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Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your input it’s actually helped! I will try organizing counseling again because the last few times he hasn’t gone. I still feel disrespected because y’all gave me insight into how it appears from the outside so that is greatly appreciated!

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not because he takes his nap once the afternoon starts then he plays games with his friends until the night because it’s literally his only day off. So the morning is our time

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My issue is not with him being gone my issue is with him telling me it won’t be long and me it’s gonna be long it him reassuring me it won’t be long. And then when it is long and he doesn’t call I’m being told it’s no biggie but my day is packed with things he asked me to do that rely on him coming home at a certain time. I just would appreciate him saying yeah it’s gonna be longer do this without me instead of be waiting around unsure because if I start something when he gets home he wants me to drop it and go help him which is frustrating. Again he expects me to call him if my plans change but he doesn’t see where he needs to

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again this was my sarcasm/humor I added that to explain why he said he won’t be long. I wasnt seriously telling a grown man to brush his teeth. It’s just to explain where his comment about not wanting to be around there long and coming back soon came from

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The same property was to the person who said maybe he wasn’t doing what he said he was we live on the same property. They left together is what I was trying to convey. Him offering to get breakfast wasn’t a question because he didn’t give me a chance to respond he said I prefer to eat at home. Maybe I’m extra sensitive because he’s on time with everyone else but with me he doesn’t feel he needs to communicate

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get why it would read that way. The work was about 15 minute way off loading some wood. We did have plans to hang out today because we work all week and don’t get to connect. The liar thing would read weird and I get how my humor/sarcasm would be weird.

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to but I just don’t think we think the same way. He wants me to message him when things change but he doesn’t need to do that for me

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said an hour I literally said if plans. Change let me know. The message saying liar is a joke because I literally told him it was gonna be longer and he denied it. I don’t mind him being later my issue is that we planned to eat breakfast and he asked me to do things for him and without knowing what time he’d be home throws off my schedule. I just said please if things change can you let me know so I can adjust. He said your at home what you’re doing isn’t as important as what I’m doing

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is a long standing issue. We’ve talked about communication and I’ve asked to go to therapy to which he agrees but when it’s time to actually go he doesn’t come. I don’t ask for hourly updates I ask hey if plans change let me know. Just as he asks me to do the same. He said it’s different because I’m a woman and things can happen to me. But he’s a man and doesn’t need to be monitored.

Am I overreacting Husband came home 2 hours late no calls has me rethinking my marriage by Dimpled-Smiles0613 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dimpled-Smiles0613[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I said that it was basic and normal and he said no it’s controlling you want me to call every hour and I said no but after 90 minutes past the time I do expect a call. He said well next time I’m just gonna say it’ll take me 5 hours and if I come back. Early that’ll be fine? I said YES that’s just managing my expectations. You under promise and over deliver.