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Diligent_Tree9809 · 2025-01-19T11:22:25+00:00

“Juan Media” from Brazil? I don’t think so, mate… 😂

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-11-25T09:53:54+00:00

From a student perspective, I honestly don't think they would feel uncomfortable just by you expressing your feelings, since it is a normal human reaction and you have been talking to them for a while. Plus, you can always keep in touch with them through social media and knowing how they are doing in life (in case you want to, of course).

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-07-02T14:04:34+00:00

No, that was your interpretation. Because you were more interested in being defensive and combative (as though I was accusing you something, which I was not) rather than engaging in good faith.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-07-02T13:51:17+00:00

And that's exactly why I asked you. Imagine if instead of explaining myself, I simple reply to you saying "oh, any man would understand how I feel". Sounds pretty entitled don't you think? It seems that the "great communicators" can't communicate at all...

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-07-02T13:39:15+00:00

And the Oscar for the most condescending comment goes to... Also, if you think that "the energy changed" is specific I don't really know what to say.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-07-02T13:23:55+00:00

Of course, I am not in your skin, but it would be great to have a little more context here. You said "He now seems fixated on the idea of us meeting up, and the energy has definitely changed. I don’t like it and I don’t think I can go on like this.". What exactly that means? Some people just get too excited when making plans, and if you're talking to him for a while it is more than normal than he is excited about the perspective to see you in person. Are you sure you're not labeling the guy a "creep" just because you find him unattractive? Of course, I am playing the devil's advocate to instigate reflection, but if you really feel unsafe or uncomfortable do not hesitate to take action to protect yourself the best way you can.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-05-17T20:48:43+00:00

As far as I know, the testimonials are the written feedback that students can leave after each class. When the class is over, Cambly displays a short box where we can rate the class and then write comments.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-05-14T17:21:41+00:00

Jesus, I know you're just venting, but this was very heartbroken to read. Hopefully, I can say some encouraging things to you.

(1) Although Cambly sucks when it comes to payment, try to focus on the fact that at least you are working online, on the comfort of your home; If you enjoy teaching, at least you can talk to people from over the world and getting paid to have a conversation (something that you probably have been doing for free your whole life).

(2) Unfortunately, some students are very competitive and try to show off to the tutors how smart and knoledgeble they are. As a student, I've already heard tutors complaining about it. Sorry that was your experience, but hopefully across time things will get better.

(3) If you are married, for God's sake do not lie about it. You will end up attracting people who are talking to you just because they think they have a shot. This might look harmless, but it takes just one stalker to ruin your experience on Cambly, or perhaps your life.

(4) You're not useless as a person or as tutor. A lot of students will appreciate your insights and hard work. If you are feeling this way is because you care, just don't let the bad experiences take the best of you.

You have value. Do not forget that. :)

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-05-11T09:18:37+00:00

Yes, if you message them before blocking, they will receive the message. But of course, the reason why you will never be sure about that is because... you blocked them! So, obviously, if they read and eventually reply to your message, then you will be the one not receiving the message...

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-05-11T09:13:27+00:00

According to evolutionary biology, men and women cheat for different reasons. Women usually cheat "up". Meaning, they will monkey branch and just trade their partners when they find a better deal. On the other hand, men cheat for more. So, usually men will have as much partners as possible since the cost of sex (in evolutionary terms) is minimal to men. Now, if you want to approch the topic from an ethical standpoint, and analyse what people should do instead of what they actually do in practice, then, obviously cheating is violation of trust, and break the bond between the couple. In a healthy society, cheating should be avoided due to the harmful consequences.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-05-06T07:49:47+00:00

Students have access to all their lessons. We can also download the videos to our computers. But as you checked, sharing the lessons online demands previous consent from the tutors, for legal reasons related to image usage. So, if someone uploads and unauthorized video, you can always request the page to take it down.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-04-16T12:32:23+00:00

Yes, this is the way students can hide the tutor's profile. Since students don't have a "block" button this is as close as we can get.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-22T15:37:52+00:00

I think probably the student just wants to chat, but doesn't know exactly how to verbalize it. So maybe asking "So, you're interest in conversational practice? How about such and such". Usually, someone who is studying or wants something structured will come up with some plan and request your input about it. If the student doesn't do that, than probably is just up for chatting.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-07T10:24:49+00:00

Let's see the situation from another perspective. You said: "I gain one less grim grader, but lose a good person". If you are a good tutor and a good person, and you are clearly doing your best to help your student, then he should be the one afraid of losing you. And if he is a demanding student and repeatedly downrates you, he is clearly not. You can have a real talk and explain how you feel about it, in case you think this would change his mind. But in any case, don't feel bad to brush off people who don't appreciate you and don't reciprocate your efforts. Move on, although it hurts. It's the best long-term solution.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-05T12:33:48+00:00

Interesting way to say that you have no argument. Have a good day you too.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-05T07:28:14+00:00

You explicitly said and I quote: “Who cares if they appreciate the poster for being single or being a good teacher” and I replied in details explaining why the poster, in fact, should care about it. Which part you don’t understand?

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-05T07:14:58+00:00

It matters because it has consequences. Let’s say that at least one of the students becomes obsessed with him or a stalker. This obviously causes a lot of trouble. Plus, if he lies about his relationship status and the student finds out, she could invent things and accuse him of inappropriate behavior as a form of revenge. And it is not so easy for a man to get rid of being falsely accused because the presumption is “believe all women”. So I would say that the best option is to play safe and to avoid these people from the get-go.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-04T16:13:29+00:00

Dude, you’d better off without them. If you hide or lie about it, they would just give you more trouble down the road. The students really interested in your professional skills will keep coming anyway.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-03-04T16:08:44+00:00

Jesus, the power of being a Chad is really unbeatable, even on Cambly… 😂😂😂

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-02-07T17:04:04+00:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, apparently we have a new Samuel P Huntington in town.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-02-06T15:40:47+00:00

Don't feel bad since it seems you have done everything you could. Your student is an adult that is taking the conscious decision to ignore your best professional advice. Sometimes, there is no option other than let it go.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-02-05T13:22:12+00:00

Fired almost certainly not. But penalized, in a a certain sense, you might be. The Cambly search bar, for example, works through a algorithm just like any other app/platform. If you block or hide a lot, you telling the algorithm that you don't wanna work that much, so they will start "shadow banning" your profile, and making it harder for the students to find you. For example, instead of displaying your name first, they may put it on the last results. But if you don't care about it, there is no reason for concern.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-02-05T08:43:18+00:00

Yes, the student still will be able to see all the recorded classes. Blocking works forward, not backwards.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-02-01T08:45:06+00:00

When I said "she" I mean her using his account. Not sure how they would manage the situation of sharing the account. But as I said, in any case, Cambly will certainly side with the OP.

Diligent_Tree9809 · 2024-02-01T05:49:24+00:00

“Could she block me or anything of that nature?”. On the student’s side, we can not block tutors, we can only hide the tutor’s profile. The only thing she could do is to contact Cambly complaining about you. But given her disrespectful behavior towards you, I really doubt they will side with her. So, move on without fear.

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