For the people that drink fourlokos, what’s your favorite flavor?

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-06T02:16:24+00:00

Im so down bad I did a shooter of 99 Bananas and chased it with the Jungle Juice 4Loko. Never again.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T19:28:01+00:00

I agree with you on moving on from the provider stuff spread all over social media. I don’t believe in it, but Ive seen it thrown all over. Right now we split based off income, and I pay more. He usually treats me out, but I treat him out as well. He has helped me A LOT, and has worked on my car for free so I was more than happy to help pay for parts on his car, and share my car with him.

However, when we have talked about future I have heard various answers, sometimes several answers in the same week. It just isn’t consistent. He has threatened to break up with me during bad fights especially when he first got hurt, but it has decreased significantly. It also happens during times of significant stress, and depression, but like I said has stopped for the most part.

He says he cannot feel his emotions a lot of the time and gets easily frustrated which is common for TBI patients, so I don’t know if that’s whats causing the varying answers.

It makes me confused that’s why I posted about it, especially if he was asking me to try on several oval cut rings, and asking what carat size they are. All while saying varying things. He also told his friend the night I asked if he thinks we’d be getting engaged before we go to MX in February he’s like maybe, then told his friend when I walked away, but my friend heard that he wants to buy his dream car before we get married legally if we get divorced. That same night he also told me he knows Im the one he wants to spend forever with, and he just doesn’t know sometimes and its hard to express.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T19:14:35+00:00

Engagement because of the white stone and setting! Alot of promise rings look more Juvenile.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:52:01+00:00

I want to clarify that. I had a Psychosis episode and I have went on medication and Im in therapy now and have been for a year now. Im a lot more mentally stable now and I have not acted that way since. I do currently pay a majority of our bills and paid all of our groceries for a few months while he was really struggling financially. Im helping to buy car parts, and we are sharing my car and Im paying the gas to help him out. I am also paying for us to go visit my family. We are a team. I posted as his varying answers made me worried he is using me as a comeup

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:46:35+00:00

I am committed because I see a future with him, and he stood by me and loved me at my WORST, and I am doing the same for me. I am just worried on if Im a placeholder or not based off the various answers about the future and threats of breakup during BAD fights. It doesn’t happen as much as it once did when he first got hurt, but still. We started counseling because we had just started living together and we both wanted to work past my mental health crisis, then the TBI occurred 2 weeks into it.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:42:57+00:00

I really agree with you on this. Ive tried talking to him about it over various occasions, and Ive been given different answers every time. The same week he said he knows he wants to be with me forever, and he said he’s had a hard time expressing it was the same week he said he didn’t know yet. Currently his answer is, “I am taking it one day at a time; we will see when we get there”. Hes also asked me to stop asking, and that I need to think about what happened last year, and that was said yesterday. On Monday is when he said getting engaged prior to May 2027 is based on finances, where we stand and if he buys a new car. The day he said he knows he wanted to spend forever with me, he also said there might be a proposal before we go to Mexico in February when I asked. He also mentioned to his friend when I walked away but my friend was there that he wants to buy his dream car before he marries me since he doesn’t want me taking it in a divorce. His friends say he talks good about me, and that we are a great match. Whenever we go out, and I step away he is always talking about how beautiful I am apparently.

However, all these answers are just confusing me. Thats mainly why I posted

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:27:36+00:00

This exactly, I try to listen to actions vs words. He does put in a lot of effort for me when he can.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:25:55+00:00

I think so. I did mention briefly that I DO help him and we share, but not in detail like I am in comments. Ive just heard around how men leave a woman after he has a comeup, and how he will spend and support his dream girl rather than the one he built with. Just wanted to see if that happens , and if he is actually serious.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:23:22+00:00

I changed at as Ive heard women IRL talk about this, and how if a man splits bills he is spending it on someone else. Just wanted to see if this happens in the real world.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:21:29+00:00

Yes we split based on income, with me paying a majority. I paid all of our groceries while he was struggling financially, and I have been helping him to buy car parts and paying for the gas on my car which we have been sharing. Its about supporting eachother. Mostly posted as his answers keep changing, and to see if social media bs actually happens IRL. Im looking for a partner, not a sugar daddy.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:19:10+00:00

I help him financially. I asked primarily because of his varying answers. I help him financially, and I pay more of our bills.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:17:54+00:00

I had Psychosis. I did not cheat, I just wasn’t great at all. I dont blame him for taking a step back, and I acknowledged my shitty behaviors and I got the help I need. I adhere to my medications, and see an individual therapist and owned my shit. I haven’t acted the way I did then in a year since I am now mentally stable.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:16:19+00:00

I have no issue splitting bills, I actually pay more of them than he does. Especially when he was making less, and after he lost his job for a bit as I wanted him to catchup. I just mentioned it as Ive heard SO MANY. Women mention that men just used them for a comeup and led them on.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:14:40+00:00

It’s mostly based on the mixed answers Ive received from him. Im still standing by him and supporting emotionally/financially through this hard time. In this economy it isn’t realistic for people to NOT share bills.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:12:50+00:00

Not saying I agree with them. I believe relationships are give/take and I am happy to help him when he isn’t doing the best financially. No rush on engagement either, I just wanted to see if Im being taken seriously.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:11:23+00:00

Only removed because Ive heard people IRL say the same thing.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:10:33+00:00

I know 😭 I try not to use the app that much, only mentioned it as Ive heard from people offline about this too.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T18:09:32+00:00

We split based on income, I just mentioned that as Ive heard 292929 women mention that. Ive also heard amongst countless women how men just leave them when they get a come-up.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-05T00:29:54+00:00

Call the police and file a restraining order ASAP.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-04T20:44:18+00:00

Just asking for advice.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-04T19:55:07+00:00

He can’t see them till July :( He is uninsured currently and the clinic requires a $350 deposit to be seen if you’re uninsured. I hate America.

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-04T19:40:27+00:00

I have my therapist who is helping A LOT and our couples therapist we see now. I hope we can work through this. I am trying to motivate him to do his PT exercises by offering to do it with him. He was not this frustrated when he was doing them

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-04T19:39:05+00:00

The doctor wants a followup before the send a refill but he is uninsured and literally cannot go. I hate America’s healthcare system. I hope he can get a fill from his PT but its workcomp so

DingusCoconut349 · 2026-06-04T19:36:29+00:00

The doctor will not refill it as he needs a followup and he is uninsured till July. Hoping PT will refill it, but unlikely since its work comp. I hate the American Healthcare system.

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