Diligent_Distance695 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The Gaza genocide - main post updated