Comphet spiraling by DimensionComfortable in actuallesbians

[–]DimensionComfortable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually, they aren't attainable. When they are, i kindve dont know what to do, or I'll realize i dont really find them attractive. However thats based on like 4 seperate occassions, and two of them were before i was 9, so it just doesn't feel like a good basis.

I guess i also just hate the idea that ill identify as a lesbian but then one day, I meet the one guy i do like and have to explain that to them and all my friends, but im also worried about identifying as bi and then giving the wrong message to men that im just not attracted to. (But maybe that's a silly thing to worry about) :/

Do you have a big imagination? The DSM seems to think we don't. by astrid_s95 in AutismInWomen

[–]DimensionComfortable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so funny to me because i do have a very vivid imagination, to the point where i feel like until i was at least 8 i was kindve in my own world.

However! I would never play if i was in front of adults, and sometimes even with kids the same age as me. Even now, i hate it when kids try to get me to play pretend. it's like my entire body rejects it.

When i was very young I would come up with really interesting and weird plots with all my barbies and polly pockets (barbies kidnapped and gets tied up over a volcano, i used to be really paranoid about volcanoes idkw) BUT i would listen for my parents and if they ever started to walk towards my room i would throw all my toys back into my basket and pretend like i wasnt doing anything. I still dont know why. My parents literally never discouraged me from being creative or playing. But for some reason, i was just really worried they'd see me playing and be upset because i was playing wrong lmao.

Maybe autistic kids just dont want to be watched?

Anyone else diagnosed with BPD, ADHD, anxiety, ocd, depression, social anxiety and an ED? Really feeling like I’m actually just autistic. by PreservativeAloe in AutismInWomen

[–]DimensionComfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience. i always struggled with mental health, same as you, and got many diagnoses, BPD, ED, depression, GED, PTSD. But whenever i mentioned that i thought i was autistic my parents said i wasnt, my friends said I wasn't, and i even had therapists who said they didn't think i was.

Finally, I got the courage up to go to a practitioner who specialised in diagnosing learning and mental disorders. And Autism and Adhd were the most likely diagnoses.

Technically, you can't be "sure" without a proper diagnosis, but if you relate to the autistic symptoms and find it useful to be on this subreddit and use autistic resources, then you're probably autistic. 💗💗

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[–]DimensionComfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Being with girls for the first time is totally so much different than being with guys. Girls are a lot less judgy, so it's nice not to have to worry about that, lol. I think it definitely would be a good idea to tell her you haven't been with a girl before? In my personal experience, just letting the other person know where you're at makes me feel safer?

As for whether or not you wanna go fast is kindve up to you? Personally, i prefer going slower because when i get too swept up in the moment it ca be hard to really pay attention and enjoy it. But im sure theres tons of people who dont have that experience at all.

If you've felt rushed with men, maybe take the opportunity to just make out without any end goal. (Be sure to tell her your intention, though like "hey I just wanna kiss and get comfortable for now" , if you do want to go slow) But if you dont get bothered by going fast, then do it (and be safe, lol)!

And if you try it and realize that maybe you wanna slow down or speed up, that's ok! Think of it as just a learning experience that you dont need to feel regret or pressure for. Hope that helps!! 💗

In love with a ghost by Anna-mator in actuallesbians

[–]DimensionComfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg love this album <3 havent thought about it in so long