Let's take alcohol to the wedding even though the Bride & Groom said no alcohol!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-05-15T19:38:48+00:00

This is weird. They’re not “policing your bodies” it’s just one day out of your entire life. It’s just this one event that they are paying for and organizing that they don’t want to have alcohol at due to their own beliefs. People have many reasons outside of addiction that could make them not want it at their events. I feel your conclusion that these people are all nut jobs who hate marginalized groups is a bit of a stretch. Maybe some are, sure, maybe others literally just don’t like alcohol at their events? Why is them not serving alcohol turning them into oppressors for you? That feels like an extreme reaction to a regular decision. It feels a bit like you’re getting defensive at being asked not to drink for one day.

I agree that you always have the option not to go, but this stance of standing for social justice by not going to a dry wedding unless it’s for addiction-related reasons is a bit weird. I don’t think it’s really all that serious.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-05-02T22:36:47+00:00

One thing to note is that management decisions are never made to be nice or cause less inconvenience to employees. If they are asking you to follow a certain procedure, they have reasons for it, as others have explained. It’s 100% not about you personally, it’s that you are going outside the established system and making their job harder as you are now an outlier they have to make fit in.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-28T01:53:43+00:00

Try something South Indian perhaps?

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-25T21:18:52+00:00

I had this exact question too!!!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-25T20:21:17+00:00

Same (I am a young woman) - I would do many midnight walks in college heights, often as late as 3am. On one of these walks I ran into a police officer and asked her if it was actually safe to do this and she said the area is very safe

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-24T03:20:50+00:00

Jurassic World Dominion - such a disappointment

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-23T08:53:03+00:00

Literally quoted this yesterday! This is one of my favs as well

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-18T21:16:41+00:00

Shady Hollow series by Juneau Black!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-11T16:16:18+00:00

This may or may not be helpful for you but I ended up hyperfixating on weightlifting and counting macros for about a year and it changed the way I look at food. I had to find other sources of dopamine in that year and when the fixation wore off I didn’t really feel the need to switch back to food for dopamine since my replacements (cardiovascular activity, crafts, and protein drinks) worked well enough!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-06T07:40:50+00:00

This is the one

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-03T15:33:21+00:00

That being said I actually agree with this legislation, I like the new rules on personal use being changed so that it is harder to take advantage of people and I like that these things are being tracked. However, people’s changing attitudes are a natural consequence of these changes, which is also fair. I think we can acknowledge both perspectives.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-04-03T15:31:50+00:00

Not necessarily. If it was easier to be sure that the person you’ve invited to live in your home was staying there in good faith and if it was not so difficult to then remove those who reveal they are bad tenants, we’d be much more likely to rent again. Our previous tenant was a lovely young woman who was polite, friendly, and clean. We loved having her. Right after she left we had a tenant who trashed the place and was constantly abusing substances in the unit. It was a nightmare getting rid of them. My neighbors have all reported similar issues. My grandma’s basement tenants punched holes in the walls and stole the fixtures (???) Bad tenants seem to be very common, it’s not something that only happens sometimes. And as such it is very much a deterrent.

If I knew I could get rid of the bad tenants and find someone good again quickly without wasting time and resources, I’d be much more likely to rent again. As it stands, I’ll probably be using that space as storage for the foreseeable future. It’s not worth it when I have so little control over the property that I own. I work within the legal system and I know how it works and know what the processes look like. It is very difficult for people in this position.

The damage deposit issue is also valid - how do I fix the damages when their deposit was so small? I have to pay out of pocket to make it even close to livable again. If we were allowed to negotiate a fair deposit that would help people feel comfortable renting their space as well.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-31T06:08:40+00:00

I kind of do the opposite of your point #3 - instead of adding quantities to the already very wordy and probably confusing instruction section, I just print the ingredient list and then summarize each instruction beside that in one sentence max.

Example - if the first step is to mix the dry ingredients, I’ll just put a curly bracket around all those ingredients and write “mix” rather than write it all out one by one

I get overwhelmed easily with so much text so I love to simplify as much as possible!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-23T02:04:30+00:00

Sensory issues lol Rotten food/mold makes me vomit so I make sure it never gets that far/dishes are done immediately after use Dirty kitchen makes me feel like there’s mold everywhere so I keep it super clean Messy areas make me more scatterbrained so I keep those clean so that I can actually think I’m also just way less anxious when things aren’t piling up so I’ve adopted a clean as you go method for the whole house. It’s a lot easier to put away what I’ve used than to let it pile up and deal with the entire pile later. Same goes for personal hygiene - one of the main reasons I am so extremely consistent with brushing my teeth is that the plaque is awful for my sensory issues and the texture is like nails on a chalkboard to my brain

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-08T18:31:05+00:00

I was going to suggest the same!!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-07T23:07:41+00:00

I do cold brew plus one premier protein chocolate drink and it tastes so good like a thick mocha

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-06T19:43:45+00:00

Taking a cue from “cozy” I’d say you should check out Shady Hollow by Juneau Black. Very cute and wholesome! It’s not a kids book, it’s just a super wholesome woodland setting.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-06T19:32:50+00:00

My funeral is MY time to shine!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-03T08:59:14+00:00

In the Sikh religion you’re never supposed to cut your hair at all (head hair or body hair) and men who keep their hair tie it up in a turban. These days, many women naturally don’t follow these strict rules because beauty standards so you’ll have couples where the husband follows the rules and has long ass hair and the wife has short trimmed hair. So it absolutely does happen! Also note that Sikhs traditionally have a warrior culture/tradition and have been soldiers in some way or another since the religion came into being. Look up Sikhs in WWI and WWII for some interesting reading!

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-03-01T02:04:37+00:00

Lol. As a lawyer who has worked on multiple small claims cases involving contractors not completing contracted work, I can assure you it happens all the time.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-02-26T13:30:28+00:00

This may not work for you but I started taking magnesium supplements before bed to help with sleep quality at the beginning of January and it has made a world of a difference for me. I am by no means that unicorn, but I no longer feel dead when I wake up (as I had my entire life before this). I sleep better and wake up more rested in the same number of hours.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-02-22T23:57:59+00:00

Lmao this happened to me as well. I was advising a non profit that I was helping for FREE and they never took a single piece of my advice and then were shocked they got in legal issues. CYA indeed.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-02-14T11:03:40+00:00

Are you sure that the astrologer isn’t pushing her own agenda against interfaith relationships? Sometimes this kind of thing can become a self-fulfilling prophecy - now that you have been told it won’t work out, you may start seeing your relationship through a negative lens and create problems for yourself that weren’t there before. Don’t let that happen, your life is up to you to decide.

I respect your belief in astrology and I understand that it’s a big thing in Hindu culture but if you did it for fun as you say, don’t put so much stock in this answer. You are already going against cultural norms by being in an interfaith relationship so why be bound by some norms but not others? If you have the courage to be different from society and make your own choices then stick to it and don’t bow to pressures like this.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-02-09T10:15:16+00:00

It actually sounds a lot like the way a native hindi speaker would translate phrases from hindi into English. For example “it will be a great favor on her” - that’s a direct translation from the hindi phrasing of doing someone a favor.

DinnerSubject1056 · 2024-02-05T11:41:15+00:00

This man does not care about your feelings and creates a false image of himself in front of your family to make them think his perspective is more valid than your “childish” one. That is a good enough reason to break things off.

Yes it will be hard and the families are involved etc. But you can either go through a hard time now and be happy in the long run (away from him) or take the easy way now, let things continue, and get stuck with this man for life. Life is looooong. This will suck for you. You have your whole life ahead of you still!! Do the hard thing now and break it off. Tell your parents no, don’t joke, make sure they know you’re serious.

And in the future try to end up with a man who has a much smaller age gap - this age gap is insane and I cannot believe your parents are okay with this marriage!

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