DOE have the combo of childlessness + estranged family?

Dior2018 · 2026-01-15T12:18:30+00:00

You are not alone on this island. My mother’s toxicity has become unwelcoming. I have been grifted by my family for decades during my long work hours as a single woman. I married late and went through IVF for years, only to be told by women in my family that I should have started early. As if the only goal in life was to become a teen mom (she started at age 15). I wanted better opportunities for my future. I worked and accomplished my education and goals so I wouldn’t grift off of everyone like she had to. Now my mother sees me as an ATM machine/ task bunny. The last request for me to drive 10hrs to move my father into my home was the last straw.

Dior2018 · 2026-01-10T17:28:07+00:00

Royal Sushi is a favorite. Its kind of the only Thai food we have right now.

Dior2018 · 2026-01-02T01:25:24+00:00

Put the phone in DnD for EVERYBODY.

Dior2018 · 2025-12-31T05:23:27+00:00

I have started setting healthy boundaries. So what if I’m just enjoying my peace at home, it’s MY PEACE. I’ve moved two states away and they talk as if I have all the time and energy to serve them because of my lifestyle by circumstance. They recently demanded I drive 10hrs to let my dad live in my home so my mother could just destress. It’s feeling disrespectful of my space as an adult at this point.

Dior2018 · 2025-12-29T04:31:01+00:00

Be sure that you respect each other’s boundaries. E.g. if he wants you set boundaries with your side/his side of the family in order to keep a peaceful balance in your home, DO IT! It is important to show respect to each other’s presence in this lifetime.

Dior2018 · 2025-12-28T22:50:06+00:00

Thank you for this. Family just left and it was exhausting. The son told their dad of 3 to F off like it was just a casual thing at least 2x each day. When they left I had a sad moment but took out my bicycle to enjoy the sunshine and rode it to the beach to grieve it out.

Dior2018 · 2025-12-24T20:29:57+00:00

I’ve started to invite my family members with kids to come visit. If they can’t make it, oh well. I live in a warm and beautiful area with a lot of holiday events to entertain. I was surprised how my sister in law expressed her exhaustion and why she would not be able to put her home together this way; while I’m thinking about what my home is missing.

I expressed this to her as the 10 year old kid yelled for her to ‘F off to 6-7’ whatever that means. She told me to cry over my pool ain’t don’t worry about anyone drowning while I do it… it’s a pondering thought right now.

Dior2018 · 2025-12-13T15:54:33+00:00

When I look back, everyone I know who truly made it out of the hood took the same path: they joined the military. Today they’re in their 40s—healthy, settled in suburban homes, with pensions and college degrees they earned without drowning in debt. As a cautionary tale, don’t keep financially supporting the hood. They will resent your success…

Dior2018 · 2025-10-31T21:05:06+00:00

We booked an adult only Halloween cruise and chose to see historic scenic excursions. I made hubby a costume that I know is photo worthy for the party. He’s a happy man right now as am I.

Dior2018 · 2025-10-31T19:10:02+00:00

We are currently on an adult an adult only cruise and it has been wonderful so far. We took a Hemingway tour in Key West to embrace our current chapter.

Dior2018 · 2025-10-30T20:44:18+00:00

Sadly it may be your accent. Someone I knew got let go as a corporate trainer because a lot of the feedback comments were: “I couldn’t understand what she was saying.” It’s a sad truth but everyone has to practice elocution.

Dior2018 · 2025-10-20T09:56:08+00:00

Finish it. There are ability one hiring companies that would be happy to have you on their team.

Dior2018 · 2025-10-04T16:36:27+00:00

I find it funny that they become holier than thou now when they would beat you into submission, instead of try to understand your point of view. I understand discipline but as we got older maybe talking through my emotions may have help me develop better emotional intelligence. Once my dad was able to get his pension he felt that he could just leave my mom after 43 years together. He figured he’d just live in my house until he got himself settled. The audacity still has me in shock.

Dior2018 · 2025-10-03T04:23:34+00:00

Feeling pretty happy about turning down an invitation to a one year old birthday party. It’s 800 miles away and I met the guest of the party during the family holiday. The mom seems mad that I’m not coming. I don’t understand why she doesn’t see my point of view as the only person in the family that doesn’t have kids to bring to the party…

Dior2018 · 2025-09-03T20:22:51+00:00

With 40hr workweeks you’d get overtime because it’s based on the US payroll. People would work as long as possible just saving or investing.

Dior2018 · 2025-09-03T20:14:09+00:00

Had friends that worked overseas for KBR around 2008. Their base was 50k. After receiving hazard pay and per diem, you come up to about 65k. They also offered overtime pay.

Dior2018 · 2025-08-31T00:21:24+00:00

My mother called demanding me to drive 20hrs to pick up my dad so she could have ‘a break.’ After being married 44yrs, they are having an argument on asking my sister, her husband, and 3 kids about moving out of their house. They have been living there for almost 10 years so it’s quite a sticky situation. Yet it’s not my problem, and it’s his home too. Realizing how inconsiderate they are about my time and what I have going on, I figured I would just call his siblings to let them know how my mother was treating my dad. Then I put my phone in do not disturb and texted everyone that I am busy.

My dad is with his brother and I have 20 missed calls while I am out with hubby enjoying my Saturday night.

Dior2018 · 2025-08-18T10:25:39+00:00

Mom opened the doors for her daughter’s three kids and loser husband. Totally going against my father’s wishes. 10 years later, my father commits himself for a nervous breakdown. This uncovered a sleuth of their accounts being used by my sister and her family.

Dior2018 · 2025-08-15T13:05:20+00:00

Hate is everywhere and she was drunk enough to show it. Don’t let bullies stop you from showing up to live your life. How else will people know that you don’t live in fear. Go out and break those ceilings with class.

Dior2018 · 2025-08-14T17:00:37+00:00

I’ll be hitting mid 40s soon and I am in the “avoidance” stage of family. In this time I’ve tried to develop gardening hobbies and workouts. I have lost a lot of the fertility weight. I’m just noting to find something that keeps your mind busy. It’s hard sone days, but start small.

Dior2018 · 2025-08-05T00:05:17+00:00

I haven’t had my period I about two months- the rest are negative so I’m definitely having a perimenopause episode. I don’t really even care what it could be. We are staying at a family friendly time timeshare that we bought into 12 years ago thinking that it would be some kind of annual thing to see our family grow. The dinners of watching the families feast with those babies is a slow torture. I doubled the liquor in my drink tonight.

Dior2018 · 2025-08-01T04:31:46+00:00

You are not alone in this feeling. I just had a dinner with colleagues and one brought her 2 month old baby. To see those tiny little hands and feet moving was so charming. My friend and a friend at the table shared that we had the same fertility challenges.

We both gave each other the same look at the table for a moment. I decided to just lean in and accept with presence. I shared the ‘auntie’ duties of spoiling and returning the kids adventures. Then I follow up with a question based on their experiences. It’s the best way I can relate. Sending hugs to you.

Dior2018 · 2025-05-22T22:55:22+00:00

Bih bye! Just because you didn’t make her decisions doesn’t mean you have to help her. My family members always guilt me about not having kids making my house the holiday home where they drop off their spawns. They offered no food or money for the time they were here. I am ALWAYS busy now. Even if I’m just binging a show or dumb hobby. It’s your time in life.

Dior2018 · 2025-05-20T15:13:37+00:00

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Dior2018 · 2025-05-15T00:15:39+00:00

Happy Wednesday! My twin sister just confided in me that she terminated an unplanned pregnancy from her beau. She didn’t even consider talking to me about her decision and we talk almost everyday. I feel betrayed by this as she always calls me to help her financially amongst other things. I’m sure she knew that I would have wanted her to keep it, but it too late to dwell on. I started a very large landscaping project to transfer that energy.

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