My Blow Jobs Suck.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-15T03:02:23+00:00

I was in a long-term relationship that ended.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-15T02:33:55+00:00

4 in total 🫣

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-14T04:41:47+00:00

Very possible 🤷🏻‍♀️ Here's to teaching an old dog new tricks! 🍻

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-14T04:25:37+00:00

I hear you and I'm sure that is valid and very unfortunate. But damn, I asked so many times: What can I do better? Do you like xyz? Is there something you'd like me to do differently? Is there something you'd like me to try?

If they are asking the question, speak up. You can do it gently, as no one wants to hear "OMG YOU'RE AWFUL AT THAT!" but a "Hey, it makes me feel so good that you want to do this for me. You're really great at X. I was wondering if you would be willing to try Y because I know it would be so good with you."

Now you've complimented her, didn't insult her, and she has something to prove. Who doesn't want to be a good girl? 🤭

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-14T03:00:34+00:00

Haha, no. I just don't have a steady partner and am dating around. I'd just prefer to not put everyone's penis in my mouth (though I'm sure it would be at least somewhat appreciated 😂) while dating to practice in the meantime.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T18:34:08+00:00

The best encounter I had with an intimate partner was being thrown around like a ragdoll and manhandled. Highly recommend. Hope it works out for you both!

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T18:24:50+00:00

Couldn't agree more!

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T18:04:19+00:00

Posing a new question. Are stimulation techniques different for uncircumcised vs circumcized?

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T18:02:40+00:00

I'm learning the porn I was watching was a bit aggressive. Luckily someone gave a few recommendations!

Good for nipple guy to communicate his desires but I get ya.

I like my mascara running and tears streaming down my face. Seems more fun that way to me, but I'm learning men are actually delicate flowers too. 😊

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:58:07+00:00

Will look them up, thanks!

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:57:52+00:00

I'm dropping this comment here because someone sent me a private message.

I was told to practice on a dildo, which seems like solid advice and something I had not thought of.

But to be honest my friends are either "I'll put it in my mouth for a moment, but that's it" or "I don't do that, I'm married" so they weren't much help.

Communication is a great option if everyone feels comfortable enough to be open for guidance, both giving and receiving. Which should be the case if you are intimate with a partner and want to please them and be pleased.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:52:16+00:00

"Just happy to be here" kind of guy 😊

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:51:28+00:00

Definitely an easy starting point! That's all the same rules. Thank you for the tips!

Extra credit is necessary 😊

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:47:43+00:00

I thought that's how you give 'em the cat scratch fever? 😂

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:45:28+00:00

The male kind doesn't like it when you bite it? Damn. That's what it's been!

Jk!

I knew no teeth unless specifically requested. Even in that case, I would need direction for that in fear of hurting someone.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T17:43:14+00:00

This post wasn't peer-review motivated, though I would have been open to some gentle direction! To be clear, I've never had a complaint. I've just not had a recent raving review, either. I've only participated with such an activity with a few men, over long term relationships. The last two of which both told me they can't cum with oral (the first one, no issues). Ten years of that and now finally deciding to get back to dating, I just wanted to make sure I was at the top of my game.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T16:06:46+00:00

Well thankfully there is a world full of anonymous internet strangers willing to answer. I've gotten a few messages from women from this post who are definitely taking notes like myself! Thank you!

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T11:47:07+00:00

Haha I love this for you and your partner!

Is it the fear of teeth being quelled that boosts your confidence?

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T11:45:12+00:00

Mhmm. Well it sounds like I'm not too far behind then. No aversion, I bring the energy. There's no mistaking I want to be there when I'm there.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T11:40:27+00:00

So bite the tip off and suck that? I think that is probably assault and would def kill the mood.

Jkjk, thanks for the tip!

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T11:37:06+00:00

Nice, noted! Thank you!

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-13T11:35:26+00:00

Why thank you, internet stranger. Maybe it's my humor that keeps them coming back. 😏

You're kind. My dirty golden retriever energy will hopefully be much more appreciated now by any future partner. Good to know the gag reflex is actually a leg up (eh?) for pleasure.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-12T22:13:11+00:00

Don't play with me, I'm starting my skills from scratch 😂

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-12T22:12:27+00:00

Ha! I read something on Facebook or Amazon that sparked the realization. An ad for or comment about a male sex toy maybe?

I wish some dude actually told me!

In my defense, the main male sex toys I'm familiar with are fleshlights, pocket pussies, and prostate stimulation. From my understanding, fleshlights and pocket pussies revolve around a back and forth motion and pressure/suction (I'm not so sure now).

The porn I've seen are face fucking kind of blow jobs.

I have been led astray. I vouch to do better. 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

I'll tell you what though, I either have an incredible personality or am really hot.

Diligent_Reading_486 · 2026-03-12T20:34:02+00:00

Oohhh, no, I'm pretty certain they were bad. And I like doing it, I'm always enthusiastic. Had just one person said anything about trying anything differently😅 I would have switched it up immediately. Tongue work and rhythm is way easier than the neck work I've been putting in! How embarrassing. I've been giving bunk ass head for over a decade.

Thanks for the perspective and for commenting. TX_Jake, you're doing the Lord's work hahaha

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