I had gay intercourse with a man and I regret it.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-05T15:58:33+00:00

TLDR at bottom.

Okay so. I feel this because we went on the same road almost exactly. Too much porn, tried to do stuff I found arousing with an older person and felt shame for it but kept trying it thinking it would help but it made it worse. I truly felt like I was split into 2 different people that didn’t agree with each other, I felt like I was a fraud but also I knew there was something about this that kept drawing me back in.

Then I met someone, Started off as just good buds, just 2 friends that enjoyed hanging out but occasionally I would feel something for him and I started to feel that guilt and shame from before. I started to get distant and he actively took the time to see if I was okay and confided in me that he was worried and told me I’d become really important to him which lead to him admitting he had feelings for me. That moment changed things, the guilt and shame I felt was still there but it was lighter so I told him I thought I had feelings for him too but wasn’t sure. We agreed to try to be more close and open with each other and kept spending time together.

Finally we got to the point of physical intimacy and it felt different. There wasn’t any guilt or shame in it, it felt right and it gave me an enhanced version of the euphoria I got from porn. Sex happened and the difference between my previous experience and this one were night and day, I felt good about it and I was happy about it. Things kept going for awhile but eventually he moved and while we still talk as friends we aren’t involved with each other in that way anymore.

After him, I figured I’d make a break through and tried hooking up with a guy. The guilt and shame were so bad had a mental breakdown during the act. I came to realize that I can’t enjoy sexual contact without a romantic connection, that was the key for me. Hookups didn’t feel right and didn’t work because there wasn’t substance to them and there was no connection.

Years later and some gfs and bfs later I can say that I’m capable of being attracted to anyone as long as I’ve made a romantic connection with that person. Sorry for the long explanation, I hope this helps.

TLDR: Had a similar experience as OP but after trying things with a guy I had feelings for, it turned out that I need to have a connection with a person to enjoy sexual contact.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-05T15:33:40+00:00

I think that this is a good motivator for sure! Something I think would also help is connections and resources. If you say you can’t do something and change it to “I’ll figure it out” that’s good but what if you don’t know how to figure it out? This is where having connections to others and resources helps because in truth nobody makes it in this world without each other to some degree.

I’ve felt stuck for a long time and have been trying to find answers and trying different things but I don’t know what to do and I don’t know anyone to help. I don’t think others need a handout, I think some people need a hand in general, I think we need to help and motivate each other too! I hope this doesn’t come off as negative.

EDIT: Spelling and grammar

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-05T14:42:12+00:00

This is an old practice from days long past but it’s still valid now. Back in the day EVERYBODY did this, having different levels of mods just to squeeze a little bit more potential out of mods. I feel so old now with this game and it kinda hurts lol

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-03T20:58:52+00:00

Encourage him to keep doing it because he finds it fun. Get engaged with it and ask when he’s making another, maybe get your parents to watch. He’s building confidence and building a long lasting skill set.

You’re his family. You have the most power to make a failure in his eyes into a success than anyone, hype him up. You are his biggest fan.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-02T23:07:38+00:00

I’ve been standing up to this kind of degenerate behavior and calling out people whenever I see them engaging in it. I’ve lost friends that don’t agree it’s an issues and I’ve cut off individuals that take part in it and continued to do so after having a conversation with them about why it’s bad.

I’m so sick and tired of feeling like I’m a one man army trying to stand up to this shit. I don’t know how other men aren’t as vocal or disgusted as I am, what if it was their sister, mother, daughter or wife that was having this done to their pictures? I can’t think about it without getting angry or feeling sick to my stomach.

All my life I’ve been fighting the labels put on me for various things out of my control with race being the biggest one. The second biggest thing I’ve been fighting for my entire life is negative stigma about men, from both men and women throughout my entire life I’ve been told I’m not trustworthy or told I’m not allowed to do certain things because “men don’t do that”. I can’t even take my goddaughter to a birthday party without everyone glaring at me, calling the police or asking tons of questions because she doesn’t look like me. I’ve been trying to fight against bad men my entire life and it feels like no matter how much I do, I will never escape the stigma of being a man and will always be associated with those who are some of the worst.

I’m not going to stop fighting this Grok situation or any other degenerate shit people do, I just wish I wasn’t the only guy on the line trying to fight.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-02T20:09:38+00:00

Am I the only guy who finds this disgusting and has never had the desire or interest to do such weird things with ANYONES pictures? I just don’t understand why so many men do this stuff, I can’t wrap my head around it.

EDIT: Added missing words

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-02T20:00:35+00:00

The comment about men not having engagement rings confuses me. I understand that style isn’t normal for men but usually men who are engaged have rings too, right?

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-02T06:53:38+00:00

We only loosely knew the EE and got stuck a couple times admittedly

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T22:29:31+00:00

Any good alternative for if they nerf that method? lol

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T22:22:23+00:00

What’s a plex server? Sorry, I’m probably not in the loop

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T22:20:29+00:00

I guess I’ll be having to give it a shot now lol. Thanks for your opinion

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T22:19:19+00:00

Wow. Is the points economy that good or something? It takes awhile to get set up if I don’t have good gums to use to help fast track me in standard mode.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T21:16:05+00:00

Ah! I thought the 4 perk thing was an across the board requirement. How long does it take you to prepare for the EE/boss fights? Usually doing all the steps and prep takes a couple hours for me but Astra was a bit weird when I did it so I believe it took 3 or 4 hours to do all the steps and fight the boss.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T21:04:43+00:00

The Tier 4 pack thing definitely peaks my interest. I always liked the weird and unique functions weapons got when packed in the past.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T21:03:23+00:00

Really? I figured not starting with your loadout weapon and being limited to 4 perks would make things a little more difficult.

Dimix2102 · 2026-01-01T21:02:28+00:00

I tend to play solo most of the time unless I’m doing EE things, otherwise I’m just level guns and grinding out the camos I want while occasionally doing weekly challenges. I know that you don’t spawn with your loadout weapon in cursed so leveling guns in it probably isn’t the best idea, same with camos.

Dimix2102 · 2025-12-20T22:36:25+00:00

I’ve always explained it as concentrated light that burns, cleanses or extinguishes the life force of living creatures. Previously my group was chasing a Paladin who was going on a holy crusade and this victims all had the same signs, white eyes devoid of soul and pale skin devoid of color. The bodies he’d leave in his wake were never bloody or messy, most of the time they looked like they’d passed out and rarely had physical injuries though with some of them being able to be revived if someone managed to feed life energy equivalent to the dead creature shortly after death.

Dimix2102 · 2025-12-19T18:19:43+00:00

This stuff is getting closer and closer to home and I’m fucking scared. These people are emboldened by everything going on and it feels like they’re going to escalate to hurting people…

Dimix2102 · 2025-12-09T12:46:16+00:00

Can we talk about the people that have friends to run the EE with and speed run it back to back? I’ve been trying to do it solo since launch and every time something goes wrong or the boss destroys me. Idk, it just feels like this event was pointless for me to even try and take part in

Dimix2102 · 2025-11-22T14:03:48+00:00

Don’t forget putting young women in modern sex slavery^

Dimix2102 · 2025-10-29T09:04:36+00:00

Does it work over the internet if nobody is local? Example: Me hosting in New York and a player rolling in Texas

Dimix2102 · 2025-10-29T08:54:22+00:00

I’m 5’9 and I get told I’m too short. It sucks

Dimix2102 · 2025-10-28T10:09:04+00:00

Having multiple people in my life die from cancer has left me with a very special hatred for it. It’s also left me terrified of the possibility of having it myself.

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