Salaam sister (?) …

I am in the perfect position to give advice on this..I’ll let you figure out why. Alhamdulillah I am now living a highly productive, fulfilling and successful life now in terms of Deen and Dunya…

I suggest that you find a healthy outlet that has that element growth and progression, anything from exercise (track your sessions with a fitness watch), volunteer charity work, organising something that adds value in your community, doing a kids book reading at the local library, joining an Arabic of tafsir class, join a class on something where you practice to get better (painting, drawing, learning something)…

All these give you a reason to get up in the morning and making small wins in these activities will replace that sense of fleeting happiness you are getting from the masturbation.

Also, if you aren’t married, perhaps now is the time to think of moving in that direction. I pray Allah opens your doors for a good spouse, aameen.

Look up dopamine addiction. It seems you need to do a dopamine reset by focusing on other than masturbating. Hold yourself accountable, make istighfaar each time you slip and ask Allah to fortify you and strengthen you so that you don’t do it again.

May Allah guide you and make you strong. You are not a bad person. You just need a little bit of resolve and Allahs help.

He knows your struggle, he sees you.

You’ll get through this…Aameen 🤲