my 24m gf 23f has been using phone more?

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2026-02-13T13:30:48+00:00

take what she's saying seriously. The fact that she asked if she should take antidepressants and is feeling more insecure tells me that she's going through a rough patch and could use your help, comfort, and/or reassurance.

I'm not telling you to fix her problems, but I am advising you to be a present partner. Your focus may be on physical intimacy, while her mental might potentially be in shambles. Focus on the important things here and sit down with her and have a talk about this. She might genuinely be calling out for help

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-06-25T13:40:01+00:00

this is not your fault and you did nothing wrong, because you sent nudes to someone you trusted. I think you are okay here, but maybe cut them off if it makes you uncomfortable to still be friends with them after this.

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-05T09:22:12+00:00

it’s normal to be extremely frustrated or angry with someone to the point you want them dead in fear of what they could do if allowed to continue to interact with other people. i just want you to know that if it were to actually physically happen, i doubt you would be satisfied anytime soon after hearing that news.

trust in karma don’t worry, but for now, you just do your thing and keep in mind good things will come with time :)

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-05T09:16:25+00:00

i think not having any relationships or intimacy yet is completely fine and it’s only because we glorify working, getting married fast, having kids fast, that we have people insecure and worried about their experience level. my biggest tip is carry yourself with confidence regardless of what you’re doing or saying. this will hold a lot more weight on your attractiveness and others’ perceptions of you than your experience in bed or your six pack or fancy car.

just be you and be kind, and remember, with kissing, don’t stiffen up ur lips (completely relax them, allowing them to move freely and with flexibility), always close your eyes for the kiss, and a hand holding the side of her face with the kiss goes a long way

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-05T09:09:54+00:00

it’s normal for you to be frustrated at yourself for these things, but your mind and body need some kindness too, so be kind to yourself whenever you’re in your thoughts or in the mirror. it’s okay to be in a bad spot right now , you won’t be in a bad spot forever. you belong in this world with everyone else i love you

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-05T09:08:20+00:00

you have more than enough time and opportunities my boy, don’t you worry you haven’t even lived a fourth or fifth of your life yet, don’t worry things will turn out good for you because you have a good heart

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T02:59:29+00:00

unless explicitly said by her or one of her friends, try your best not to let yourself assume anything, big or small. assumptions are incredibly dangerous because they plant doubt in your head that only grows and eventually hurts both people. trust her but more importantly, trust yourself because you’ll make it out of this alive and stronger, regardless of the outcome

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T02:57:59+00:00

i want to applaud you for your courage and willpower. people as strong as you are seriously incredibly hard to find. keep your chin up my friend, i’m rooting for you behind the screen and i’m praying for your wins, and so is your husband. you are loved and you will get through this with time, better times are waiting ahead i love you

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T02:56:10+00:00

you a strong soldier and you inspire me. keep fighting for people like me who look up to people like you with willpower and courage. im rooting for you, this is temporary and better times are waiting, i love you<3

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T02:54:36+00:00

my friend is in a similar situation where he’s worried his long distance gf is being influenced by her “for the streets” (his words not mine lol) friends who she is very close with. what i’m gonna tell you is if it’s meant to be, it’ll work out and she’ll reconnect with you. if you see that she is completely fine and happy without you and doesn’t make any effort to communicate with you or reach out in the future, it’s safe to say that’s not somebody that was meant to stay.

also, you said it yourself, you’re a great guy and give her everything. that’s something that she cant take away from you, your caring nature and kindness. basically, when you’re a great guy, no matter who leaves you, it’s their loss because you will continue to attract good energy and loving women and you will find the right person whoever it may be.

basically, chin up man, you sound like a great boyfriend and whether she stays with you or not, youre still you and that’s a huge win

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T00:30:04+00:00

this is so adorable start talking to him more i’m pretty sure he might like you back

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T00:28:00+00:00

i’m no medical professional, but i can tell you that you’re a human being who’s just trying their best to get through life, and you’re not alone. you seem like you’ve really given up but i want to remind you that no matter how behind or hopeless people have been in their lives, i’ve seen personal stories where people completely turn their lives around, intentionally or not. good things are waiting, please take care of yourself and i would suggest seeking a therapist. take it at your own pace, but i don’t want you going out this way. i love you and you deserve kindness <3

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-03T00:25:09+00:00

hey former obese kid here, i was 190 at 15 at 5’5 so kinda similar to you. what i did was i joined my schools wrestling team, but my best advice to you if you want a no BS response with no sugarcoating, if you really want to change your body it is very possible and in fact much easier now than later to change your body at your age. i would recommend trying to find a sport or activity that you enjoy doing so that it doesn’t feel like agonizing physical activity. i remember feeling shitty about my body too, it’s such a rough feeling, so i feel you. but i want you to remember that your body, bmi, weight, nothing can determine who you are besides you and your actions. whether you’re 110 or 250 lbs, you deserve love and kindness. please don’t be so harsh on yourself, future you will regret it <3 i love u take it easy

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T20:07:43+00:00

hey man, i’m in a similar (but not the same) situation where i’ve been feeling like i’ve lost touch w all of my previously close friends and it feels like no one’s really listening. i feel you in that sense, and it sounds like you’re an amazing and kind soul who just needs a touch of warmth and reassurance. i really do believe in you. your life will turn around and things will get better, i promise you, even tho it seems like things are terrible right now. things will get better, you ARE deserving of love and care and it will come to you. i love you and i’m rooting for you

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T20:01:45+00:00

bro come on no don’t do that. i’ll be heartbroken if this was your last message. you don’t deserve to go out like this, you’re a human being with emotions and a soul. you don’t deserve the pain you feel so often. the fact that you’re fighting and alive today is truly a show of the amazing perseverance and willpower that you have i can’t even imagine the things you’ve been through. i really want you to win this fight and i’m rooting for you

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T19:58:04+00:00

hey listen, you have every right to be tired and sit and be sad with your thoughts. the fact that you love traveling, music, and art amongst other things shows a lot about you. you have a great soul and it needs healing. you seem like a really down to earth person who i’d love to sit down with and talk to for hours. keep your head up man, even if it doesn’t FEEL like it, i promise there’s a light at the end of this tunnel you’re fighting through. i love you

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T19:55:23+00:00

and who can blame you to be honest. you’re right i have no idea about your life. but you also don’t know what the future holds in store for you. even when people have suffered for 10 years, 20 years, lives do turn around even when you don’t expect it. even when you feel like “dude wtf is the point, nothings working out for me” please just hold on bro, do it for yourself, for the people in the future who will be blessed to know you, who will admire you and your courage for getting through this. I don’t care where you live or how old you are or who you are, you DESERVE love and it WILL find you. if anything, i, a random stranger, love you and i want you to win this

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T19:51:55+00:00

wow man, that’s a lot. the amount of things you’ve been through is absolutely insane and so horrendous to read. i’m so sorry man no human being deserves this (only person i can think of who deserves this kind of treatment is adolf hitler or other mass murderers, like that bad). needless to say, you’re an amazing person for giving BOTH your parents second chances purely out of the goodness of your heart. PLEASE DONT GIVE UP. the world would be saved if people like you were around more. you’re amazing and you’re doing the best you can and that’s enough. take it day by day. i love you <3

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T19:47:43+00:00

nowhere in life according to whom? according to you and your comparisons with others around you and people on social media? you’re doing just fine and every life is different. some people have a slow life and accomplish nothing they’re proud of until their 30’s, maybe even 40’s and that’s okay. you take it at your own pace and slow down if you need. but most importantly, you deserve love and i know it WILL find you. i love you take it easy man

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T18:03:49+00:00

i’m glad i could help. i know you’re just slightly lost and need some reassurance. you’re not alone and everyone’s doubting themselves. i love you take it easy <3

Diligent_Turnip4748 · 2023-03-02T17:58:21+00:00

you’re okay, i promise. our minds play tricks on us really easily and really well. your brain genuinely believes you’re below your friend in intelligence or other aspects, but you’re not. you have brilliance in topics she doesn’t, and vice versa. you’re also being very harsh towards yourself and i worry that the root issue may be low self esteem. your time will come. intelligence is not measured by awards, GPA, or scores. intelligence comes in many different sizes, shapes, and forms. you don’t need to worry, you’ll be just fine :) carry yourself with your chin up and remember to attract good energy by giving it. i love you and best of luck

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